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09887f1 I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will. integrity self-determination independence women freedom self-awareness identity empowerment image realism gender flaws Charlotte Brontë
3459977 I hate to hear you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives. stereotypes men equality feminism women-s-rights self-determination independence women reason empowerment strength rationality social-norms flattery misogyny hypocrisy double-standards gender Jane Austen
13dd10a There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me. stubbornness self-determination independence women fear empowerment strength elizabeth-bennet intimidation dignity Jane Austen
fec94b8 care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself. solitude individuality self-determination independence self-awareness empowerment self-assurance self-sufficiency self-trust self-containment defiance self-reliance self-respect self-esteem Charlotte Brontë
99d232c You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down. freedom empowerment unburdening flying weight Toni Morrison
78f9e34 I do not think, sir, you have any right to command me, merely because you are older than I, or because you have seen more of the world than I have; your claim to superiority depends on the use you have made of your time and experience. men equality women-s-rights self-determination independence women freedom reason empowerment superiority submission experience gender Charlotte Brontë
b653c92 Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don't. letting-go change empowerment motivational life inspirational control Steve Maraboli
c8e2f8b Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them. empowerment motivational life-lessons happiness inspirational problems Steve Maraboli
6ac92a7 Believe in your infinite potential. Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself. limitations confidence inspiration inspirational-quotes inspire life-quotes living motivation optimistic positive-affirmation positive-life spirituality empowerment inspiring positive positive-thinking motivational optimism life inspirational believe-in-yourself talents potential spiritual-growth limits believe Roy T. Bennett
5c65487 I am not an angel,' I asserted; 'and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. Mr. Rochester, you must neither expect nor exact anything celestial of me - for you will not get it, any more than I shall get it of you: which I do not at all anticipate. integrity men self-determination independence romance women freedom self-awareness identity empowerment love ideal-woman image realism gender flaws Charlotte Brontë
d87db97 As long as she thinks of a man, nobody objects to a woman thinking. stereotypes men feminism self-determination women empowerment intelligence dignity social-norms misogyny hypocrisy double-standards gender thought Virginia Woolf
e7de926 In youth, it was a way I had, To do my best to please. And change, with every passing lad To suit his theories. But now I know the things I know And do the things I do, And if you do not like me so, To hell, my love, with you. men nature youth women character change empowerment love wisdom pleasing self-discovery truthfulness self-respect self-esteem Dorothy Parker
6c767ff A woman knows very well that, though a wit sends her his poems, praises her judgment, solicits her criticism, and drinks her tea, this by no means signifies that he respects her opinions, admires her understanding, or will refuse, though the rapier is denied him, to run through the body with his pen. men equality feminism poetry women writing empowerment dignity judgment misogyny hypocrisy double-standards respect gender Virginia Woolf
4f5d4ab To call woman the weaker sex is a libel; it is man's injustice to woman. If by strength is meant brute strength, then, indeed, is woman less brute than man. If by strength is meant moral power, then woman is immeasurably man's superior. Has she not greater intuition, is she not more self-sacrificing, has she not greater powers of endurance, has she not greater courage? Without her, man could not be. If nonviolence is the law of our being, the future is with woman. Who can make a more effective appeal to the heart than woman? men equality women feminist empowerment strength inspirational gandhi gender Mahatma Gandhi
7f0ccfd What we call our destiny is truly our character and that character can be altered. The knowledge that we are responsible for our actions and attitudes does not need to be discouraging, because it also means that we are free to change this destiny. One is not in bondage to the past, which has shaped our feelings, to race, inheritance, background. All this can be altered if we have the courage to examine how it formed us. We can alter the chemistry provided we have the courage to dissect the elements. responsibility courage destiny empowerment self-improvement self-control Anais Nin
