"1. Just Keep Breathing Lauren told me that after Bob died, she couldn't imagine getting through the rest of her life without him. She told herself she just needed to get through the next year, which would be the hardest one, but that was too overwhelming. Little by little, she kept reducing the length of time she needed to get through in order to make it. A month was too daunting; even a week or a day felt like too much. Finally, she realized that all she had to do at any given moment was just keep breathing and eventually she would make it through. "Just keep breathing" became her motto. I remember a time when I experienced a major loss and I kept saying, "Just get up and put one foot in front of the other." I felt I needed to just keep moving so I didn't sink into the despair I felt."