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"I was a very lonely child and it's funny but the first word that comes to my head is "starved". I felt starved of affection, starved of love and I felt that it wasn't OK to ask for it. Maybe there was a sense that if I deserved it, it would be there. There must be something I'd done which meant I didn't deserve it." --
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eating-disorder
emotional-neglect
lack-of-love
self-blame
starved
starving
unloved
unmet-needs
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Carol Lee |
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Because we were treated neglectfully and abusively in our young years--when we most needed self-love to be mirrored--it was difficult to hold onto...We take up the challenge of learning to love ourselves, through our highs & our lows, when we are finding acceptance from others and when we are being closed out and rejected.
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child-abuse-survivors
child-neglect
emotional-abuse
emotional-neglect
healing
healing-from-abuse
healing-insights
love-yourself
neglect
recovery-from-abuse
self-acceptance
self-love
self-love-quotes
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Maureen Brady |
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My parents never recognized the things that for me were achievements. I was praised for the things that came naturally to me, like my intelligence, but when I really put all my effort into looking nice (trying to), it went unrecognised. No-one ever told me I looked pretty or nice, or that I was a beautiful person (to them) and I needed them to...
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childhood-neglect
emotional-neglect
feeling-ignored
feeling-ugly
feeling-unloved
low-self-esteem
unmet-needs
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Carol Lee |
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There was another problem with Emma's father, difficult for a small child who already thought of herself as greedy - his way of trying to keep her attention, to bribe her, with gifts. On each vof her visits, he would appear with you presents, beautifully wrapped> And her confusion that she liked - and wanted - the presents, but not the man, was painful. He used 'sparkly Sellotape' and cut things into nice shapes and she wistfully writes:
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confusion
emotional-neglect
emotional-pain
mixed-messages
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Carol Lee |
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Whatever it was her father wanted, Emma did not know how to provide it. She felt confused by what he did, and imagined the problem was a lack in her, rather than him. And there was something else:
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emotional-neglect
father
worthlessness
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Carol Lee |