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You know about trauma bonding, right?" the agent asked abruptly. "Forget kidnapping victims, you see it all the time with battered women. They're isolated, at the mercy of their dominating spouse, going through intense spells of abject terror followed by even more emotionally draining periods of soul-wrenching apologies. The trauma itself creates a powerful bonding element. The things these two have gone through together, how could anyone e..
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Being a survivor didn't just mean being strong. It meant being lonely.
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You don't become a teacher without having some level of optimism. And you don't stay in the field if you don't believe that everyone, from bitter teens to burnt-out administrators, can change. I
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Sometimes I think rage is like a furnace, and I've been angry for so many years now, I'm perpetually heated from the inside out.
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The academic world is competitive. For ideas, grants, students, funding.
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Good things can be forged from bone-deep fury.
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And what is a marriage except adding A to B and hoping it equals an amount greater than the sum of its parts? Briefly, the promise of a new life almost made the math work. Except A was still A, and B was still B. We could create a new life, but we couldn't stop being ourselves.
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Do you really think it's all gone away? Mental illness has just moved underground, into the homeless shelters and the city parks. Out of sight, out of mind for the taxpayers. It's a crying shame.
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being a math genius doesn't necessarily translate to financial gain. Lots of geniuses die poor.
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We all wear masks. And the more we have to hide, the more accomplished the veneer.
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Once upon a time, there was a little girl in a big house who loved her father so much she was sure he would never leave her. But he did. And now this.
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The truth is, genius and depression have always gone hand in hand. Which was why I spent so many afternoons, sitting at the piano, playing and playing, because my father said my music soothed his spirit and allowed him to rest in a way a truly great mind could never completely be at ease.
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I never believed Jacob was human. But sometimes, like a lot of predators, he did a decent impression of one.
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But welcome to the world of being a survivor. You make it out alive, and yet you spend the rest of your life wondering woulda, coulda, shoulda.
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It was not the past that broke you. - It was the empty future, the endless string of days filled with none of the people who mattered most.
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It's not easy, though, being brilliant. Nor being married to one.
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I wonder if that's how I look to others; like I'm normal and functional, too, when in fact, I feel completely emptied out.
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She's such a lovely woman, he'd tell me time and time again. I'd nod, because my mom is such a lovely woman. And charming and smart. Can't argue with any of that. She's also a fucking wack job.
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