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This life stage requires a constant process of adjustment and accommodation
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toward our seventies, our bones, shape, vision, sense of smell and taste, and even our teeth change. We react differently to medications. We don't tolerate the cold as well. As our skin thins, we bruise more easily and our cartilage deteriorates. We struggle with our balance and coordination. Everything seems to droop and sag.
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When you give up speed, you open up time.
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psychic dismemberment," which is the loss of our identity, our ways of thinking, and our sense of self."
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One of the secrets of happiness is having a host of activities that we can enjoy when we are alone. The more we can do this, the more likely we are to enjoy our lives as we age.
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Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can't cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It's just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and run as far as you can ... across the bridge that was built by your own desire
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Self-awareness allows us to separate our own needs and desires from those of others. We can ask over and over again, "What part of this interaction is about me? What part of this situation is not about me?"
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happiness correlates with reasonable expectations.
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When they shook the box and poured out its chances, you were appointed to be happy.
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Developmental psychologist Bernice Neugarten made this distinction between young-old age and old-old age. As long as we can do most of what we want to do, we are young-old age. When our health fundamentally changes the way we live, we have entered old-old age.
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Happiness seekers are unhappy when they don't get what they want. Meaning seekers can survive negative events.
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