"No, you can't stay up late. No, you can't have a dog!" I recognized that I was one of those dads, searching for a moment to connect with my children. I'd been looking for something innocuous to which I could say "yes"--so I can feel like a kind and loving dad. So I'm standing there in line with my son in the late afternoon and I order my meal. Then my son pauses to look up at me, like only a son can, and asks, "Dad, can I have a milk shake, too?" And the moment has arrived. We're not at home where I promise my wife to limit unhealthy snacks around mealtime. We're in the place"