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n ltrdd w lt'jyl ln yshl `lyW lqym bmhm@ mml@ 'w S`b@. s'Hwl 'n 'w'jl lt'jyl!
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Albert Ellis |
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'nt tryd, w tryd f`lan 'n tHqq lnjH w 'n y`mlk lakhrwn m`ml@ Hsn@ w 'n t`ysh fy Zrwf jyd@. l b's fy lrGb@. lkn `ndm tbd' fy
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Albert Ellis |
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hdh m twldh ltTlbt l'ssy@: tDkhym l'mwr, w lsh`w blHbT, w ntqd ldht w lakhryn.. hdhh lmsh`r tnb` mn l'mwr lty tfrDh `l~ nfsk wGlban m ttHwl l~ 'fkr Gyr mnTqy@ qy'm@ bdhth. w Glban m tly hdhh l'fkr 'fkran 'khr~ thnwy@ Gyr mnTqy@
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Albert Ellis |
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dh knt l 'Html f`lan fqdn `zyz `l y 'w lfshl fy l`ml 'w lt`rD llZlm fhdh m`nh 'nny ln '`rf ls`d@ 'bdan, w ln 'stmt` bshy Tyl@ Hyty. hr! 'yan knt Zrwf lHy@, Ht~ lfqr lmdq` 'w lmrD l`Dl, l yzl blmkn lstmt` bshy wlw bsyT lw fkrt 'nny 'stTy` w Hwlt l`thwr `lyh. bltly ymknny 'n 'tHml 'y shy qd l 'Hbh 'w 'Tyqh.
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Albert Ellis |
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blnsb@ l~ Htmy@ 'n ttDfr lZrwf lt`Tyk m 'nt bHj@ lyh wqt m tHtj lyh fll'sf lwq` mkhtlf. l`lm l y`b' brGbtk w lys ldyh 'y htmm shkhSy btHqyq mSlHk. lkwn l ykrhk 'w yHbk bl ywSl dwrnh bl ktrth
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Albert Ellis |
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ndm tsh`r blDyq, `l~ l'rjH 'nk tfkr sh`wryan 'w l sh`wryan bTryq@ Gyr mnTqy@ 'w hdm@. f'nt t'khdh rGbt 'w 'hdf 'w tfDylt `dy@ w tHwlh l~ frwD w wjbt jbry@
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Albert Ellis |
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'nt tsbb lDyq lnfsk `ndm tfrD `lyh tTlbt mtSlb@ w amr@. l 'nh bmknk 'n tqll mn hdh lDyq `ndm t`yd lnZr fy hdhh lHjt w tfDl `lyh mqrbt bdyl@
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Albert Ellis |
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mn lmmkn tGyyr ltTlbt lmblG bh lty tfrDh `l~ nfsk bm 'nk 'nt mn 'wjdh lnfsk. mn lshl wlTby`y 'n tqSdh w mn lmmkn 'n yshj`k lkthyrwn `l~ tb`h, fqd `tdt `lyh Ht~ btt jz mn tfkyrk w 'nt tlj' lyh mn dwn tfkyr. dh knt l tzl tw'thr fyk lan, fhdh l'nk l tzl mqtn` an bh. lkn ldyk lqdr@ `l~ `dm lqtn` bh l'n m` lmyl lTby`y l~ tdmyr ldht, hnk lmyl lTby`y l~ ms`d@ ldht. w bmknk 'n tstkhdm qdrtk lTby`y@ `l~ Hl lmshkl lbTl lathr lsyy'@ llmywl lhdm. lmhm ..
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When your heart begins to pound, your face gets hot, your thoughts race, your blood pressure skyrockets, and adrenaline surges through your body, you will seldom act in a rational way. Your rage may lead to a constant struggle to control your actions. Your fury itself may feel very uncomfortable and be a constant reminder that you are not dealing effectively with the world around you.
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Science, as I pointed out in the previous chapter, is flexible and nondogmatic. It sticks to facts and to reality (which always can change) and to logical thinking (which does not contradict itself and hold two opposite views at the same time). But it also avoids rigid all-or-none and either/or thinking and sees that reality is often two sided and includes contradictory events and characteristics. Thus, in my relations with you, I am not a ..
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Albert Ellis |
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you create severe anxiety when you jump from inclination to "musturbation."
