"After a few more weeks of equally uninspired gatherings, I called David. "You're focusing on the wrong thing," he said. "The purpose of the meeting is not to talk about each of you as individuals. It's to focus on how you're functioning as a family." He was right. When else did we discuss this most basic thing: how we were a family. We redesigned our questions: 1. What worked well in our family this week? 2. What went wrong in our family this week? 3. What will we work on this coming week?"