We do a similar thing in our personal lives as well. When we are unclear about our real purpose in life - in other words, when we don't have a clear sense of our goals, our aspirations, and our values - we make up our own social games. We waste time and energies on trying to look good in comparison to other people. We overvalue non-essentials like a nicer car or house, or even intangibles like the number of our followers on Twitter or the way we look in our Facebook photos. As a result, we neglect activities that are truly essential, like spending time with our loved ones, or nurturing our spirit, or taking care of our health.