When I need a reminder of this I think of a story. It is about a man whose three-year-old daughter died. In his grief he put together a video of her short little life. But as he went through all of his home videos he realized something was missing. He had taken video of every outing they had gone on and every trip they had taken. He had lots of footage--that wasn't the problem. But then he realized that while he had plenty of footage of the places they had gone--the sights they had seen, the views they had enjoyed, the meals they had eaten, and the landmarks they had visited--he had almost no close-up footage of his daughter herself. He had been so busy recording the surroundings he had failed to record what was essential.