"Alexander also controlled me. Made me do things I didn't want to do." "Isn't that kind of the job of a parent?" Elvi asked, and then said, "Not the controlling part, but making the kid do things they don't want to do. Although," she said thoughtfully, "even the controlling part is something parents have to do too, only it's usually done with rewards, grounding, and threats of punishment rather than straight-up taking control."