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Albert Ellis |
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this belief realistic? Is it opposed to the facts of life? Is this belief logical? Is it contradictory to itself or to my other beliefs? Can I prove this belief? Can I falsify it? Does this belief prove that the universe has a law of deservingness or undeservingness? If I act well, do I completely deserve a good life, and if I act badly, do I totally deserve a bad existence? If I continue to strongly hold the belief (and to have the feeling..
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Albert Ellis |
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dh knt tHdd bsstmrr l'fkr lmsbb@ lltwtr w tfndh fwran, ln t`ysh s`ydan 'w b`ydan `n ltwtr md~ lHy@, lkn stkwn nw`y@ lHy@ 'fDl
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Albert Ellis |
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l ttwqf `n lbHth `n lqn`t Gyr l`qlny@ w tHdydh w tfnydh mrran w mrran l~ 'n tSbH ldyk mn`@ fkry@ w nfsy@, tmman km tnmy l`Dlt blmwZb@ `l~ ltmryn.
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Albert Ellis |
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yzyd lnsn Hlth swan `ndm yrdd lnfsh "lys mn lmfrwD 'n '`ny mn lkab@! nh mn Gyr l`dl 'n 'fqd twzny lbywkymyy'y, w 'n l 'Html hdh lwD`! 'n nsn l qym@ lh f`lan l'nny mkty'b khSwSan w 'nh l sbb wjyh ldhlk." stzyd hdhh l'fkr Gyr l`qlny@ Hwl lkab@ mn lsh`wr blHbT w tw'dy l~ tdhwr lwD` l~ 'sw'."
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Albert Ellis |
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lnsn yqlq 'kthr mn l`d@ `ndm yHwl 'kthr mn llzm 'l yqlq... `ndm tsh`r blhl`, w trdd lnfsk "yjb 'l 'Sb blhl`! nh 'mr rhyb lw f`lt!" str~ 'n sh`wrk syzdd swan. lmdh? l'n hdhh lqn`t lGyr `qlny@ ttDmn fkr@ 'n lhl` 'mr rhyb w 'nk `jz `n lsyTr@ `l~ nfsk w 'n 'sw' l'mwr fy ntZrk dh stmryt blsh`wr blhl`.. n lqlq lthnwy 'y lfz` mn fz`k l'ssy yj`lk tsh`r b'nk 'sw' Hlan km 'n hwsk bsh`wrk hdh Glban m syHwl dwn twSlk l~ m`ljth km yjb"
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Albert Ellis |
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Ht~ `ndm tHmlk lZrwf lqsy@ 'w 'y 'zmt jsdy@ l~ lsh`wr blhl` 'w lkab@ fn ltfkyr Gyr lmnTqy yshm 'yDan fy zyd@ l'mwr swan. tHml msw'wly@ jz mn mSbk w kn shkran l'nk msw'wl jzy'yan `n lwD` ldhy t`ny mnh l'n hdh m`nh 'nk 'nt qdr`l~ wD` Hd lh, dh ttwl~ qwtk lshkhSy@ w tst`mlh.
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Albert Ellis |
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We had better rate our important parts-our thoughts, feelings, and actions-to see how they helped or hindered us. But-damn it!-we didn't have to rate our self, our being, our essence. Our self or personhood was too complex to be given a global rating. We could say, for practical reasons, it was "good"-meaning it helped us to live and enjoy. Or we could say that it just didn't have to be rated at all. Use our self but not rate it!"
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Albert Ellis |
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mn lmmkn tqbl 'n l syTr@ lk `l~ "lqdr" 'w l`dyd mn lHwdth lmmkn@. dh bd't blqlq b'nh l bd 'n ttHkm fy 'y Hdth khTyr, sttbyn 'nh 'mr Gyr mmkn w Ht~ dh twSlt l~ drj@ mHdwd@ mn ltHkm fsykwn dhlk `l~ Hsb Hrytk w nw`y@ Hytk. dh tjnbt mthlan lsfr blTy'r@ l'nh ytDmn "mkhTr" l yzl hnk Html lwf@ bHdth syr@ km 'nk stHd mn mknt lsfr sw `l~ S`yd lwjht 'w t`dd lrHlt. Ht~ dh qrrt 'n tlzm lshq@ l'nh lHl lamn ymkn 'n tmwt fy Hryq. mhm Hwlt 'n t`zl nfsk ltH..
