"The French psychologist Jacques Salome talks about the need to develop a personal intimacy with one's own self as a counterbalance to the couple. There is beauty in an image that highlights a connection to oneself, rather than a distance from one's partner. In our mutual intimacy we make love, we have children, and we share physical space and interests. Indeed, we blend the essential parts of our lives. But "essential" does not mean "all." Personal intimacy demarcates a private zone, one that requires tolerance and respect. It is a space--physical, emotional, and intellectual--that belongs only to me. Not everything needs to be revealed. Everyone should cultivate a secret garden."