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You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world...but you do have some say in who hurts you. I like my choices.
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self-determination
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John Green |
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I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.
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integrity
self-determination
independence
women
freedom
self-awareness
identity
empowerment
image
realism
gender
flaws
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Charlotte Brontë |
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I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it
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be-yourself
self-determination
inspirational
misquote
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Maya Angelou |
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"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it. (Popular misquote of "You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.")"
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self-determination
inspirational
misquote
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Maya Angelou |
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You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
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self-determination
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Maya Angelou |
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I hate to hear you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives.
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stereotypes
men
equality
feminism
women-s-rights
self-determination
independence
women
reason
empowerment
strength
rationality
social-norms
flattery
misogyny
hypocrisy
double-standards
gender
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Jane Austen |
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There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me.
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stubbornness
self-determination
independence
women
fear
empowerment
strength
elizabeth-bennet
intimidation
dignity
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Jane Austen |
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care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.
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solitude
individuality
self-determination
independence
self-awareness
empowerment
self-assurance
self-sufficiency
self-trust
self-containment
defiance
self-reliance
self-respect
self-esteem
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Charlotte Brontë |
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Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.
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be-yourself
individuality
self-determination
identity
life
inspirational
self-expression
self-esteem
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Harvey Fierstein |
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I do not think, sir, you have any right to command me, merely because you are older than I, or because you have seen more of the world than I have; your claim to superiority depends on the use you have made of your time and experience.
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men
equality
women-s-rights
self-determination
independence
women
freedom
reason
empowerment
superiority
submission
experience
gender
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Charlotte Brontë |
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Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.
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right-of-passage
self-determination
inspirational
self-responsibility
personal-responsibility
growing-up
innocence
parenting
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Anne Frank |
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.
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self-determination
change
inspirational
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Maya Angelou |
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I am not an angel,' I asserted; 'and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. Mr. Rochester, you must neither expect nor exact anything celestial of me - for you will not get it, any more than I shall get it of you: which I do not at all anticipate.
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integrity
men
self-determination
independence
romance
women
freedom
self-awareness
identity
empowerment
love
ideal-woman
image
realism
gender
flaws
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Charlotte Brontë |
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As long as she thinks of a man, nobody objects to a woman thinking.
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stereotypes
men
feminism
self-determination
women
empowerment
intelligence
dignity
social-norms
misogyny
hypocrisy
double-standards
gender
thought
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Virginia Woolf |
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The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.
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solitude
individuality
self-determination
independence
self-awareness
inspirational
self-assurance
self-sufficiency
self-trust
ataraxy
self-containment
self-reliance
self-respect
self-esteem
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Michel de Montaigne |
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There is something infantile in the presumption that somebody else has a responsibility to give your life meaning and point... The truly adult view, by contrast, is that our life is as meaningful, as full and as wonderful as we choose to make it.
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self-determination
follow-your-bliss
self-actualization
existentialism
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Richard Dawkins |
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You cannot change what you are, only what you do.
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self-determination
change
life
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Philip Pullman |
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Oh the places you'll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all.
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self-determination
life
inspirational
self-reliance
anticipation
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Dr. Seuss |
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Bottom line is, even if you see 'em coming, you're not ready for the big moments. No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So what are we, helpless? Puppets? No. The big moments are gonna come. You can't help that. It's what you do afterwards that counts. That's when you find out who you are.
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self-determination
strength
life
inspirational
whistler
self-discovery
changes
buffy-the-vampire-slayer
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Joss Whedon |
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The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position.
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be-yourself
self-determination
inspirational
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Leo Buscaglia |
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I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow, than a man swear he loves me.
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marriage
self-determination
independence
freedom
empowerment
happiness
love
courtship
husbands
singles
wooing
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William Shakespeare |
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Oh, Lizzy! do anything rather than marry without affection.
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integrity
marriage
feelings
self-determination
romance
joy
love
matrimony
duty
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Jane Austen |
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"I am not an angel," I asserted; "and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself."
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integrity
self-determination
independence
women
freedom
self-awareness
identity
empowerment
ideal-woman
image
realism
gender
flaws
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Charlotte Brontë |
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You don't need anybody to tell you who you are or what you are. You are what you are!