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'n 'krh 'n 'u`ml bqsw@ 'w bZlm lkn lq`d@ lyst 'n '`ml dy'man b`dl w bmr`@ lsh`wry km 'nny yjb 'l '`yr l'mr 'hmy@ 'kthr mn llzm 'w 'n 'SbH Hqwdan. n lhws blZlm Zlm `l~ nfsy.
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Albert Ellis |
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lw hbT skn lmrykh `l~ l'rD w knw `qlyn lDHkw kyf 'n shkhSan dhky mthl~ ytSrf `l~ hdh lqdr mn lGb. mn l'fDl 'n 't`lm kyf 'DHk 'n m`hm :)
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Albert Ellis |
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'nt lmSdr l'ssy ltwtrk w bltly lmftH fy ydk lt`ysh ls`d@
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Albert Ellis |
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lys mn lmjdy 'n ts`~ ltHqyq ldht bshkl mthly 'w kml l'n dhlk syn`ks `lyk slban. ltTrf fy lms`y ljyd@ Glban m yHml nty'j Gyr sr@.
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Albert Ellis |
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Intellectual Fascism 3/3 To make matters still worse, intellectual fascists frequently demand of themselves, as well as others, perfect competence and universal achievement. If they are excellent mathematicians or dancers, they demand that they be the most accomplished. If they are outstanding scientists or manufacturers, they also must be first-rate painters or writers. If they are fine poets, they not only need to be the finest, but likew..
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Intellectual Fascism - 1/3 If fascism is defined as the arbitrary belief that individuals possessing certain traits (such as those who are white, Aryan, or male) are intrinsically superior to individuals possessing certain other traits (such as those who are black, Jewish, or female), and that therefore the "superior" individuals should have distinct politico-social privileges, then the vast majority of (American) liberals and so called ant..
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Albert Ellis Ph.D |
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Intellectual Fascism - 2/3 Take, by way of illustration, two well-educated, presumably liberal, intelligent people in our culture who are arguing with each other about some point. What, out of irritation and disgust, is one likely to call the other? A "filthy black," a "dirty Jew bastard," or a "black-eyed runt"? Heavens, no. But a "stupid idiot," a "nincompoop," a "misinformed numbskull"? By all means, yes. And will the note of venom, of u..
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Albert Ellis Ph.D |
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Intellectual Fascism - 3/3 To make matters still worse, intellectual fascist frequently demand of themselves, as well as others, perfect competence and universal achievement. If they are excellent mathematicians or dancers, they demand that they be the most accomplished. If they are outstanding scientists or manufacturers, they also must be first-rate painters or writers. If they are fine poets, they not only need to be the finest, but like..
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how it blocks them from reaching their goals
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Albert Ellis |
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Another major difference between anger and other emotions results in what we call the angry person's paradox. When we experience depression, guilt, shame, or anxiety, we usually upset ourselves about something that we think we did or some characteristic we have that we think is the cause of our disturbed emotion. As a result we try to change ourselves. However, anger usually involves the externalizing of blame. When we become angry, we usua..
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Anger can be likened to an architect's blueprint. The availability of a blueprint does not cause a building to be constructed, but it does make construction easier.
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Albert Ellis |
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The relationships that are damaged are often your best.
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Albert Ellis |
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lyk 'n tZhr lnfsk - Ht~ wlw lm yrq lk fy lbd 'n tqwm bm tHwl tjnbh- 'nh mn lmmkn lt`ysh m` hdh lnz`j w ltkyf m`h.
