"I recognize that craving such an outward appearance is utterly prideful. The Spirit reminds me to find my identity in Christ, not in a facade of capability and certainly not in others' opinions of me. Oh, how difficult this is for an approval-addicted, over-achieving, "gee, I hope she likes me" kind of gal such as I. I must swim crosscurrent and make life choices, not for the crowd, but rather and rightly only--as my Bible-teacher friend Wendy Pope states at the close of all her emails--"for an audience of One."