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Buddhists were always talking about how you have to 'let go,' but what they really meant is 'let it be.
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It seems like you're saying that there is a self-interested, or selfish, case for being compassionate?' 'Yes. Practice of compassion is ultimately benefit to you. So I usually describe: we are selfish, but be wise selfish rather than foolish selfish.
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Repeat the following phrases: May you be happy, May you be healthy, May you be safe, May you live with ease. Do this slowly. Let the sentiment land. You are not forcing your well-wishes on anyone
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Most of one's own troubles, worries, and sadness come from self-cherishing, self-centeredness.' But don't we need to be somewhat self-centered in order to succeed in life?" "Self-cherishing, that's by nature," he said (by which I assumed he meant it's "natural"). "Without that, we human beings become like robots, no feeling. But now, practice for development of concern for well-being of others, that actually is immense benefit to oneself." ..
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once you unburden yourself from the delusion that people are deliberately trying to screw you, it's easier to stop getting carried away.
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RAIN. R: recognize A: allow I: investigate N: non-identification "Recognize" was self-explanatory. Using my David Westin example, in those moments after our--even in the best light--quite ambivalent meeting, job number one was simply to acknowledge my feelings. "It's like agreeing to pause in the face of what's here, and just acknowledge the actuality," said Brach. The first step is admitting it. "Allow" is where you lean into it. The"
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