"There are times in most relationships when one partner is mystified by the other's behavior: "You're crazy. You keep doing the same things over and over, and it's totally unproductive!" Or, "I am totally confused by you. You make no sense." "I'm surprised that you're going to accept that promotion. You are far too busy already." There are also times when you are triggered by something your partner does or by your partner's repetitive behavior. Knowing something about your childhoods will help you understand that."