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be-yourself
self-determination
self-awareness
inspirational
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John Lennon |
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Maybe your country is only a place you make up in your own mind. Something you dream about and sing about. Maybe it's not a place on the map at all, but just a story full of people you meet and places you visit, full of books and films you've been to. I'm not afraid of being homesick and having no language to live in. I don't have to be like anyone else. I'm walking on the wall and nobody can stop me.
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anchoring
individuality
self-determination
independence
self-awareness
empowerment
inspirational
country
self-assurance
self-sufficiency
self-trust
self-containment
homelessness
belonging
self-reliance
nationality
attachment
roots
home
self-respect
self-esteem
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Hugo Hamilton |
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"You are mistaken, Mr. Darcy, if you suppose that the mode of your declaration affected me in any other way, than as it spared the concern which I might have felt in refusing you, had you behaved in a more gentlemanlike manner." (Elizabeth Bennett)"
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men
self-determination
women
empowerment
love
gentlemanlike
gentlemen
behaviour
refusal
scorn
declaration
marriage-proposal
humiliation
proposal
mr-darcy
propriety
rejection
pride
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Jane Austen |
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None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper which is heard by him alone.
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self-determination
inspirational
self-expression
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Ralph Waldo Emerson |
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I'll fight when needed, revel when there's an occasion, mourn when there is grief and die if my time comes...But I will not let anyone use me against my will.
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self-determination
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Christopher Paolini |
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The man who believes that the secrets of the world are forever hidden lives in mystery and fear. Superstition will drag him down. The rain will erode the deeds of his life. But that man who sets himself the task of singling out the thread of order from the tapestry will by the decision alone have taken charge of the world and it is only by such taking charge that he will effect a way to dictate the terms of his own fate.
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fate
self-determination
fear
life
order
ignorance
superstition
secrets
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Cormac McCarthy |
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The little things, I can obey. The big things--how we think, what we value--those you must choose yourself. You can't let anyone--or any society--determine those for you.
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self-determination
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Mitch Albom |
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"There are certain phrases potent to make my blood boil -- improper influence! What old woman's cackle is that?" "Are you a young lady?" "I am a thousand times better: I am an honest woman, and as such I will be treated."
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integrity
marriage
influence
self-determination
independence
women
honesty
love
uprightness
propriety
matrimony
respect
gender
self-respect
expectations
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Charlotte Brontë |
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Always in life an idea starts small, it is only a sapling idea, but the vines will come and they will try to choke your idea so it cannot grow and it will die and you will never know you had a big idea, an idea so big it could have grown thirty meters through the dark canopy of leaves and touched the face of the sky.' He looked at me and continued. 'The vines are people who are afraid of originality, of new thinking. Most people you encounter will be vines; when you are a young plant they are very dangerous.' His piercing blue eyes looked into mine.' Always listen to yourself, Peekay. It is better to be wrong than simply to follow convention. If you are wrong, no matter, you have learned something and you grow stronger. If you are right, you have taken another step toward a fulfilling life.
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self-determination
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Bryce Courtenay |
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You are not controlling the storm, and you are not lost in it. You are the storm.
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self-determination
freedom
free-will
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Sam Harris |
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I felt the taste of mortality in my mouth, and at that moment I understood that I was not going to live forever. It takes a long time to learn that, but when you finally do, everything changes inside you, you can never be the same again. I was seventeen years old, and all of a sudden, without the slightest flicker of a doubt, I understood that my life was my own, that it belonged to me and no one else. I'm talking about freedom, Fogg. A sense of despair that becomes so great, so crushing, so catastrophic, that you have no choice but to be liberated by it. That's the only choice, or else you crawl into a corner and die.
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self-determination
freedom
life
philosophy
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Paul Auster |
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We become what we want to be by consistently being what we want to become each day.
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self-determination
religious
inspirational
self-improvement
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Richard G. Scott |
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Always listen to yourself... It is better to be wrong than simply to follow convention.
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self-determination
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Bryce Courtenay |
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LEONATO Well, niece, I hope to see you one day fitted with a husband. BEATRICE Not till God make men of some other metal than earth. Would it not grieve a woman to be overmastered with a pierce of valiant dust? to make an account of her life to a clod of wayward marl? No, uncle, I'll none: Adam's sons are my brethren; and, truly, I hold it a sin to match in my kindred.
