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The addict's reliance on the drug to reawaken her dulled feelings is no adolescent caprice. The dullness is itself a consequence of an emotional malfunction not of her making: the internal shutdown of vulnerability. From the latin word vulnerare, 'to wound', vulnerability is our susceptibility to be wounded. This fragility is part of our nature and cannot be escaped. The best the brain can do is to shut down conscious awareness of it when ..
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More daunting for those who hope for scientific and social progress, the genetic argument is easily used to justify all kinds of inequalities and injustices that are otherwise hard to defend. It serves a deeply conservative function: if a phenomenon like addiction is determined mostly by biological heredity, we are spared from having to look at how our social environment supports, or does not support, the parents of young children and at ho..
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In Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom reports that Morrie Schwartz, his former professor terminally ill with ALS, "was intent on proving that the word 'dying' was not synonymous with 'useless.'" The immediate question is why one would have a need to prove this. No human being is "useless," whether the helpless infant or the helpless ill or dying adult. The point is not to prove that dying people can be useful but to reject the spurious conce..
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The result in. successive generations of children is seen in alienation, drug use and violence--what Robert Bly has astutely described as "the rage of the unparented." Bly notes in The"
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The psychoanalyst Erik H. Erikson devoted a chapter in his Pulitzer Prize--winning book, Childhood and Society, to his reflections on the American identity. "This dynamic country," he wrote, "subjects its inhabitants to more extreme contrasts and abrupt changes during a generation than is normally the case with other great nations." Such trends have only accelerated since Erikson made that observation in 1950. The effects of rapid social a..
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Nowadays it often takes two parents working full-time to secure the same standard of living one wage earner could provide thirty or forty years ago. Deepening social stresses and the growing sense of economic insecurity even in the midst of relative wealth have all combined to create a milieu in which calm, connected parenting is increasingly difficult. Precisely when parents and other adults need to form stronger attachment bonds with thei..
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A dramatic illustration of how environment shapes personality is the story of the Gilmore family. On January 17, 1978, in Utah, the convicted double murderer Gary Gilmore was executed by firing squad, his unyielding refusal to appeal his death sentence having gained him a measure of international notoriety. The shattering story of his childhood, blighted by family violence, alcoholism and spite was chronicled later by his brother Mikal Gilm..
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Although a youth culture was in evidence by the 1950s, the first obvious and dramatic manifestation of a culture generated by peer-orientation was the hippie counterculture of the 1960s and 1970s. The Canadian media theorist Marshall McLuhan called it "the new tribalism of the Electric Age." Hair and dress and music played a significant part in shaping this culture, but what defined it more than anything was its glorification of the peer at..
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