If, on the other hand, you're in a relationship and you're not having a good time, honey, it's time to hit the road. Don't let that dream package--dress, ring, cake, ceremony, handsome man, children--turn into a blindfold. As Grits, instinct is our greatest asset. You know it when you're getting less than you deserve, and there's no teaching old dogs new tricks. If he's not putting up, it's who should be shutting up--shutting up shop and movin' on to the next town, that is!