"This certainly isn't the first time you've slept--I do mean slept with--a woman, is it?" I asked. He had been married, though I seemed to recall that he had spent much of his married life living separately from his wife. He pursed his lips thoughtfully, as though trying to recall. "Well, no. I do think it may be the first time I've done it entirely voluntarily, though." "Oh, I am flattered!" He glanced at me, smiling slightly. "So you should be," he said quietly."