"How often, for example, have you said or heard someone else say, "All I really want in this life is to be happy"? It sounds like a commonsense answer, but as a life goal, it is destined for failure. My dog, Barkley, wants to be happy. Does that mean that the two of you want the same things? I don't think so. I'll bet everything I own that you and Barkley define happiness very differently. So unless you're willing to settle for someone scratching your belly and letting you sleep under the coffee table, you might want to be a little more precise about what you as a unique individual really want."