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lyk 'n tdrk 'nh dh 'nWbk lakhrwn `l~ 'd Gyr mrDin mn jnbk fhdhh mshklthm hm l~ Hd kbyr
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l ttwqf `n lmHwl@ dh 'z`jk 'n trGm nfsk `l~ lqym bm l tHbh, l tthrb l'n hdh lDyq sylzmk l~ l'bd. mhm kn qdr lz`j, l 'nk m` lwqt stzyd mn qdrtk `l~ ltHml mm y`ny 'nk stkwn mrtHan 'kthr `l~ lmd~ lb`yd Ht~ nk qd tstmt` lHqan bm tkhshh lan
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yshtml tHqyq ldht `l~ drj@ mn lmjzf@ w ltjrb. f'nt tjrb l`dyd mn lhtmmt w lmshry` qbl 'n tktshf m trydh w m l trydh. yjb 'n l tkhf mn lmjzf@ bmwjh@ fshl mHtml dh 'rdt 'n ykwn lk dwr 'kbr w f`Wl 'kthr fy lHy@
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Albert Ellis |
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dh wjht S`wb@ fy lqym b'mr 'nt t`lm 'nh ynTwy `l~ fy'd@, ymknk 'n ttGlb `l~ lmyl l~ t'jyl lqym bh, b'n trGm nfsk `l~ t'dyth qbl lqym b`ml 'w f`l akhr t`tbrh mmt`an
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Albert Ellis |
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bmjrd 'n tqtn`w b'nkm `jzwn `n ltGyyr stj`lwn mn lmstHyl tHqyq dhlk. l'nkm `ndm tqwlwn nkm Gyr qdryn, f'ntm l sh`wryan l tbdhlwn ljhd lkfy w tkwn lntyj@ lfshl fy ltGyyr. fy lwq`, ymknn lqwl nkm 'ntm mn mn`tm 'nfskm mn ltGyyr. lys l'nkm Gyr qdryn f`lan bl l'nkm l tw'mnwn bqdrtkm, w hdh 'sw' 'nw` lZlm tjh 'nfskm
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n lt`mym bfrT Gyr mnTqy w yj`lk mHdwdan. km ywWld ldyk 'fkran msbq@ Dd Gyrk. w mn 'sw' 'shkl lt`mym ltSnyf. `ndm tqwl "'n kswl" 'nt t'khdh jnban mn Tb`k w t`mmh bfrT `l~ nfsk 'y 'nk t`ny 'nk kswl dy'man. w ltSnyf y`ny 'n lSf@ lty 'Tlqth stZl tnTbq dy'man w ln ttGyr. dh knt kswlan f`lan, kyf sykwn blmkn 'n tjd Hfzan `l~ ltGyyr m dmt Hl@ myw'ws mnh?"
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l tstslm wl tql lnfsk "'n ln 'tGyr", bl `trf b'n l'mr lys shlan"
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o dh 'rdt 'n tkwn Hkyman, 'w, bt`byr 'dq, ltSrf bHkm@ fy Glb l'Hyn - yjb 'n tmtn` nhy'yan `n tqyym nfsk 'w shkhSk. stHdd 'hdfan w Gyt mhm@ kl`ysh bs`d@ wHydan 'w m` lakhryn, fy l`ml 'w fy mjl lnshT. w`ndm tfshl fy tHqyq hdhh l'hdf, klfshl fy l`lqt ljtm`y@, ymknk 'n tqwl "hdh sy" w `ndm tnjH tqwl "hdh jyd" bdlan mn 'n trdd khT' " 'n jyd" 'w "n sy", l'n rtkb lkhT' l yj`lk 'nt lkhT'"
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o l 'Hd ywld mDTrban. lqd t`lmt w ktsbt l'fkr wlmsh`r w l'f`l lmHbT@. lmwjwd blfTr@ hw mywl bn@ w mywl hdm@. lkn l tlm nfsk `l~ trbytk 'w mywlk lhdm@, fqd ktsbth bshkl Tby`y. lnsn b`yd `n lkml, w mhm knt mwhwban 'w dhkyan f'nt m`rD lrtkb l'khT, bHkm Tby`tk lbshry@ w l'nk Hy.qd l yrwq lk lwD` lkn mn l'fDl 'n ttqblh. stqdm mrran `l~ 'f`l qd tDr bk 'w tHbTk, l'nk nsn sw '`jbk l'mr 'm l. lkn l'mr lys bhdh lsw fhnk khyrt mtH@ 'mmk. lmjrd 'nk m`r..
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hnk khyrn ltqbl ldht: bshrwT w bl shrwT. w lkhyr l'wl ln ynjH. fhw mn 'sw' l'mwr lty ymkn 'n y`ny mnh lnsn! l'n m`nh 'n ttqbl nfsk tHt shrwT m`yn@ - `ndm tnjH fy mshry` hm@ 'w tHSl `l~ mwfq@ 'shkhS dhw~ nfwdh, 'w tqdm mshm@ kbyr@ llmjtm`. qd ybdw l'mr jydan lknh syy', l'nh `ndm l tHqq hdhh lshrwT, swf tstntj mnTqyan 'nk shkhS l qym@ lh 'bdan w tnhr thqtk bnfsk, dhlk l'nk Hddt "qym@" nfsk btHqyq tlk lmTlb. nk knsn m`rD llfshl w ln tnjH dy'ma..
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Choice gives you doubts and uncertainties. Therefore, you are always somewhat anxious
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Albert Ellis |