7ecaca1 The history of men's opposition to women's emancipation is more interesting perhaps than the story of that emancipation itself. men feminism women empowerment misogyny gender Virginia Woolf
70ec247 If you need something from somebody always give that person a way to hand it to you. relationships empowerment life subtlety Sue Monk Kidd
33bdd99 I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow, than a man swear he loves me. marriage self-determination independence freedom empowerment happiness love courtship husbands singles wooing William Shakespeare
a83e5ef Don't confuse poor decision-making with destiny. Own your mistakes. It's ok; we all make them. Learn from them so they can empower you! action destiny change empowerment motivational success life inspirational mistakes Steve Maraboli
4a3abf0 If women are expected to do the same work as men, we must teach them the same things. men equality women work empowerment instruction jobs skills gender Plato
c0cd1f7 "I am not an angel," I asserted; "and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself." integrity self-determination independence women freedom self-awareness identity empowerment ideal-woman image realism gender flaws Charlotte Brontë
084df20 People who lack the clarity, courage, or determination to follow their own dreams will often find ways to discourage yours. When you change for the better, the people around you will be inspired to change also....but only after doing their best to make you stop. Live your truth and don't EVER stop. action change empowerment motivational success life inspirational determination Steve Maraboli
5737023 If men could see us as we really are, they would be a little amazed; but the cleverest, the acutest men are often under an illusion about women: they do not read them in a true light: they misapprehend them, both for good and evil: their good woman is a queer thing, half doll, half angel; their bad woman almost always a fiend. stereotypes feminism women empowerment false-belief misconceptions illusions misogyny hypocrisy double-standards gender expectations Charlotte Brontë
e49761b My name is Celaena Sardothien," she whispered, "and I will not be afraid. fantasy-young-adult empowerment inspirational throne-of-glass celaena-sardothien fierce motto Sarah J. Maas
220baa2 I don't damsel well. Distress, I can do. Damseling? Not so much. empowerment get-over-it maximum-ride james-patterson distress pretense trouble James Patterson
1c56b4d "My name is Celaena Sardothien," she whispered, "and I will not be afraid." fantasy-young-adult empowerment inspirational throne-of-glass fierce motto Sarah J. Maas
111fa2e When, however, one reads of a witch being ducked, of a woman possessed by devils, of a wise woman selling herbs, or even of a very remarkable man who had a mother, then I think we are on the track of a lost novelist, a suppressed poet, of some mute and inglorious Jane Austen, some Emily Bronte who dashed her brains out on the moor or mopped and mowed about the highways crazed with the torture that her gift had put her to. Indeed, I would venture to guess that Anon, who wrote so many poems without signing them, was often a woman. feminism history women writing witches empowerment dignity social-norms suppression misogyny women-writers gender persecution Virginia Woolf
fa3e4b2 I remembered that the real world was wide, and that a varied field of hopes and fears, of sensations and excitments, awaited those who had the courage to go forth into it's expanse, to seek real knowledge of life amidst it's perils. empowerment enterprise Charlotte Brontë
eb8cfe2 Anything may happen when womanhood has ceased to be a protected occupation. stereotypes feminism women morality empowerment womanhood dignity social-norms misogyny hypocrisy double-standards inequality protectiveness gender Virginia Woolf
ac6243f Women are never so strong as after their defeat. perseverance women empowerment strength Alexandre Dumas
1f88d6b Go for broke. Always try and do too much. Dispense with safety nets. Take a deep breath before you begin talking. Aim for the stars. Keep grinning. Be bloody-minded. Argue with the world. And never forget that writing is as close as we get to keeping a hold on the thousand and one things--childhood, certainties, cities, doubts, dreams, instants, phrases, parents, loves--that go on slipping , like sand, through our fingers. courage writing empowerment strength guenter-grass record-of-life creative-process experience memory Salman Rushdie
01479a6 Whatever you choose, however many roads you travel, I hope that you choose not to be a lady. I hope you will find some way to break the rules and make a little trouble out there. And I also hope that you will choose to make some of that trouble on behalf of women. rebellion women empowerment rule-breaking wellesley-college-commencement good-behaviour trouble ladies obedience rules Nora Ephron
b557b1b Free yourself from the complexities and drama of your life. Simplify. Look within. Within ourselves we all have the gifts and talents we need to fulfill the purpose we've been blessed with. simplify gratitude empowerment motivational life inspirational blessings purpose drama Steve Maraboli
