It's great that you can listen and be a shoulder to someone, but what about when someone doesn't need a shoulder. What if they need the arm or something like that? You can't just sit there and put everybody's lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can't. You have to do things. Like take someone's hands when a slow song comes on for a change. Or be the one who asks someone for a date. Or tell people what you need. Or what you want.