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l trsl khmwran llmslmyn 'w zhwr l'qHwn ll'lmn. km 'n `Tk s`@ Hy'T hdy@ llSynyyn 'w skynan ll'mrykyyn lh m`n~ sy fy thqfthm, wk'nk tqwl lh "fltsqT mytan"!" --
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Don't flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person's face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.
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A wise politician, when asked if he were for or against Prohibition, answered: If by alcohol, you mean the dangerous drink which destroys families, than I am fully for Prohibition. But if, by alcohol, you mean noble drink which promotes good fellowship and makes every meal a pleasure, then I am against it.
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take consolation from the fact that the brighter the individual, the more he or she detests small talk.
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Keep good eye contact.
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So how do you find out what someone does for a living? (I thought you'd never ask.) You simply practice the following eight words. All together now: "How . . . do . . . you . . . spend . . . most . . . of . . . your . . . time?"
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n 'kbr khTw@ Hqan lyst lty khTh "nyl 'rmstrwnj" `l~ sTH lqmr wlkn 'kbr khTw@ tmt Hynm bd' lns ydrkwn `Zm@ dhlk ltnw` 'w ltbyn ldhy mnHhm llh yh. n`m, rbm kn hdh ltnw` 'w ltbyn 'kbr khTw@ khTh lnsn `l~ l'rD!"
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How to Make People Want to Start a Conversation with You Singles proficient at meeting potential sweethearts without the benefit of introduction (in the vernacular, making a "pickup"), have developed a deliciously devious technique that works equally well for social or corporate networking purposes. The technique requires no exceptional skill on your part, only the courage to sport a simple visual prop called a "Whatzit." What's a Whatzit? ..
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great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze." The ideal image for somebody who's a Somebody."
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When you act as though you like someone, you start to really like them.
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The study showed women who were slower to smile in corporate life were perceived as more credible." As Missy talked, I began to think about history-making women like Margaret Thatcher, Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir, Madeleine Albright, and other powerful women of their ilk. Not one was known for her quick smile. Missy continued, "The study went on to say a big, warm smile is an asset. But only when it comes a little slower, because then it has ..
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when meeting someone, our brains are in overdrive. Remember Shakespeare's Julius Caesar? He said of Cassius, he "has a lean and hungry look . . . he thinks too much . . . such men are dangerous."
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I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person." The longer you keep it shining away from you, the more interesting he or she finds you."
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I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person." Truly confident people often do this. They know they grow more by listening than talking."
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Train your body to act confidently so your mind follows suit. This is what the experts recommend. It's a lot easier to whip your body into shape than your brain. You know all the basic stuff: Stand tall, look people in the eye, smile and speak up. Start practising your CONFIDENCE BOOSTERs on the least intimidating people. Work your way up to the most difficult.
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What super-sure looks like A multitude of fascinating factors come under the 'looking confident 'umbrella. There isn't space here to explore the thousands of subtle signs that signal confidence. I cover them in my book How to Talk to Anyone. However, here are a few hints to tide you over. Self-assureds do the following things instinctively. You can do them consciously until they become second nature. 1. When you are at a gathering, do not s..
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apprehensive
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Serce ma swoje racje, o ktorych nic nie wie rozum" - Pascal"
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DON'T TOUCH A CLICHE WITH A TEN-FOOT POLE
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whenever people meet you, they take an instant mental snapshot. That image of you becomes the data they deal with for a very long time.
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Your eyes are personal grenades that have the power to detonate people's emotions.
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Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain." MARK TWAIN"
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The exact moment that two humans lay eyes on each other has awesome potency.
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When we find people with the supernatural powers of perception to recognize our remarkableness, we become addicted to the heady drug of their appreciation.
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Small talk is about putting people at ease. Your unspoken answer to their unspoken question, "How do you like me so far?" must be, "Wow! I really like you."
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Do humanity and yourself a favor. Never, ever, give just a one-sentence response to the question, "Where are you from?" Give the asker some fuel for his tank, some fodder for his trough."
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The moment someone looks at you, he or she experiences a massive hit, the impact of which lays the groundwork for the entire relationship. Just give 'em great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze.
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Let's hear it again!" The sweetest sound your conversation partner can hear from your lips when you're talking with a group of people is "Tell them about the time you . . ."
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Never be left speechless again. Like a parrot, simply repeat the last few words your conversation partner says. That puts the ball right back in his or her court, and then all you need to do is listen.
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Similarity breeds attraction. When you delay revealing your similarity, or let them discover it, it has much more punch.
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Never let the phrase thank you stand naked and alone. 'Thank you for being such a good customer.' 'Thank you for being so loving.
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Do you usually go hiking? This weekend, take a tennis lesson. Do you bowl? Leave that to your buddies this time. Why? Because it will give you conversational fodder for the rest of your life.
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Spend time with people you choose, not just those who choose you. Be choosey in who you pick. But don't wait to be the choosee.
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At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all ten toes with the Killer Compliment.
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