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165f8ff
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His cumbersome mind clung to an obscure ideal, shared by many people of limited intellect and venerated with unthinking respect: to let a branch sprout from the main trunk, an extension of himself.
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intellect
parenting
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Hermann Hesse |
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609fca7
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Maybe we swore we would never be harsh with our children the way others were harsh with us. Then, just when they need us most - when they act up and misbehave and call us names and son on - we get angry and punish them, or feel hurt and block them out. We momentarily forget how fragile our little ones are, just as they forget about cooperation or sharing or calming down and following the rules.
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parent-feelings
parenting
punishment
tantrums
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Lawrence J. Cohen |
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63e707f
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People say a mother is only as happy as her least happy child. But what if the state of that child's happiness has become a mystery? What if that child is no longer a child but a young man who has removed himself to a great distance and encased himself in silence?
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parenting
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Jan Ellison |
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13ba21a
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"You can write great books," the great man continued. "Or you can have kids. It's up to you." [...] Writing was a practice. The more you wrote, the better a writer you became, and the more books you produced. Excellence plus productivity, that was the formula for sustained success, and time was the coefficient of both. Children, the great man said, were notorious thieves of time. [...] Writers need to be irresponsible, ultimately, to everything but the writing, free of commitments to everything but the daily word count. Children, by contrast, needed stability, consistency, routine, and above all, commitment. In short, he was saying, children are the opposite of writing."
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parenting
writing
writing-life
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Michael Chabon |
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02d1321
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"In my entire life, I never once heard either of my parents say they were stressed. That was just not a phrase I grew up being allowed to say. That, and the concept of "Me time"."
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india
indian-culture
parenting
stress
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Mindy Kaling |
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a9afe36
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I am wounded. I am marked by old codes, which shielded me in one world and then chained me in the next.
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parenting
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Ta-Nehisi Coates |
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a42503e
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I like uncovering the cultural prejudices I didn't even know.
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biases
conventional-wisdom
education
heritage
parenting
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A.J. Jacobs |
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10a17d8
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Faktum var att han inte kunde vara den sortens pappa langre. Den tiden var forbi. Det var som om Gud plotsligt skulle bestamma sig for att vara Gud igen flera kvadriljoner ar efter att han skapat varlden. Han kunde inte bara dimpa ner fran himlen och saga: A nej, ni borde inte ha placerat Empire State Building dar, och ni borde inte ha ordnat det sa att de afrikanska folken far mindre pengar, och ni borde inte ha latit dem tillverka karnvapen. For da kunde man saga till Honom: Det ar val lite sent att papeka det nu? Var holl du hus medan vi funderade pa de sakerna?
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parenting
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Nick Hornby |
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ba28734
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The world is in a mad dash of personal peace and affluence. Sadly, too often the evangelical church is not much different. Of course, we want our children to become Christians. But that is just an addition to the all-consuming goal, that they would attain their own personal peace and affluence.
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parenting
the-family-s-chief-end
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R.C. Sproul Jr. |
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4da3f95
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There is no such thing as reproduction, only acts of production.
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children
parenting
writing
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Andrew Solomon |
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7132078
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Story telling or teachable moments, provides us with a vast reference base of real life antidotes for possible future problems. They not only entertain and give us a resource of proven solutions, but they also help shape and mold our character. Therefore, when we don't take our time to communicate with our kids, then we rob them of critical life lessons that we and our forefathers learn the hard way - lessons that they would needlessly have to learn through trial and error themselves.
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family-conversations
guidance
life-antidotes
life-lessons
parenting
pep-talk
proven-solutions
real-life
real-talk
storytelling
talking-with-children
teachable-moments
trial-and-error
warnings
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Drexel Deal |
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e68aef3
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At least he kept trying to express himself, his real self, as motley and inchoate for now as the outfit he was wearing. And maybe that was part of the purpose of middle school: to give you something to work against, to press upon, as you attempted to fashion a self from the lump of contradictory impulses and emotions and paradigms that your mind and your culture presented.
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parenting
teenagers
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Michael Chabon |
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47bf231
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"I myself," said Gibbon, "am slightly underdone in the personal worthlessness line. It was Papa's fault. He used no irony. The communications mix offered by the parent to the child is as you know twelve percent do this, eighty-two percent don't do that, and six percent huggles and endearments. That is standard. Now, to avoid boring himself or herself to death during this monition the parent enlivens the discourse with wit, usually irony of the cheaper sort. The irony ambigufies the message, but more importantly establishes in the child the sense of personal lack-of-worth. Because the child understands that one who is talked to in this way is not much of a something. Ten years of it goes a long way. Fifteen is better. That is where Pap fell down. He eschewed irony."
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parenting
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Donald Barthelme |
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44defbf
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My father's attitude was that this was but an inevitable phase of my growing up and he affected to take it lightly. But beneath his jocular, boys-together air, he was at a loss, he was frightened. Perhaps he had supposed that my growing up would bring us closer together-- whereas, now that he was trying to find out something about me, I was in full flight from him. I did not want him to know me. I did not want anyone to know me. And then, again, I was undergoing with my father what the very young inevitably undergo with their elders: I was beginning to judge him. And the very harshness of this judgment, which broke my heart, revealed, though I could not have said it then, how much I had loved him, how that love, along with my innocence, was dying.
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glbtq
parenting
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James Baldwin |
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c66e742
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There was the odd suburban thunderbolt, but they were mostly those people who'd found each other; they were golden and bright-lit and funny. Often they seemed in cahoots somehow, like jailbirds who wouldn't leave; they loved us, they us, and that was a pretty good trick.
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parenting
parents
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Markus Zusak |
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eb34ba9
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The world (including Drapervilleh is not a nice place, and the innocent and the young have to take their chances. They cannot be watched over, twenty-four hours of the day. At what moment, from what hiding-place, the idea of evil will strike, there is no telling. And when it does, the result is not always disastrous. Children have their own incalculable strength and weakness, and this, for all their seeming helplessness, will determine the pattern of their lives. Even when you suspect why they fall downstairs, you cannot be sure. You have no way of knowing whether their fright is permanent or can be healed by putting butter on the large lump that comes out on their foreheads after a fall.
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danger
evil
parenting
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William Maxwell |
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3b341ac
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I thank my mother (Ma, you're only second cause you got the dedication), who used to make me write essays whenever I got into trouble, explaining exactly what I'd done and why I'd done it.
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mothers
mothers-and-sons
parenting
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Ta-Nehisi Coates |