"Because he is confused, he doesn't ask the question, "Don't you respect me?" for fear she'll say, "No, I don't." That frightens him so he avoids it. As a result, she gets locked into disrespect as a way of communicating her irritation and goading him to change. But over the course of the marriage, something slowly dies between them. She wins the battles, but deep down she knows she is losing the war. WHAT"