By the standards of most love stories, our own, real relationships are almost all damaged and unsatisfactory. No wonder separation and divorce so often appear inevitable. But we should be careful not to judge our relationships by the expectations imposed on us by a frequently misleading aesthetic medium. The fault lies with art, not life. Rather than split up, we may need to tell ourselves more accurate stories - stories that don't dwell so much on the beginning, that don't promise us complete understanding, that strive to normalise our troubles and show us a melancholy yet hopeful path through the course of love.