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marriage
men
equality
self-determination
independence
freedom
empowerment
happiness
matrimony
husbands
singles
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William Shakespeare |
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Now look at me! Take a good look! I was born and I knew I was alive and I knew what I wanted. What do you think is alive in me? Why do you think I'm alive? Because I have a stomach and eat and digest the food? Because I breathe and work and produce more food to digest? Or because I know what I want, and that something which knows how to want--isn't that life itself? And who--in this damned universe--who can tell me why I should live for anything but for that which I want?
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self-determination
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Ayn Rand |
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LEONATO Well, then, go you into hell? BEATRICE No, but to the gate; and there will the devil meet me, like an old cuckold, with horns on his head, and say 'Get you to heaven, Beatrice, get you to heaven; here's no place for you maids:' so deliver I up my apes, and away to Saint Peter for the heavens; he shows me where the bachelors sit, and there live we as merry as the day is long.
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marriage
heaven
self-determination
independence
freedom
empowerment
happiness
matrimony
husbands
singles
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William Shakespeare |
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I am anchored on a resolve you cannot shake. My heart, my conscience shall dispose of my hand -- . Know this at last.
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integrity
marriage
feminism
self-determination
independence
women
empowerment
love
matrimony
dignity
social-norms
conscience
gender
courtship
wooing
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Charlotte Brontë |
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"No: I shall not marry Samuel Fawthrop Wynne." "I ask why? I must have a reason. In all respects he is more than worthy of you." She stood on the hearth; she was pale as the white marble slab and cornice behind her; her eyes flashed large, dilated, unsmiling. "And ask in what sense that young man is worthy of ?"
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integrity
marriage
men
equality
feminism
self-determination
independence
women
self-awareness
empowerment
suitability
worthiness
marriage-proposal
matrimony
dignity
social-norms
inferiority
gender
courtship
wooing
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Charlotte Brontë |
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Yes, faith; it is my cousin's duty to make curtsy and say 'Father, as it please you.' But yet for all that, cousin, let him be a handsome fellow, or else make another curtsy and say 'Father, as it please me.
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marriage
self-determination
independence
empowerment
happiness
love
marriage-proposal
matrimony
dignity
courtship
husbands
wooing
pleasure
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William Shakespeare |
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Let every man be master of his time.
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time
self-determination
life
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William Shakespeare |
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Chastity ... has, even now, a religious importance in a woman's life, and has so wrapped itself round with nerves and instincts that to cut it free and bring it to the light of day demands courage of the rarest.
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feminism
self-determination
women
morality
empowerment
encroachment
dignity
social-norms
liberty
suppression
misogyny
hypocrisy
double-standards
gender
sexuality
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Virginia Woolf |
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I told you in the course of this paper that Shakespeare had a sister; but do not look for her in 's of the poet. She died young--alas, she never wrote a word. She lies buried where the omnibuses now stop, opposite the Elephant and Castle. Now my belief is that this poet who never wrote a word and was buried at the crossroads still lives. She lives in you and in me, and in many other women who are not here tonight, for they are washing up the dishes and putting the children to bed. But she lives; for great poets do not die; they are continuing presences; they need only the opportunity to walk among us in the flesh.
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opportunities
equality
feminism
self-determination
fiction
poetry
women
dreams
empowerment
dignity
social-norms
women-writers
gender
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Virginia Woolf |
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If [God] send me no husband, for the which blessing I am at him upon my knees every morning and evening ...
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marriage
self-determination
independence
freedom
empowerment
happiness
blessings
matrimony
husbands
singles
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William Shakespeare |
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In the end there is nothing to be done but to state clearly what has been done, without shame or regret, and say: Here I am, and this is what I am. Now deal with me as you see fit. That is your right. Mine is to stand by the act, and pay the price. You do what you must do, and pay for it. So in the end all things are simple.
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responsibility
self-determination
penance
judgment
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Ellis Peters |
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[In 16th century European society] Marriage was the triumphal arch through which women, almost without exception, had to pass in order to reach the public eye. And after marriage followed, in theory, the total self-abnegation of the woman.
