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Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new. --Ursula K. Le Guin
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have always been fascinated by relationships. I grew up in Britain, where my dad ran a pub, and I spent a lot of time watching people meeting, talking, drinking, brawling, dancing, flirting. But the focal point of my young life was my parents' marriage. I watched helplessly as they destroyed their marriage and themselves. Still, I knew they loved each other deeply. In my father's last days, he wept raw tears for my mother although they had ..
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Love never dies of a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source, it dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds, it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings, but never of natural death. --Anais Nin
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People think love is an emotion. Love is good sense. --Ken Kesey Unless you love someone, nothing else makes any sense. --e. e. cummings
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Fifty years ago noted animal researcher Harry Harlow, in an address to the American Psychological Association, observed, "As far as love or affection is concerned, psychologists have failed in their mission...The little we write about it has been better written by poets and novelists."
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Emotional Responsiveness-- The Key to a Lifetime of Love A person's "heart withers if it does not answer another heart." --Pearl S. Buck Tim"
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Philosopher Kwame Anthony Appiah of Princeton University makes the point that, "In life, the challenge is not so much to figure out how best to play the game; the challenge is to figure out what game you are playing."
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As the Irish poet John O'Donohue puts it, "There is a huge and leaden loneliness settling like a frozen winter on so many humans."
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We can see what love encompasses in studies of the fluffy little titi monkey conducted by Bill Mason and Sally Mendoza of the University of California. Females nurse their babies but don't offer any other maternal responses. They do not groom or touch their infants. The true nurturer is the male, who assumes 80 percent of the infant care. It's the male who holds and carries the baby, who is emotionally engaged and is the safe haven. Baby ti..
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