We've relegated death, birth, and even making music to the professionals...all things that, until a few generations ago, used to be done by regular people like us in the home. What used to be natural -- giving birth, playing instruments and singing, and dying among loved ones who will lovingly lay our bodies out in the parlor to be honored by those who loved us -- is now a commercial enterprise. Not that I'm ungrateful for a lower infant mortality rate or the safety that women in high-risk pregnancies now enjoy, and not that I don't love hearing professionally recorded music. But I do wonder if we lost more than we realized when we started hiring professionals to do for us what we used to do for ourselves.