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marriage
men
feminism
women-s-rights
history
self-determination
independence
women
empowerment
wedlock
subjugation
self-abnegation
married-life
matrimony
social-norms
misogyny
perception
inequality
gender
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Antonia Fraser |
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"There is no sin unless through a man's own will, and hence the reward when we do right things also of our own will." ( )"
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self-determination
salvation
sin
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St. Augustine of Hippo |
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Every man has within him only one life and one nature ... It behooves a man to look within himself and turn to the best dedication possible those endowments he has from his Maker. You do no wrong in questioning what once you held to be right for you, if now it has come to seem wrong. Put away all thought of being bound. We do not want you bound. No one who is not free can give freely.
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self-determination
freedom
free-will
life
conduct-of-life
giving
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Ellis Peters |
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Fate is unalterable only in the sense that given a cause, a certain result must follow, but no cause is inevitable in itself, and man can shape his world if he does not resign himself to ignorance.
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understanding
fate
self-determination
destiny
education
ignorance
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Pearl S. Buck |
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It was a fact generally acknowledged by all but the most contumacious spirits at the beginning of the seventeenth century that woman was the weaker vessel; weaker than man, that is. ... That was the way God had arranged Creation, sanctified in the words of the Apostle. ... Under the common law of England at the accession of King James I, no female had any rights at all (if some were allowed by custom). As an unmarried woman her rights were swallowed up in her father's, and she was his to dispose of in marriage at will. Once she was married her property became absolutely that of her husband. What of those who did not marry? Common law met that problem blandly by not recognizing it. In the words of [the leading 17th century compendium on women's legal status]: 'All of them are understood either married or to be married.' In 1603 England, in short, still lived in a world governed by feudal law, where a wife passed from the guardianship of her father to her husband; her husband also stood in relation to her as a feudal lord.
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fathers
marriage
men
feminism
women-s-rights
history
self-determination
independence
women
empowerment
wedlock
common-law
guardianship
feudalism
subjugation
married-life
property
matrimony
social-norms
misogyny
inequality
gender
husbands
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Antonia Fraser |
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"Milton's Eve! Milton's Eve! ... Milton tried to see the first woman; but Cary, he saw her not ... I would beg to remind him that the first men of the earth were Titans, and that Eve was their mother: from her sprang Saturn, Hyperion, Oceanus; she bore Prometheus" -- "Pagan that you are! what does that signify?" "I say, there were giants on the earth in those days: giants that strove to scale heaven. The first woman's breast that heaved with life on this world yielded the daring which could contend with Omnipotence: the stregth which could bear a thousand years of bondage, -- the vitality which could feed that vulture death through uncounted ages, -- the unexhausted life and uncorrupted excellence, sisters to immortality, which after millenniums of crimes, struggles, and woes, could conceive and bring forth a Messiah. The first woman was heaven-born: vast was the heart whence gushed the well-spring of the blood of nations; and grand the undegenerate head where rested the consort-crown of creation. ... I saw -- I now see -- a woman-Titan: her robe of blue air spreads to the outskirts of the heath, where yonder flock is grazing; a veil white as an avalanche sweeps from hear head to her feet, and arabesques of lighting flame on its borders. Under her breast I see her zone, purple like that horizon: through its blush shines the star of evening. Her steady eyes I cannot picture; they are clear -- they are deep as lakes -- they are lifted and full of worship -- they tremble with the softness of love and the lustre of prayer. Her forehead has the expanse of a cloud, and is paler than the early moon, risen long before dark gathers: she reclines her bosom on the ridge of Stilbro' Moor; her mighty hands are joined beneath it. So kneeling, face to face she speaks with God. That Eve is Jehova's daughter, as Adam was His son."
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self-determination
nature
independence
women
empowerment
strength
god
godliness
titans
eve
superiority
greatness
gender
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Charlotte Brontë |
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"I'm not going to be like my mother. You're maniacs. You're mad." "Yes," said Kate. "I know it. And so you won't be. The best of luck to you. And what are you going to be instead?"
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self-determination
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Doris Lessing |
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...it is the most militant, most radical intervention anyone can make to not only speak of love, but to engage in the practice of love. For love as the foundation of all social movements for self-determination is the only way we create a world that domination and dominator thinking cannot destroy. Anytime we do the work of love we are doing the work of ending domination.
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social-justice
self-determination
love
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bell hooks |
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I am not your king, impudent larva? Who then has created you? You. But you should not have created me free.
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mankind
self-determination
freedom
humanity
liberty
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Jean-Paul Sartre |