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60a5005
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Ghosts don't haunt us. That's not how it works. They're present among us because we won't let go of them.
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Sue Grafton |
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bc09302
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You can't save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don't appreciate your interfering with the drama they've created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don't want to change.
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sympathy
kinsey-milhone
poor-baby
sue-grafton
drama
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Sue Grafton |
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147f0fb
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Beware the dark pool at the bottom of our hearts. In its icy, black depths dwell strange and twisted creatures it is best not to disturb.
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warnings
human-nature
monsters
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Sue Grafton |
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806f656
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It's disconcerting to realize how little you have to say to someone who once occupied such a prominent place in your bed.
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sex
relationships
inspirational
inspirational-love
breakups
realization
men-and-women
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Sue Grafton |
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aa9c54a
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Ghosts don't haunt us. That's not how it works. They're present among us because we won't let go of them." "I don't believe in ghosts," I said, faintly. "Some people can't see the color red. That doesn't mean it isn't there," she replied."
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haunting
perception
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Sue Grafton |
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d0d08ec
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There's a certain class of people who will do you in and then remain completely mystified by the depth of your pain.
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Sue Grafton |
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1127c2d
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I know there are people who believe you should forgive and forget. For the record, I'd like to say I'm a big fan of forgiveness as long as I'm given the opportunity to get even first.
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sue-grafton
vengeance
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Sue Grafton |
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e88761e
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Except for cases that clearly involve a homicidal maniac, the police like to believe murders are committed by those we know and love, and most of the time they're right - a chilling thought when you sit down to dinner with a family of five. All those potential killers passing their plates.
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murder
family
chilling
dinner
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Sue Grafton |
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481e823
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Everything happens for a reason, but that doesn't mean there's a point.
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Sue Grafton |
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5ff4008
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Personally, I'd rather grow old alone than in the company of anyone I've met so far. I don't experience myself as lonely, incomplete, or unfulfilled, but I don't talk about that much. It seems to piss people off--especially men. (Kinsey Millhone)
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solitude
single-women
the-solitary-life
independent-women
other-people
men-and-women
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Sue Grafton |
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6921551
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Pretending to be 'normal' is a lot harder than you think.
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Sue Grafton |
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8fdd8da
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Lucky is the spouse who dies first, who never has to know what survivors endure.
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Sue Grafton |
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b078565
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Smile. It gives your face something to do.
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Sue Grafton |
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f7b93c9
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You try to keep life simple but it never works, and in the end all you have left is yourself.
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Sue Grafton |
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ca315ce
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Insecure people have a special sensitivity for anything that finally confirms their own low opinion of themselves.
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people
opinion
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Sue Grafton |
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9c4c999
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In my opinion, there's no condition in life that can't be ameliorated by a dose of junk food.
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Sue Grafton |
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830f870
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You never know which people will affect your life.
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Sue Grafton |
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3c95cef
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A woman should never, never, never be financially dependent to anyone, especially a man, because the minute you were dependent, you could be abused.
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Sue Grafton |
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5371b93
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There are days when none of us can bear it, but the good comes around again. Happiness is seasonal, like anything else. Wait it out. There are people who love you. People who can help.
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Sue Grafton |
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d2de767
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What could smell better than supper being cooked by someone else?
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Sue Grafton |
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3fe52f6
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If you're unhappy, change something.
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Sue Grafton |
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4bb65f5
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I hate nature. I really do. Nature is composed entirely of sticks, dirt, fall-down places, biting and stinging things, and savageries too numerous to list. And I'm not the only one who feels this way. Man has been building cities since the year oughty-ought, just to get away from this stuff.
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Sue Grafton |
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5474423
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Sometimes being fooled by love is worth the price. At least you know you're alive and capable of feeling, even if all you end up with is chest pain.
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Sue Grafton |
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ad631ab
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People get careless when they're feeling safe.
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Sue Grafton |
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be05215
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So much of the past in encapsulated in the odds and ends. Most of us discard more information about ourselves than we ever care to preserve. Our recollection of the past is not simply distorted by our faulty perception of events remembered but skewed by those forgotten. The memory is like twin orbiting stars, one visible, one dark, the trajectory of what's evident forever affected by the gravity of what's concealed.
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perception
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Sue Grafton |
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7d6c363
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Perhaps when we're forced to forfeit what we own, we lose any sentimental associations. Perhaps pawning our valuables frees us in the same way a house fire destroys not only our worldly goods, but our attachment to what's gone.
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v-is-for-vengeance
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Sue Grafton |
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33e9c24
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We all do things we regret. It's part of growing up.
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Sue Grafton |
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6116c71
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Missing someone is a vague, unpleasant sensation, like gnawing anxiety. It isn't as concrete as grief, but it's just as pervasive and there's no escaping it.
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Sue Grafton |
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ba03fa8
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He might be a man without character, but she was a woman without courage. Of the two, which was worse?
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Sue Grafton |
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c6df2c3
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Life is hard. Life hurts. So what? You tough it out. You get through and then you'll feel good again.
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Sue Grafton |
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93c0932
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The truth isn't always nice. It isn't always small enough to absorb at once. Sometimes the truth washes over you and threatens to take you right down with it.
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Sue Grafton |
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95d5fdb
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If I'd been listening closely, I'd have caught the sound of the gods having a great big old tee-hee at my expense.
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Sue Grafton |
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b372acd
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Grief is as contagious as a yawn.
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v-is-for-vengeance
sue-grafton
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Sue Grafton |
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d010836
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There's always something else. That's what makes life so much fun.
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Sue Grafton |
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2c3ad89
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The critical lessons in life hold sway whether you like it or not.
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v-is-for-vengeance
sue-grafton
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Sue Grafton |
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c5e622a
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Life is simple. You're the one making things complex.
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Sue Grafton |
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5baba1a
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People make mistakes. People do things they never meant to do.
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Sue Grafton |
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fcb72be
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Memory is subject to a filtering process that we don't always recognize and can't always control. We remember what we can bear and we block what we cannot.
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Sue Grafton |
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fcaa7ac
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I wish life could be edited as deftly as prose. It would be nice to go back and write a better story, correcting weaknesses and follies in the light of what I now know. What I've noticed though is that any attempt to trim out the dark matter takes away some of the good that was also buried in the muck. The past is a package deal and I don't believe there's a way to tell some of the truth without telling most.Wisdom comes at a price, and I h..
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Sue Grafton |
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e9fb487
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Emotion doesn't travel in a straight line. Like water, our feelings trickle down through cracks and crevices, seeking out the little pockets of neediness and neglect, the hairline fractures in our character usually hidden from public view. Beware the dark pool at the bottom of our hearts. In its icy, black depths dwell strange and twisted creatures it is best not to disturb.
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Sue Grafton |
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e6cadc9
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These are the days that require discipline, when exercise is pure duty and the good feeling only comes later, consisting solely of self-congratulations for having done the job at all.
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Sue Grafton |
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ec78fc7
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I like difficulty. It's what makes my job fun.
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Sue Grafton |
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08a45d2
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I don't know what is love about and I'm not sure I believe in it anyway.
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Sue Grafton |
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c34ab5c
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You can't believe everything you hear. Sometimes, you can't even believe your eyes.
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Sue Grafton |