acee414 Maybe your country is only a place you make up in your own mind. Something you dream about and sing about. Maybe it's not a place on the map at all, but just a story full of people you meet and places you visit, full of books and films you've been to. I'm not afraid of being homesick and having no language to live in. I don't have to be like anyone else. I'm walking on the wall and nobody can stop me. anchoring individuality self-determination independence self-awareness empowerment inspirational country self-assurance self-sufficiency self-trust self-containment homelessness belonging self-reliance nationality attachment roots home self-respect self-esteem Hugo Hamilton
2c03670 "You are mistaken, Mr. Darcy, if you suppose that the mode of your declaration affected me in any other way, than as it spared the concern which I might have felt in refusing you, had you behaved in a more gentlemanlike manner." (Elizabeth Bennett)" men self-determination women empowerment love gentlemanlike gentlemen behaviour refusal scorn declaration marriage-proposal humiliation proposal mr-darcy propriety rejection pride Jane Austen
a378eef Believe in your infinite potential. Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself abilities limitations ability dream self-doubt confidence inspiration inspirational-attitude inspirational-life inspirational-quotes inspire life-and-living life-quotes living motivation optimistic positive-affirmation positive-life spirituality dreams empowerment inspiring positive positive-thinking motivational life-lessons optimism hope life inspirational believe-in-yourself potential spiritual-growth limits believe Roy T. Bennett
9d20cf3 How would your life be different if...You didn't allow yourself to be defined by your past? Let today be the day...You stop letting your history interfere with your destiny and awaken to the opportunity to release your greatest self. action history opportunity destiny change empowerment motivational life inspirational Steve Maraboli
2f2b7bf Women have sat indoors all these millions of years, so that by this time the very walls are permeated by their creative force, which has, indeed, so overcharged the capacity of bricks and mortar that it must needs harness itself to pens and brushes and business and politics. artists arts women empowerment restrictions encroachment careers occupation skills liberation women-writers gender creativity Virginia Woolf
d6b8f43 LEONATO Well, niece, I hope to see you one day fitted with a husband. BEATRICE Not till God make men of some other metal than earth. Would it not grieve a woman to be overmastered with a pierce of valiant dust? to make an account of her life to a clod of wayward marl? No, uncle, I'll none: Adam's sons are my brethren; and, truly, I hold it a sin to match in my kindred. marriage men equality self-determination independence freedom empowerment happiness matrimony husbands singles William Shakespeare
cec2b1c Everything is within your power change empowered empowerment encourae-yourself encourage-yourself encouraging-quotes innate-wisdom inspiring inspiring-quote positive positive-quote positive-thinking positivity power-of-the-subconscious-mind powerful-quotes powerful-words self-empowered self-healing self-help-inspiration self-help-motivator self-help-quotes spiritual-quote strength strong-willed strong-women motivational spiritual inspirational strength-of-mind change-your-mind power-of-women strength-of-spirit change-life strong-will encouragement-quotes law-of-attraction change-quotes inspiring-quotes strong-woman power-of-will encouragement-and-attitude powerful-women motivational-quotes encouraging spiritual-wisdom inner-strength motivating subconscious personal-development uplifting encouragement self-empowerment change-the-world change-your-life self-help-quote self-improvement power-of-thoughts strong powerful power self-help Janice Trachtman
c383efa LEONATO Well, then, go you into hell? BEATRICE No, but to the gate; and there will the devil meet me, like an old cuckold, with horns on his head, and say 'Get you to heaven, Beatrice, get you to heaven; here's no place for you maids:' so deliver I up my apes, and away to Saint Peter for the heavens; he shows me where the bachelors sit, and there live we as merry as the day is long. marriage heaven self-determination independence freedom empowerment happiness matrimony husbands singles William Shakespeare
3b5cdcb I am anchored on a resolve you cannot shake. My heart, my conscience shall dispose of my hand -- . Know this at last. integrity marriage feminism self-determination independence women empowerment love matrimony dignity social-norms conscience gender courtship wooing Charlotte Brontë
