We love seeing raw truth and openness in other people, but we're afraid to let them see it in us. We're afraid that our truth isn't enough--that what we have to offer isn't enough without the bells and whistles, without editing, and impressing. I was afraid to walk on that stage and show the audience my kitchen-table self--these people were too important, too successful, too famous. My kitchen-table self is too messy, too imperfect, too unpredictable. Here's the crux of the struggle: I want to experience your vulnerability but I don't want to be vulnerable.