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My heart broke not only for the daughter who already was forced to become her mother's alarmingly narrow ideal, but also for the middle daughter who knew that her in mother's mind she had already failed.
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parenting
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By treating patients like customers, as nurse Amy Bozeman pointed out in a Scrubs magazine article, hospitals succumb to the ingrained cultural notion that the customer is always right. "Now we are told as nurses that our patients are customers, and that we need to provide excellent service so they will maintain loyalty to our hospitals," Bozeman wrote. "The patient is NOT always right. They just don't have the knowledge and training." Some..
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Membership in small groups allows people to feel similar and different at the same time: similar because they are a part of a group in different because the group is separate from the masses.
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He comes in entirely as an outsider. He lets his mind wander. He's not endangering his academic position because he doesn't have one, and he can take those risks,
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Alexandra Robbins |
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There might be some residue in my mouth, but if I can breathe from my nasal passage, the air won't come from my mouth or my diaphragm.
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QUIRK THEORY: Many of the differences that cause a student to be excluded in school are the same traits or real-world skills that others will value, love, respect, or find compelling about that person in adulthood and outside of the school setting.
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Groups satisfy our brain's natural inclination to make sense of hordes of people we encounter and observe. This quality is so inherent that children intuitively understand the need to form groups without adults having to teach them.
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labeling
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According to the U.S. Census Bureau, male nurses ride the "glass escalator"; although they are in the minority, they receive higher wages and faster promotions than women in the same jobs."
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Alexandra Robbins |
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nursing was a deeply interpersonal profession in which people had to depend on others--doctors, techs, fellow nurses--to do their job well.
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Alexandra Robbins |
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It is the nurse who holds the hand of a patient without a family, who talks to them while they take their last breaths, who aches for them while they die alone. It is the nurse who cleans the patient's body, wipes away the blood and fluids, and closes his eyes. It is the nurse who says good-bye to the patient for the last time," she said."
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A solution to many of the issues in this book, and one that would go a long way toward fixing American healthcare, is relatively clear: Treasure nurses. Hire more. Nurses are perennially the number-one most trusted profession in America, according to an annual Gallup poll rating honesty and ethical standards. They are called to an exhausting commitment in which mortals must sustain an unwavering grace at the edge of life and death, almost d..
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There are no consequences for poor work ethic and no rewards for good work ethic.
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Nursing is more than a career; it is a calling. Nurses are remarkable. Yet contemporary literature largely neglects them.
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And when they are out in public, "we are secretly looking at people's arms to determine where we would start an IV," an Arizona nurse said. "Sometimes if I'm out with a group of nurses, we're like, 'Wow, look at those veins. I could hit those from across the room."
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In the minds of their peers, too often students become caricatures of themselves.
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reputation
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Gaming was "one of the only times when you only have to focus on one thing." But even more than that, "It's like an anchor. As long as I know it's there, it's part of me. It's some form of continuity that in my life I desperately need."
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imagination
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He could be disciplined when he wanted to be.
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Part of the problem is that people at our school don't listen. They just put on the headphones and tune out the world. It's intimidating.
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making-friends
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He didn't realize that simply by mingling among various lunch tables, he was befriending people in different crowds, weaving together the fringes of the cafeteria.
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I love the free entertainment that patients provide. People say and do the most ridiculous things, and I've got a front row seat to the absurdity." --A Colorado travel nurse"
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Nobody's listening to me, he thought, story of my life.
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Exclusion is common behavior. But that doesn't make it unchangeable. And that doesn't mean that anything is wrong with the cafeteria fringe.
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Alexandra Robbins |
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Some girls, of course, can be both popular and nice. But niceness involves treating others as equals [...]
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Alexandra Robbins |
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The only way I'm going to make any friends is if I take the first step.
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Ignoring is a form of bullying because you're blocking that person out. It doesn't matter if you don't like somebody. That's fine. You don't have to. But you need to be cordial to and communicate with that person at work.
