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Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something." -H. Jackson Brown, Jr." --
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validation (in the context of interpersonal skills, anyway) is the act of recognizing and affirming the validity or worth of a person's emotions. Essentially, validation means saying to someone, "I hear you. I get what you're feeling, and it's perfectly alright to feel that way." Effective validation has two components: It identifies a specific emotion It offers justification for feeling that emotion" --
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basic human need for appreciation and acceptance. It's something we all feel an inner draw towards, regardless of how independent, confident, or self-sufficient we may be.
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Unfortunately, invalidating others is easy to do. For most people, it's almost a knee-jerk reaction. How many times have you responded to a friend or family member with some variation of the following?
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validation--which is, in essence, the act of helping someone feel heard and understood--
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Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart. And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected.
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We want (and need) more than just a listening ear. As humans, we need to feel heard and understood. We need to feel accepted and appreciated. Good listeners, therefore, do more than just listen--they validate.
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Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something." - H. Jackson Brown, Jr."
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building healthy, satisfying relationships. What's more, it's critical for any relationship, romantic or otherwise. Thus, the core idea of this book is that, in order to become a "great listener," you actually need to become a great validator."
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Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued.
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