"Life might have taught you that emotions are dangerous. Perhaps as a child, you were told things such as, "Don't you cry or I'll give you something to cry about!"--an emotionally tyrannical message that certainly would have taught you to suppress your feelings at all costs. Perhaps your emotions were ignored, minimized, or even laughed at by parents who had other things and other children to think about. What matters is that, for whatever reason, you learned at a very young age to neither honor nor even really feel your own feelings."