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I figure I'll win the fight in twenty years or so anyways when I end up with a decent life and their unemployed and living at home.
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The Academy ER had a sticker sheet of glittery Oscar statues that were reserved for patients who put on Oscar-worthy acts. The nurses would stick one on a patient's chart so that everyone who treated the patient knew what to expect. Some staffers didn't like Oscar because it gave the practitioners preconceived notions. But Molly thought it was funny and a stress reliever.
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Being indie means being artistic and finding your own eccentric identity. The name of the game for being an indie kid is to never admit you are one. If you do, it goes against your beliefs against labeling, thus making you a hypocrite.
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reputation
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Studies have shown that, at least among students, popularity equals visibility.
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reputation
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In high school, Jake and Arjun had been straight A students who were heavily involved in school activities and did not party.
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Arjun came from a staid Pakistani family that prioritized academics and shunned alcohol. When he had moved into his dorm last week, his parents asked Jake, whom they knew was not a drinker, to watch over their son.
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But how do you police friends who do not want to be policed? Already, Jake could sense the dynamics changing among his high school friends. Last week, his classmates had partied out of control.
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The next night, Jake again tried to party with his high school friends. Arjun again drank until he barfed. One of the girls drank herself out of her mind; she continually told anyone within earshot that she was ugly, and then tried to make out with the first guy other than Jake to disagree with her. "My friends have already changed since coming to college. These aren't the same people I knew," Jake told me later. "I'm not having a good time..
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In 1984, when the legal drinking age was raised to 21, underage students moved their partying from bars to private houses, which changed the Greek experience profoundly. Now fraternities had disproportionate control over the college party scene, they played an even more dominate role on campus. By the early, 1990s, 86 percent of fraternity brothers were binge drinking.
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wish I could start a revolution for ER nurses specifically; we are the rock stars of nursing, but are treated like the red-headed bastard stepchild." --a North Carolina ER nurse"
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Simpson calculated that if an inpatient nurse sees an average of even just four patients during a twelve-hour shift, in twenty years she will care for more than 11,000 patients and families. A clinic nurse who sees ten patients per shift will care for nearly 43,000 patients.
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Molly had heard that some staff nurses treated agency nurses poorly, but she was surprised now that it was happening to her. "If the agency nurses weren't there, the staff nurses would have a much higher patient ratio," she explained. "We make their job easier, but they're rude and unfair." Another agency nurse had told Molly that one day she had arrived at an ER that had a total of seven patients. The charge nurse assigned her all seven. W..
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Molly had no desire to be a floor nurse. At every hospital where she had worked, there was a rivalry between the ER and the other nursing departments. "We think they're lazy and they think we're bitches," Molly said. One of the most frequent complaints ER nurses had against floor nurses was that floor nurses tried to avoid getting new patients as shift change approached."
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straight white males need supportive communities, too.
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Alexandra Robbins |
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Rather than addressing the nurses being spread too thin to provide care that is good enough, they assume the nurses aren't coddling the patients adequately enough." What annoys nurses is that the concept of "patient experience" has morphed patients into customers and nurses into "rank and file" automatons. Some hospital job postings advertise that they are looking for nurses with "good customer service skills" as their"
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In Ray's work, most black fraternity men, compared to white fraternity men and black men who were not in fraternities, were observed treating women respectfully. Researchers also observed them speaking out against other men who talked disrespectfully to women. A Georgia BGLO member said that while campus visibility plays a major role in brothers' treatment of women, so do their backgrounds. "Because a lot of my brothers were raised by singl..
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Another potential reason for BGLO's better treatment of women is that at predominately whites colleges, black fraternity members feel more accountable. "Black fraternity men, and many black students, cannot overcome the reputational constraints of the small black student population..... White fraternity men can be anonymous, while black fraternity men perceive themselves as being constantly visible and therefore continuously held accountabl..
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No matter who initiated these activities, the good boys in each chapter didn't stop them from happening. Objectification of women and tolerance of racism are massive problems in fraternity culture at large.
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