e346027 "An afternoon drive from Los Angeles will take you up into the high mountains, where eagles circle above the forests and the cold blue lakes, or out over the Mojave Desert, with its weird vegetation and immense vistas. Not very far away are Death Valley, and Yosemite, and Sequoia Forest with its giant trees which were growing long before the Parthenon was built; they are the oldest living things in the world. One should visit such places often, and be conscious, in the midst of the city, of their surrounding presence. For this is the real nature of California and the secret of its fascination; this untamed, undomesticated, aloof, prehistoric landscape which relentlessly reminds the traveller of his human condition and the circumstances of his tenure upon the earth. "You are perfectly welcome," it tells him, "during your short visit. Everything is at your disposal. Only, I must warn you, if things go wrong, don't blame me. I accept no responsibility. I am not part of your neurosis. Don't cry to me for safety. There is no home here. There is no security in your mansions or your fortresses, your family vaults or your banks or your double beds. Understand this fact, and you will be free. Accept it, and you will be happy." risk nature freedom empowerment happiness wildness liberation self-responsibility environment mountains risk-taking los-angeles desert Christopher Isherwood
2428b8f "No: I shall not marry Samuel Fawthrop Wynne." "I ask why? I must have a reason. In all respects he is more than worthy of you." She stood on the hearth; she was pale as the white marble slab and cornice behind her; her eyes flashed large, dilated, unsmiling. "And ask in what sense that young man is worthy of ?" integrity marriage men equality feminism self-determination independence women self-awareness empowerment suitability worthiness marriage-proposal matrimony dignity social-norms inferiority gender courtship wooing Charlotte Brontë
6866128 An intelligent, energetic, educated woman cannot be kept in four walls -- even satin-lined, diamond-studded walls -- without discovering sooner or later that they are still a prison cell. women-s-rights women empowerment women-s-liberation double-standards inequality prison Pearl S. Buck
ae69dcc You do not win by struggling to the top of a caste system, you win by refusing to be trapped within one at all. freedom empowerment critical-thinking social-order defiance dissent Naomi Wolf
150c93d In honor of Oprah Winfrey: Even greater than the ability to inspire others with hope is the power to motivate them to give as much to the lives of others as they would give to their own; and to empower them to confront the worst in themselves in order to discover and claim the best in themselves. gratitude television inspiration motivation spirituality empowerment hope blog-quotes positive-motivation famous-poets oprah-winfrey quotes-by-aberjhani rare-personalities world-suicide-prevention-day celebrities coaching philanthropy famous-authors personal-growth grace Aberjhani
dccf0d0 Yes, faith; it is my cousin's duty to make curtsy and say 'Father, as it please you.' But yet for all that, cousin, let him be a handsome fellow, or else make another curtsy and say 'Father, as it please me. marriage self-determination independence empowerment happiness love marriage-proposal matrimony dignity courtship husbands wooing pleasure William Shakespeare
c89acc1 What tale do you like best to hear?' 'Oh, I have not much choice! They generally run on the same theme - courtship; and promise to end in the same catastrophe - marriage. irony marriage women empowerment love disharmony subjection discord matrimony storytelling inequality gender courtship sarcasm Charlotte Brontë
af1d004 Chastity ... has, even now, a religious importance in a woman's life, and has so wrapped itself round with nerves and instincts that to cut it free and bring it to the light of day demands courage of the rarest. feminism self-determination women morality empowerment encroachment dignity social-norms liberty suppression misogyny hypocrisy double-standards gender sexuality Virginia Woolf
b534708 It is a beautiful thing to be on fire for justice... there is no greater joy than inspiring and empowering others--especially the least of these, the precious and priceless wretched of the earth! social-justice joy humanity inspiration empowerment antiracism black-prophetic-fire economic-disparity impoverishment political-motivation political-movements poor-people social-movements social-injustice servant-leadership democracy Cornel West
da16970 One of the newest figures to emerge on the world stage in recent years is the social entrepreneur. This is usually someone who burns with desire to make a positive social impact on the world, but believes that the best way of doing it is, as the saying goes, not by giving poor people a fish and feeding them for a day, but by teaching them to fish, in hopes of feeding them for a lifetime. I have come to know several social entrepreneurs in recent years, and most combine a business school brain with a social worker's heart. The triple convergence and the flattening of the world have been a godsend for them. Those who get it and are adapting to it have begun launching some very innovative projects. empowerment social-entrepreneurship Thomas L. Friedman
