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Feel the fear and do it anyway!
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The less you need someone's approval, the more you are able to love them.
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Taking responsibility means never blaming anyone else for anything you are being, doing, having, or feeling.
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THE ONLY WAY TO GET RID OF THE FEAR OF DOING SOMETHING IS TO GO OUT AND DO IT.
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I will handle it
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Patience means knowing it will happen . . . and giving it time to happen.
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Every time you encounter something that forces you to "handle it," your self-esteem is raised considerably. You learn to trust that you will survive, no matter what happens. And in this way your fears are diminished immeasurably."
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security is not having things; it's handling things.
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IF YOU KNEW YOU COULD HANDLE ANYTHING THAT CAME YOUR WAY, WHAT WOULD YOU POSSIBLY HAVE TO FEAR? The answer is: NOTHING!
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Remember that underlying all our fears is a lack of trust in ourselves.
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We fear beginnings; we fear endings. We fear changing; we fear "staying stuck." We fear success; we fear failure. We fear living; we fear dying."
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WHEN WE GIVE FROM A PLACE OF LOVE, RATHER THAN FROM A PLACE OF EXPECTATION, MORE USUALLY COMES BACK TO US THAN WE COULD HAVE EVER IMAGINED.
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It is a paradox. The less you need someone's approval, the more you are able to love them.
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THE FEAR WILL NEVER GO AWAY AS LONG AS I CONTINUE TO GROW.
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when you blame any outside force for any of your experience of life, you are literally giving away all your power and thus creating pain, paralysis and depression.
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If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got.
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Taking responsibility means not blaming yourself.
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For many of us, the people we find most difficult to praise are the ones closest to us--our mates, our children, our parents, and sometimes our friends.
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A self-assured woman who is in control of her life draws like a magnet. She is so filled with positive energy that people want to be around her.
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The only time you will fear anything is when you say no and resist the universe. You may have heard the expression "Go with the flow." This means consciously accepting what is happening in your life."
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It's a problem" is another deadening phrase. It's heavy and negative. "It's an opportunity" opens the door to growth. Each time you can see the gift in life's obstacles, you can handle difficult situations in a rewarding way. Each time you have the opportunity to stretch your capacity to handle the world, the more powerful you become."
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all my life I have never heard a mother call out to her child as he or she goes off to school, "Take a lot of risks today, darling." She is more likely to convey to her child, "Be careful, darling." This "Be careful" carries with it a double message: "The world is really dangerous out there" ... and ... "you won't be able to handle it." What Mom is really saying, of course, is, "If something happens to you, I won't be able to handle it." Yo..
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The biggest pitfall as you make your way through life is impatience. Remember that being impatient is simply a way of punishing yourself. It creates stress, dissatisfaction, and fear.
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Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
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the secret in handling fear is to move yourself from a position of pain to a position of power.
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The truth is that love and power go together.
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Negative thoughts take away your power ...
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No one is more unloving than a person who can't own his or her own power. Such people spend their lives trying to pull it out of everyone else. Their need creates all sorts of manipulative behavior.
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The sense of "having a goal in your life "will put you in the side of "giving" instead of "getting" ...... most of people focus "more" on what they want from their lives and that could lead to thinking in a (victim-of-life) way ... when you start to play the role of a person who's having a meaning and a goal for his/her life, you will get back the self-esteem you deserve."
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I learned an amazing way to demonstrate the effectiveness of positive versus negative thinking from Jack Canfield, President of Self-Esteem Seminars, which I now use in my workshops. I ask someone to come up and stand facing the rest of the class. After making sure the person has no problems with her (or his) arms, I ask my volunteer to make a fist and extend either arm out to the side. I then tell her to resist, with as much strength as sh..
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As I began to do things on my own, I began to taste the deliciousness of an emerging self-confidence.
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THE ONLY WAY TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF IS TO GO OUT . . . AND DO IT.
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We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken away from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms--to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's way. The way in which a man accepts his fate and all the suffering ..
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You may be surprised and encouraged to learn that while inability to deal with fear may look and feel like a psychological problem, in most cases it isn't. I believe it is primarily an educational problem, and that by reeducating the mind, you can accept fear as simply a fact of life rather than a barrier to success.
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We can't escape fear.
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SAY YES TO YOUR UNIVERSE.
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The term "universe" refers to that life plan that seems to take over despite what we have in mind-- that "force" operating, seemingly on its own, that often interferes with our picture of how we would like things to be. It refers to a certain flow in our lives and the lives of others over which we have little or no control."
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IN SAYING "YES" LIES THE ANTIDOTE TO OUR FEAR."
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The phrase "say yes" means "to agree to" those things that life hands us. Saying yes means letting go of resistance and letting in the possibilities that our universe offers in new ways of seeing the world. It means to relax bodily and calmly survey the situation, thereby reducing upset and anxiety. Aside from the emotional benefits, the physical benefits are enormous."
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You can't avoid pain, but you can say to the pain, understanding that it is a part of life.
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ACKNOWLEDGMENT OF PAIN IS VERY IMPORTANT; DENIAL IS DEADLY.
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Rejection is rejection--wherever it is found. So you begin to protect yourself, and, as a result, greatly limit yourself. You begin to shut down and close out the world around you.
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Aikido in Everyday Life by Terry Dobson and Victor Miller. Their premise is that "the best victory is the one in which everyone wins."
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Finding out what you don't like is, paradoxically, as valuable as finding out what you do like.
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