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I miss him in so many ways, but right now I miss him in the way you always miss someone when you're single among a room full of couples.
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claudia
emily-giffin
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Emily Giffin |
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Maybe that's what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.
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love-the-one-your-with
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But I have learned that you make your own happiness, that part of going for what you want means losing something else. And when the stakes are high, the losses can be that much greater.
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Emily Giffin |
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When you're in love, sometimes you have to swallow your pride, and sometimes you have to keep your pride. It's a balance. But when the relationship is right, you find the balance.
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Emily Giffin |
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love is the sum of our choices, the strength of our commitments, the ties that bind us together.
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Emily Giffin |
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Love and friendship. They are what make us who we are, and what can change us, if we let them.
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Emily Giffin |
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This is why you should never, ever get your hopes up. This is why you should see the glass as half empty. So when the whole thing spills, you aren't as devastated.
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Emily Giffin |
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When you are in a relationship, you are aware that it might end. You might grow apart, find someone else, simply fall out of love. But a friendship isn't a zero-sum game, and as such, you assume that it will last forever, especially an old friendship. You take its permanence for grandted, whuch might be the very thing so dear about it.
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rachel
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Emily Giffin |
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Change can be good but its always tough to let go of the past
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Emily Giffin |
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My wants are simple: a job that I like and a guy whom I love.
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Emily Giffin |
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But I am learning that perfection isn't what matters. In fact, it's the very thing that can destroy you if you let it.
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Emily Giffin |
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Maybe the thing to do after you roll the dice-and lose-is simply pick them up and roll them again.
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Emily Giffin |
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You can only control your own actions. Not other people's reactions.
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Emily Giffin |
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It's like when someone dies, the initial stages of grief seem to be the worst. But in some ways, it's sadder as time goes by and you consider how much they've missed in your life. In the world.
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Emily Giffin |
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It's the worst thing to fall in love with someone who will never stop disappointing you...
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Emily Giffin |
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Songs and smells will bring you back to a moment in time more than anything else. It's amazing how much can be conjured with a few notes of a song or a solitary whiff of a room. A song you didn't even pay attention to at the time, a place that you didn't even know had a particular smell.
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Emily Giffin |
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He nods, as if to acknowledge that endings are almost always a little sad, even when there is something to look forward to on the other side.
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moving-on
goodbyes
growing-up
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Emily Giffin |
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I think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That this is the only way to grow together, instead of apart.
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marriage
relationships
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Emily Giffin |
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True love is supposed to make you into a better person-uplift you.
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emily giffin |
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In days that follow, I discover that anger is easier to handle than grief.
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grief
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Emily Giffin |
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Nothing is ever perfect. It is what you make of it.
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Emily Giffin |
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I miss us, too. I always have, and probably always will
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Emily Giffin |
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I miss us too. I always have and I probably always will. Sometimes there are no happy endings. No matter what, I'll be losing something, someone. But maybe that's what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice again and again, day in and day out, year after year,says more about love than never ..
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love
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Emily Giffin |
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It always takes two. For relationships to work, for them to break apart, for them to be fixed.
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Emily Giffin |
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Songs and smells will bring you back to a moment in time more than anything else. It's amazing how much can be conjured with a few notes of a song or a solitary whiff of a room. A song you didn't even pay attention to at the time, a place that you didn't even know had a particular smell. I wonder what will someday bring back Dex and our few months together. Maybe the sound of Dido's voice. Maybe the scent of the Aveda shampoo I've been usin..
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Emily Giffin |
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People generally didn't cheat in good relationships.
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relationships
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Emily Giffin |
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I love him wholly and unconditionally and without reservation. I love him enough to sacrifice a friendship. I love him enough to accept my own happiness and use it, in turn, to make him happy back.
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Emily Giffin |
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A son is a son 'til he gets a wife, but a daughter is a daughter all her life.
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Emily Giffin |
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Happiness is the best revenge, you know? Just be happy. It's a choice.
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Emily Giffin |
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I think of how life takes unexpected twists and turns, sometimes through sheer happenstance, sometimes through calculated decisions. In the end, it can all be called fate, but to me, it is more a matter of faith.
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fate
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Emily Giffin |
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Sometimes there are no happy endings, No matter what, I'll be losing something, someone. But maybe that's what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.
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Emily Giffin |
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Life's not black-and-white. Sometimes the ends justifies the means.
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Emily Giffin |
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You can't quantify love, and if you try, you can end up focusing on misleading factors. Stuff that really has more to do with personality-the fact that some people are simply more expressive or emotional or needy in a relationship. But beyond such smokescreens, the answer is there. Love is seldom-almost never-an even proposition.
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love
claudia
emily-giffin
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Emily Giffin |
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We are one of those couples i used to watch, thinking to myself that I'd never be on the inside of something so special. I remember reassuring myself that it probably looked nicer than it actually was, I am happy to be wrong about that.
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relationships
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Emily Giffin |
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His words are like the sound of a needle dragging across a record. A sinking, sickening feeling washes over me. This is why you should never, ever get your hopes up. This is why you should see the glass as half empty. So, when the whole things spills, you aren't as devastated.
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Emily Giffin |
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Love as a verb. Love as a commitment.
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Emily Giffin |
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You can love someone you mistrust.
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love
claudia
emily-giffin
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Emily Giffin |
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How different this moment feels, for so many reasons. I tell myself that no two loves are identical - but that I don't have to compare anymore.
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Emily Giffin |
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And without Dex in my life, I like to think I could have somehow found contentment. But the truth is, I feel freer with Dex than I ever did when I was single. I feel more myself with him than without. Maybe true love does that
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Emily Giffin |
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Buried beneath disappointment and fear, anger and pride, I just might find it in my heart to forgive.
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Emily Giffin |
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One way isn't better than the other; they're just different.
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Emily Giffin |
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I was aware that we were both silently making those inevitable comparisons, putting our relationship in context. She is more this and less that. He is better or worse in these ways. It is human nature to do this--unless its your first relationship, which might be the very reason that your first relationship feels special and remains forever sacred. But the older you get, the more cynical you become, and the more complicated and convoluted t..
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relationships
sacrifice
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Emily Giffin |
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i wish i could freeze this moment, somehow delay my final decision, and just hang here in the balance between two places, two worlds, two loves.
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Emily Giffin |
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Did she ever regret her choices? Were her decisions more clear-cut than mine - or are there always shades of gray whe it comes to matters of the heart?
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