d0ecf42 I told you in the course of this paper that Shakespeare had a sister; but do not look for her in 's of the poet. She died young--alas, she never wrote a word. She lies buried where the omnibuses now stop, opposite the Elephant and Castle. Now my belief is that this poet who never wrote a word and was buried at the crossroads still lives. She lives in you and in me, and in many other women who are not here tonight, for they are washing up the dishes and putting the children to bed. But she lives; for great poets do not die; they are continuing presences; they need only the opportunity to walk among us in the flesh. opportunities equality feminism self-determination fiction poetry women dreams empowerment dignity social-norms women-writers gender Virginia Woolf
cf3ccd9 If the artist does not fling himself, without reflecting, into his work, as Curtis flung himself into the yawning gulf, as the soldier flings himself into the enemy's trenches, and if, once in this crater, he does not work like a miner on whom the walls of his gallery have fallen in; if he contemplates difficulties instead of overcoming them one by one ... he is simply looking on at the suicide of his own talent. writing empowerment determination energy devotion creative-process talent Honoré de Balzac
4dbd6dc If [God] send me no husband, for the which blessing I am at him upon my knees every morning and evening ... marriage self-determination independence freedom empowerment happiness blessings matrimony husbands singles William Shakespeare
f2e0593 [In 16th century European society] Marriage was the triumphal arch through which women, almost without exception, had to pass in order to reach the public eye. And after marriage followed, in theory, the total self-abnegation of the woman. marriage men feminism women-s-rights history self-determination independence women empowerment wedlock subjugation self-abnegation married-life matrimony social-norms misogyny perception inequality gender Antonia Fraser
b29ed5e A man is educated and turned out to work. But a woman is educated -- and turned out to grass. men women-s-rights women empowerment education women-s-liberation inequality Pearl S. Buck
17db5f1 "Always know there are friends somewhere rooting for you. There are people you don't know, always praying for you and lifting you before God. - Jenee, from "To the Survivors"." rape spirituality empowerment god hope sexual-assault suxual-abuse sexual-violence healing shame recovery Robert Uttaro
6bea34d Every person in the AA program who's successful is living proof that he or she does have power over addictive drugs and alcohol- the power to stop. empowerment drug-addiction alcoholics-anonymous addiction alcohol-addiction chris-prentiss drug-abuse alcoholism Chris Prentiss
d802bdc "Milton's Eve! Milton's Eve! ... Milton tried to see the first woman; but Cary, he saw her not ... I would beg to remind him that the first men of the earth were Titans, and that Eve was their mother: from her sprang Saturn, Hyperion, Oceanus; she bore Prometheus" -- "Pagan that you are! what does that signify?" "I say, there were giants on the earth in those days: giants that strove to scale heaven. The first woman's breast that heaved with life on this world yielded the daring which could contend with Omnipotence: the stregth which could bear a thousand years of bondage, -- the vitality which could feed that vulture death through uncounted ages, -- the unexhausted life and uncorrupted excellence, sisters to immortality, which after millenniums of crimes, struggles, and woes, could conceive and bring forth a Messiah. The first woman was heaven-born: vast was the heart whence gushed the well-spring of the blood of nations; and grand the undegenerate head where rested the consort-crown of creation. ... I saw -- I now see -- a woman-Titan: her robe of blue air spreads to the outskirts of the heath, where yonder flock is grazing; a veil white as an avalanche sweeps from hear head to her feet, and arabesques of lighting flame on its borders. Under her breast I see her zone, purple like that horizon: through its blush shines the star of evening. Her steady eyes I cannot picture; they are clear -- they are deep as lakes -- they are lifted and full of worship -- they tremble with the softness of love and the lustre of prayer. Her forehead has the expanse of a cloud, and is paler than the early moon, risen long before dark gathers: she reclines her bosom on the ridge of Stilbro' Moor; her mighty hands are joined beneath it. So kneeling, face to face she speaks with God. That Eve is Jehova's daughter, as Adam was His son." self-determination nature independence women empowerment strength god godliness titans eve superiority greatness gender Charlotte Brontë
