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quoting Steinbeck-Peter said,"'A journey is like marriage. The certain way to be wrong is to think you control it."
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Laura Dave |
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It's weird to live somewhere where you can't see the stars.
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Laura Dave |
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People don't break up because someone's family is a little . . . messy. If that were the case, no one would ever get married.
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family
marriage
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Laura Dave |
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Most of the time a person wants something more than anything else. You can tell because at the end of the day that's what they're willing to fight for" -Dan"
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Laura Dave |
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Dan: Finn and Bobby are fighting over the wrong thing. But at least they're fighting. Georgia: And how is that good? Dan: Because that's the only way to get somewhere better. If you fight, you work it out. If you don't fight, you move into your own corners, and nothing gets decided there
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Laura Dave |
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Fate suggests no agency. Synchronization is all about agency. It involves all systems running in a state where different parts of the system are almost, if not precisely, ready.
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Laura Dave |
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I was suddenly and completely inundated by it. What had been lost in losing him.
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Laura Dave |
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I'd learned early on that people stay away if they think you're struggling. They don't want the stink to fall on them too.
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Laura Dave |
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I stopped paying attention to her. I stopped doing the things that someone does for the person he loves. Because I was tired. Because other things always seemed to matter a little bit more." He"
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Laura Dave |
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My father never measured success the way he did - reaching the top-top of something, as if there was an objective tip-top. My father measured it by how well you figured out what you wanted for your life - what you needed to be happy" -Georgia"
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Laura Dave |
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In physics: It's called simultaneity. In music: rhythm. In your life: epic failure.
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Laura Dave |
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This wasn't because he liked me, I was sure. It had more to do with him banking on what we of wedding age had all become witnesses to--how during these wedding weekends, single women, feeling a little lonely, maybe, or just feeling a little too far from being the bride, found themselves loosening their own rules, opting to be more flexible, more quickly.
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Laura Dave |
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only knows that the important part is to decide to stay. Again and again. And, on the days you can't, to resist deciding anything else.
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Laura Dave |
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We only really remember things for five years. After that, what we remember, what's actually etched in our brain is our memory of the thing, not the thing itself. And five years after that, what's left is our memory of the memory.
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Laura Dave |
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Growing up is never idyllic, is it? Or it'd be called something else.
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Laura Dave |
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Beauty won't protect you. Not in the end. What will is the one thing you can't plan for. The one thing you can't save for or search for or even find. It has to find you and decide to stay. Time. More of it. More of it to try and make things right.
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divorce
marriage
time
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Laura Dave |
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Thing is, either way we cut it, we shouldn't test the people we love," he said. "We do, but it's shitty and ultimately, regardless of what they did or didn't do, we're the ones who feel like we failed."
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Laura Dave |
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Be careful what you give up.
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Laura Dave |
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was like I was hurting myself and he was showing me how it looked. It was right there on his face. How it looked when we listened to our fear. Our uncertainty. When we let it be the thing that guides us. How, even if it may masquerade as safety, it almost always, ultimately, does more damage than figuring out how to do something greater, braver. Something bold. Be the opposite of yourself.
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Laura Dave |
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I didn't know yet that you can always find that perfect moment right before everything shatters.
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love
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Laura Dave |
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going to find what he was looking for there. "Would you feel better if I told you I had some great photography opportunities"
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Laura Dave |
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Growing up is never idyllic, is it? Or it'd be called something else" - Jacob"
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Laura Dave |
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He reached forward and held my face, trying to make me look at him. Except I couldn't look at him and not see all the stories he had kept private about his life this last year. There were breakfasts with Maddie, secret cards and phone calls, a million stories that he hadn't shared--including the story about how much Michelle still loved him. Wasn't the ultimate form of fidelity whom you told your stories to? Ben had stopped telling me his..
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Laura Dave |
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car. I headed down CA-116--the winding road
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Laura Dave |
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saw me. And it seemed like he was going to do the right thing. But then slowly, evenly, he shook his head. "Your father is welcome to stay on and help run the vineyard. He knows that we would love to have him. He knows that was our preference." I stared at him in disbelief. "Wow, just when I thought you might understand."
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Laura Dave |
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Knowing Finn thought I was an awful driver. Like, running of gas while getting a speeding ticket awful.
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my-life
siblings
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Laura Dave |
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I'd been wrong about the ways we move past the versions of ourselves that no longer fit. I'd thought it involved running, as far and as fast as your feet could carry you, from your former selves. I didn't understand that was the surest way to wind up exactly where you started. 44 In the morning, I looked out the window, feeling foggy and damp, like I'd had a bottle of wine the night before.
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Laura Dave |
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We have to figure out how to let go, and forgive. This is our job
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forgiveness
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Laura Dave |
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More than one thing is never true. People love to say the opposite, love to talk about inner conflict, nuances, levels of complication. But if this last year has taught her anything, it has taught her that people are clearer on what they want than they admit to themselves. They want something, or they don't. They decide to keep working at a relationship or they give up. They love someone or they love someone else. And if they love someone e..
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lie
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marriage
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Laura Dave |
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You think if you don't talk about it, you can just pretend everything is all right? Everything is not all right. Not with us, not with your parents, not with anything today. And if you let yourself go anywhere real with it, you have to acknowledge it.
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honesty
love
self-disclosure
self-discovery
truth
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I looked at Finn, tempted to explain what had just happened, Bobby moving toward him, though I kept my mouth shut, in favor of trusting what I had learned this weekend, in the face of everything falling apart, and maybe coming together in a greater way than I could have hoped for. You couldn't always work so hard to fix it. Even if things didn't always go the way they should, sometimes they went exactly where they needed to" -Georgia"
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Laura Dave |
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newspaper at that very table, and was racing
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Laura Dave |
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People always say that things come full circle, but I think that's not accurate. I think they just come very close. You find yourself almost back where you started, but you've moved slightly. Like evidence of the time that has passed, of the things that have happened.
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Laura Dave |
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I had never seen anyone concentrate like that on anything. It was like watching love.
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Laura Dave |
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Be careful what you give up...because eventually, you get it back any way you can.
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Laura Dave |
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Did it every occur to you that if you weren't living in fear of other people's opinions of you, no one would have the power to take anything away?
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Laura Dave |