In my experience, high-achievers focus a great deal on becoming the person they want to be at work--and far too little on the person they want to be at home. Investing our time and energy in raising wonderful children or deepening our love with our spouse often doesn't return clear evidence of success for many years. What this leads us to is over-investing in our careers, and under-investing in our families--starving one of the most important parts of our life of the resources it needs to flourish. It should be becoming clear that the answers to all three of our questions are deeply connected. Try as you might, it's very hard to wall off different parts of your life. Your career priorities--the motivators that will make you happy at work--are simply one part of a broader set of priorities in your life, priorities that include your family, your friends, your faith, your health, and so on. Similarly, the way you balance your plans with unanticipated opportunities, and allocate your resources--your time and energy--does not stop when you walk out the door of your office. You're making decisions about these every moment of your life. You will be constantly pressured, both at home and at work, to give people and projects your attention. How do you decide who gets what? Whoever makes the most noise? Whoever grabs you first? You have to make sure that you allocate your resources in a way that is consistent with your priorities. You have to make sure that your own measures of success are aligned with your most important concern. And you have to make sure that you're thinking about all these in the right time frame--overcome the natural tendency to focus on the short term at the expense of the long term. It