69fcb91 It was a fact generally acknowledged by all but the most contumacious spirits at the beginning of the seventeenth century that woman was the weaker vessel; weaker than man, that is. ... That was the way God had arranged Creation, sanctified in the words of the Apostle. ... Under the common law of England at the accession of King James I, no female had any rights at all (if some were allowed by custom). As an unmarried woman her rights were swallowed up in her father's, and she was his to dispose of in marriage at will. Once she was married her property became absolutely that of her husband. What of those who did not marry? Common law met that problem blandly by not recognizing it. In the words of [the leading 17th century compendium on women's legal status]: 'All of them are understood either married or to be married.' In 1603 England, in short, still lived in a world governed by feudal law, where a wife passed from the guardianship of her father to her husband; her husband also stood in relation to her as a feudal lord. fathers marriage men feminism women-s-rights history self-determination independence women empowerment wedlock common-law guardianship feudalism subjugation married-life property matrimony social-norms misogyny inequality gender husbands Antonia Fraser
62081ec "AA purports to be open to anyone, as it is stated in Tradition Tree, "The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking," but it isn't open to everyone. It's open only to those who are willing to publicly declare themselves to be alcoholics or addicts and who are willing to give up their inherent right of independence by declaring themselves powerless over addictive drugs and alcohol, as stated in Step One, "We admitted we are powerless over alcohol- that our lives had become unmanageable." empowerment 12-step-programs aa non-12-step-programs drug-addiction alcoholics-anonymous passages-rehab non-12-step passages-ventura passages-malibu addiction-cure alcohol-abuse drug-abuse alcohol alcoholism alcoholism-addiction-recovery alcoholic Chris Prentiss
8cbccca Tell her that her body belongs to her and her alone, that she should never feel the need to say yes to something she does not want, or something she feels pressured to do. Teach her that saying no when no feels right is something to be proud of. empowerment Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
72c104d By increasing the amount of Torah (obligatory religious laws) in the world, they were extending His presence in the world and making it more effective. empowerment law rights Karen Armstrong
e671548 She thought, I need no cup. I am Chalice. I am filling with the grief and hurt and fear of my demesne; the shattered earthlines weigh me down; I am brimming with the needs of my people. identity empowerment earth-mother self-realization Robin McKinley
35e0dcb A spiritual reinterpretation of events gives us miraculous authority to command the winds, to part the waters, and to break all chains that bind us. enlightenment magic spirituality empowerment breaking-free spiritual-growth chains healing-past-wounds healing-the-past miracle-mindset miraculous personal-power reinventing-yourself spiritual-healing spiritual-power spiritual-rebirth spiritual-reinterpretation spiritual-strength power-of-love spiritual-wisdom inner-strength miracles self-empowerment Marianne Williamson
9f0f26a I choose what sort of relationship I want to have with my family of origin today. choice empowerment soul-journey love-heals psyche integration life-journey healing wholeness Maureen Brady
32e25b8 We don't have to accept the things we might change. empowerment Kate Elliott
fe1bb91 The history of the world begins with a seed. The seed is the kernel of what you are, but it is also the promise of what you can become. world empowerment seeds promise Kate Elliott
d02ddf1 Two women at the same event wearing the same outfit is a disaster. But two women at the same event singing the same song is a party. And two women at the same event talking about Doris from Fame is a friendship for life. Fill yourself with words, choruses, and heroes, like you're supposed to fill your wardrobe with shoes, brooches, and belts. women empowerment songs Caitlin Moran
eb9b6d7 "You are the promise for a more equal world. So my hope for everyone here is that after you walk across this stage, after you get your diploma, after you go out tonight and celebrate hard - you then will lean way in to your career. You will find something you love doing and you will do it with gusto. Find the right career for you and go all the way to the top. As you walk off this stage today, you start your adult life. Start out by aiming high. Try - and try hard. women empowerment Sheryl Sandberg
50182ea The most empowering thing you can do though is to create innovative ways to bring in livable wages. That begins with a debt free lifestyle. money motivation empowerment success life finances recession stay-woke wages debt Brandi L. Bates
81f9dd0 As we move away from the old role in which we were helplessly entrapped as a victim, we make friends with the people who affirm us. Their enthusiasm about us mirrors the positive experience we are having. moving-on friends empowerment affirming recovery-from-abuse healing-from-abuse thriver victim-role victim survivor healing friendships recovery survivors Maureen Brady