healing-from-abuse

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048f24e	Because we were treated neglectfully and abusively in our young years--when we most needed self-love to be mirrored--it was difficult to hold onto...We take up the challenge of learning to love ourselves, through our highs & our lows, when we are finding acceptance from others and when we are being closed out and rejected.	child-abuse child-abuse-survivors child-neglect emotional-abuse emotional-neglect healing healing-from-abuse healing-insights love-yourself neglect recovery-from-abuse self-acceptance self-love self-love-quotes	Maureen Brady
ae23b74	When shame is met with compassion and not received as confirmation of our guilt, we can begin to see how slant a lens it has had us looking through. That awareness lets us step back far enough to see that if we can let it go, we will see ourselves as clean where we once thought we were dirty. We will remember our innocence. We will see how our shame supported a system in which the perpetrators were protected and we bore the brunt of their offense -- first in its actuality, then again in carrying their shame for it. If the method we chose to try to beat out shame was perfectionism, we can relax now, shake the burden off our shoulders, and give ourselves a chance to loosen up and make some errors. Hallelujah! Our freedom will not come from tireless effort and getting it all exactly right.	abuser abusers burdens-of-the-past child-rape child-sexual-abuse false-guilt freedom guilt healing healing-from-abuse healing-insights imperfect incest innocence innocence-lost offense peptrator perfectionism perfectly-imperfect perpetrators recovery recovery-from-abuse sexual-abuse shame survivors	Maureen Brady
9563645	The bridge out of shame is outrage. Suddenly the obvious becomes stunningly clear--we have been carrying shame for the crime of the offender...In a clear flash we may see ourselves standing in a fierce stance, grounded by our knowledge, ready to throw off any wrongdoer. Our outrage can be a fueling energy, capable of making us as steely as we need to be.	child-rape child-sexual-abuse crime healing healing-from-abuse healing-insights incest outrage rage rape recovery recovery-from-abuse shame	Maureen Brady
26b4635	I sometimes continue to see myself in split ways; it causes me trouble and contributes to a lack of satisfaction with myself.	dissociation healing-from-abuse integration psyche sexual-abuse-survivor splitting-off wholeness	Maureen Brady
81f9dd0	As we move away from the old role in which we were helplessly entrapped as a victim, we make friends with the people who affirm us. Their enthusiasm about us mirrors the positive experience we are having.	affirming empowerment friends friendships healing healing-from-abuse moving-on recovery recovery-from-abuse survivor survivors thriver victim victim-role	Maureen Brady

048f24e

Because we were treated neglectfully and abusively in our young years--when we most needed self-love to be mirrored--it was difficult to hold onto...We take up the challenge of learning to love ourselves, through our highs & our lows, when we are finding acceptance from others and when we are being closed out and rejected.

child-abuse child-abuse-survivors child-neglect emotional-abuse emotional-neglect healing healing-from-abuse healing-insights love-yourself neglect recovery-from-abuse self-acceptance self-love self-love-quotes

Maureen Brady

ae23b74

When shame is met with compassion and not received as confirmation of our guilt, we can begin to see how slant a lens it has had us looking through. That awareness lets us step back far enough to see that if we can let it go, we will see ourselves as clean where we once thought we were dirty. We will remember our innocence. We will see how our shame supported a system in which the perpetrators were protected and we bore the brunt of their offense -- first in its actuality, then again in carrying their shame for it. If the method we chose to try to beat out shame was perfectionism, we can relax now, shake the burden off our shoulders, and give ourselves a chance to loosen up and make some errors. Hallelujah! Our freedom will not come from tireless effort and getting it all exactly right.

abuser abusers burdens-of-the-past child-rape child-sexual-abuse false-guilt freedom guilt healing healing-from-abuse healing-insights imperfect incest innocence innocence-lost offense peptrator perfectionism perfectly-imperfect perpetrators recovery recovery-from-abuse sexual-abuse shame survivors

Maureen Brady

9563645

The bridge out of shame is outrage. Suddenly the obvious becomes stunningly clear--we have been carrying shame for the crime of the offender...In a clear flash we may see ourselves standing in a fierce stance, grounded by our knowledge, ready to throw off any wrongdoer. Our outrage can be a fueling energy, capable of making us as steely as we need to be.

child-rape child-sexual-abuse crime healing healing-from-abuse healing-insights incest outrage rage rape recovery recovery-from-abuse shame

Maureen Brady

26b4635

I sometimes continue to see myself in split ways; it causes me trouble and contributes to a lack of satisfaction with myself.

dissociation healing-from-abuse integration psyche sexual-abuse-survivor splitting-off wholeness

Maureen Brady

81f9dd0

As we move away from the old role in which we were helplessly entrapped as a victim, we make friends with the people who affirm us. Their enthusiasm about us mirrors the positive experience we are having.

affirming empowerment friends friendships healing healing-from-abuse moving-on recovery recovery-from-abuse survivor survivors thriver victim victim-role

Maureen Brady