child-sexual-abuse-survivor

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92be70d	Power is confusing for us, perhaps even terrifying, because our relationship with it had an unfortunate beginning. Someone in a position of power over us used and abused us...It seems as if power were something to be wielded, always at someone's expense, usually our own.	abuse-of-authority abuse-of-power abuse-of-trust abuse-survivors abusive-parenting child-abuse child-sexual-abuse child-sexual-abuse-survivor healing misuse-of-power parental-authority power powerless powerlessness survivor survivor-of-abuse	Maureen Brady
ec52b84	When we are ready to let go of our old controls, we admit that we were powerless over the incest or abuse...We have often thought, 'If only I could have stopped it,' but we could not have stopped it. We let go of the 'if only' now and sit still with our stark powerlessness...In our surrender to powerlessness, we touch ourselves with the gift of truth.	abuse-recovery abuse-survivors child-abuse child-sexual-abuse child-sexual-abuse-survivor healing if-only incest letting-go powerless powerlessness survivor survivor-of-abuse survivors-of-abuse truth	Maureen Brady
ead270a	"Our need to be "greater than" or "less than" has been a defense against toxic shame. A shameful act was committed upon us. The perpetrator walked away, leaving us with the shame. We absorbed the notion that we are somehow defective. To cover for this we constructed a false self, a masked self. And it is this self that is the overachiever or the dunce, the tramp or the puritan, the powermonger or the pathetic loser."	ashamed child-sexual-abuse child-sexual-abuse-survivor coverup defective defective-humans dunce false-self feeling-bad healing healing-insights hidden-feelings hidden-pain hidden-self incest loser overachiever power-trip puritan recovery-from-abuse shame survivor toxic-shame true-self	Maureen Brady
7240f03	When we first begin to take power more directly, after long having kept our relationship to it underground...it is natural that we experience anxiety, even guilt, at putting ourselves first. These feeling let us know we are taking action; they do not need to stop us.	anxiety assertiveness child-sexual-abuse-survivor empowering false-guilt guilt healing healing-insights power survivors	Maureen Brady

92be70d

Power is confusing for us, perhaps even terrifying, because our relationship with it had an unfortunate beginning. Someone in a position of power over us used and abused us...It seems as if power were something to be wielded, always at someone's expense, usually our own.

abuse-of-authority abuse-of-power abuse-of-trust abuse-survivors abusive-parenting child-abuse child-sexual-abuse child-sexual-abuse-survivor healing misuse-of-power parental-authority power powerless powerlessness survivor survivor-of-abuse

Maureen Brady

ec52b84

When we are ready to let go of our old controls, we admit that we were powerless over the incest or abuse...We have often thought, 'If only I could have stopped it,' but we could not have stopped it. We let go of the 'if only' now and sit still with our stark powerlessness...In our surrender to powerlessness, we touch ourselves with the gift of truth.

abuse-recovery abuse-survivors child-abuse child-sexual-abuse child-sexual-abuse-survivor healing if-only incest letting-go powerless powerlessness survivor survivor-of-abuse survivors-of-abuse truth

Maureen Brady

ead270a

"Our need to be "greater than" or "less than" has been a defense against toxic shame. A shameful act was committed upon us. The perpetrator walked away, leaving us with the shame. We absorbed the notion that we are somehow defective. To cover for this we constructed a false self, a masked self. And it is this self that is the overachiever or the dunce, the tramp or the puritan, the powermonger or the pathetic loser."

ashamed child-sexual-abuse child-sexual-abuse-survivor coverup defective defective-humans dunce false-self feeling-bad healing healing-insights hidden-feelings hidden-pain hidden-self incest loser overachiever power-trip puritan recovery-from-abuse shame survivor toxic-shame true-self

Maureen Brady

7240f03

When we first begin to take power more directly, after long having kept our relationship to it underground...it is natural that we experience anxiety, even guilt, at putting ourselves first. These feeling let us know we are taking action; they do not need to stop us.

anxiety assertiveness child-sexual-abuse-survivor empowering false-guilt guilt healing healing-insights power survivors

Maureen Brady