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Dying," Morrie suddenly said, "is only one thing to be sad over, Mitch. Living unhappily is something else. So many of the people who come to visit me are unhappy." Why? "Well, for one thing, the culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We're teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn't work, don't buy it. Create your own. Most people can't do it. They're more unhappy than..
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I'm too ugly to be a narcissist.
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ted-koppel
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Mitch Albom |
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I traded lots of dreams for a bigger paycheck
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Morrie closed his eyes. "I know, Mitch. You mustn't be afraid of my dying. I've had a good life, and we all know it's going to happen. I maybe have four or five months."
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Have I told you about the tension of opposites?" he says. "The tension of opposites? "Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn't. You take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted. "A tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us live somewhere in the middle." ..
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It's only horrible if you see it that way," Morrie said. "It's horrible to watch my body slowly wilt away to nothing. But it's also wonderful because of all the time I get to say good-bye." He smiled. "Not everyone is so lucky."
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bye
wilt
ill
time
nothing
lucky
horrible
slow
dying
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Mitch Albom |
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In any conversation, I was taught, there are at least three parties: you, the other person, and the Lord. I
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Mitch Albom |
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This is part of what a family is about, not just love, but letting others know there's someone who is watching out for them. It's what I missed so much when my mother died--what I call your 'spiritual security'--knowing that your family will be there watching out for you. Nothing else will give you that. Not money. Not fame." He shot me a look. "Not work," he added."
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I had also developed my own culture. Work. Over the years, I had taken labor as my companion and had moved everything else to the side.
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live
work
life
important
culture
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His eyes were more sunken than I remembered them, and his cheekbones more pronounced. This gave him a harsher, older look - until he smiled, of course, and the sagging cheeks gathered up like curtains.
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describe
ill
death
face
look
smile
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He found himself thinking about his childhood. "Why do you drink so much, Maestro?" "This is not a music question." "Are you sad, Maestro?" "Again, not a music question." "I am sad sometimes, Maestro." "Practice more. Speak less. You'll be happier." "Yes, Maestro." Everyone joins a band in this life. Sometimes, they are the wrong ones."
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friends
brotherhood
community
choices
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He nodded toward the window with the sunshine streaming in. "You see that? You can go out there, outside, anytime. You can run up and down the block and go crazy. I can't do that. I can't go out. I can't run. I can't be out there without fear of getting sick. But you know what? I appreciate that window more than you do."
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illness
dying
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Morrie likes the nickname. "Coach," he says. "All right, I'll be your coach. And you can be my player. You can play all the lovely parts of life that I'm too old for now."
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friendship
life
nickname
student
old
young
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Everyone knows they're going to die," he said again, "but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently." So we kid ourselves about death, I said. "Yes. But there's a better approach. To know you're going to die, and to be prepared for it at any time. That's better. That way you can actually be more involved in your life while you're living." How can you ever be prepared to die? "Do what the Buddhists do. Every day, have a l..
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Belief, hard work, love - you have those things, you can do anything.
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success
love
hard-work
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The greatest thing, you'll ever learn Is just to love, and be loved in return.
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Mitch Albom |
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In a strange way, I envied the quality of Morrie's time even as I lamented its diminishing supply. Why did we bother with all the distractions we did?
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life
wasted-time
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Mitch Albom |
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I'm on the last great journey here--and people want me to tell them what to pack.
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journey-of-life
dying
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And because he was still able to move his hands - Morrie always spoke with both hands waving - he showed great passion when explaining how you face the end of life.
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ill
passion
death
life
hands
wait
decision
way-of-life
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when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it.
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Mitch Albom |
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That's what we're all looking for. A certain peace with the idea of dying. If we know, in the end, that we can ultimately have that peace with dying, then we can finally do the really hard thing." Which is? "Make peace with living."
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living
peace
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Mitch Albom |
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Heaven is always thinking about us.
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Mitch Albom |
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She was broken open. But broken open is still open.
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Mitch Albom |
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Love comes when you least expect it. Love comes when you most need it. Love comes when you are ready to receive it or can no longer deny it. These are common expressions that hold varying truths of love.
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Mitch Albom |
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There is life after this life.
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Mitch Albom |
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The Blue Man held out his hand. "Fairness," he said, "does not govern life and death. If it did, no good person would ever die young."
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Mitch Albom |
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There are songs that you play that you have to restart, and songs that you play that you never get right. But when a song is complete, there is no more you can do.
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inspiration
music
musicians
piano
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Mitch Albom |
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Heaven...is the same feeling...No fear. No dark. When you know you are loved...that's the light.
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Mitch Albom |
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Holding onto things will only break your heart
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Mitch Albom |
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What's time between a mother and her daughter? Never too much, never enough.
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love
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Mitch Albom |
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The end of loneliness is when someone needs you. And the world is so full of need.
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Mitch Albom |
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Why didn't I feel this before?" she whispered. "Because we embrace our scars more than our healing," Lorraine said. "We can recall the exact day we got hurt, but who remembers the day the wound was gone?"
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Mitch Albom |
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And maybe people who only get chances to do bad, always around bad things, like us, when they finally make something good out of it, God's happy.
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Mitch Albom |
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I don't know what it is about the food your mother makes for you, especially when it's something that anyone can make - pancakes, meat loaf, tuna salad - but it carries a certain taste of memory.
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love
mother
memory
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Mitch Albom |
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So many people are in pain--no matter how smart or accomplished--they cry, they yearn, they hurt. But instead of looking down on things, they look up, which is where I should have been looking, too. Because when the world quiets to the sound of your own breathing, we all want the same things: comfort, love, and a peaceful heart.
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Mitch Albom |
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But hurting ourselves to inflict pain to others is just another cry to be loved.
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pain
self-awareness
love
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Mitch Albom |
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It's never hard to act ordinary if you feel ordinary.
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heaven
life
ordinary
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Mitch Albom |
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But the world does not cater to our timing.
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Mitch Albom |
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This is the disarming power of children: their need makes you forget your own.
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need
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Mitch Albom |
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All lonely roads lead back to music. I embrace you. I forgive you. I will never leave you.
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Mitch Albom |
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Just because you see things straight doesn't mean you see them in time.
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Mitch Albom |
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Each time we talk, he listens to me ramble, then he tries to pass on some sort of life lesson. He warns me that money is not the most important thing, contrary to the popular view on campus. He tells me I need to be "fully human." He speaks of the alienation of youth and the need for "connectedness" with the society around me."
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ramble
money
youth
human
life
connect
society
talk
lesson
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Mitch Albom |
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He asked about the newspaper strike, and true to form, he couldn't understand why both parties didn't simply communicate with each other and solve their problems. I told him not everyone was as smart as he was.
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negotiate
solve
problem
smart
strike
parties
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Mitch Albom |
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I earned a mater's degree in journalism and took the first job offered, as a sports writer. Instead of chasing my own fame, I wrote about famous athletes chasing theirs.
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writer
work
life
journalism
fame
job
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