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The ultimate point is to see that aside from what happens in our own minds, the actual harm or danger of rejection is often very minor.
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A friend and teacher of mine, Dr. Matthew May, once told me that the way to get over rejection is to take many "rejection inoculations." Much like an inoculation, if you take regular, small doses of rejection over time, it does not make you sick when you experience it."
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The problem with assuming disapproval is that we tend to perceive, and even actively create, what we expect to happen in our lives. If you are certain that someone is not going to like you, then when you speak with him, you will be paying closer attention to his subtle gestures and mannerisms. What did that sigh mean? Why did he look away
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Instead of assuming disapproval, dislike and rejection, you can assume approval, friendliness, and engagement. This technique requires asking yourself a question before you engage in a social interaction: "How would I act if I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the people here loved me and found me delightful?"
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Being nice does not come out of goodness or high morals. It comes out of a fear of displeasing others and receiving their disapproval. It's driven by fear, not virtue.
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