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Living is something of an emergency anyway, but our struggles must usually be strenuously concealed. Our anxieties churn away within us, yet on the outside we must smile and deliver upbeat answers to enquiries about how we're doing.
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How seldom we notice rooftops; how easily our eyes are drawn to the more flamboyant attractions of a Roman temple or Renaissance church.
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Uno de los principales inconvenientes del amor, al menos durante un tiempo, es que corre el riesgo de hacernos felices.
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It seems that unlike the continuous, enduring contentment that we anticipate, our actual happiness with, and in, a place must be a brief and, at least to the conscious mind, apparently haphazard phenomenon: an interval in which we achieve receptivity to the world around us, in which positive thoughts of past and future coagulate and anxieties are allayed. The condition rarely endures for longer than ten minutes. New patterns of anxiety inev..
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Cand ne uitam la cineva (la un inger) din postura unei iubiri neimpartasite si ne imaginam placerea de a fi in paradis alaturi de acea persoana, suntem tentati sa trecem cu vederea un pericol important: cat de curand atractia pe care o simtim ar pali daca ingerul ar incepe sa raspunda iubirii noastre. Ne indragostim pentru ca tanjim sa evadam din noi insine alaturi de cineva pe cat de frumos, inteligent si spiritual pe atat suntem noi de ur..
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I will despise whatever lies in the domain of Fortune, but if a choice is offered, I will choose the better half.
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Cele mai atragatoare femei nu sunt cele care ne dau voie sa le sarutam imediat (devenim repede nerecunoscatori) si nici cele care nu ne lasa deloc sa le sarutam (le uitam repede), ci cele care ne duc de nas aceste extreme.
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We have almost all had the experience of gazing at the full moon. But those of us who are neither astronomers nor astronauts are unlikely to have scheduled moongazing appointments. For Zen Buddhists in Japan, however, every year, on the fifteenth day of the eighth month of the traditional Japanese lunisolar calendar, followers gather at nightfall around specially constructed cone-shaped viewing platforms, where for several hours prayers are..
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The man who shouts every time he loses his house keys is betraying a beautiful but rash faith in a universe in which keys never go astray.
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religions merit our attention for their sheer conceptual ambition; for changing the world in a way that few secular institutions ever have. They have managed to combine theories about ethics and metaphysics with a practical involvement in education, fashion, politics, travel, hostelry, initiation ceremonies, publishing, art and architecture - a range of interests which puts to shame the scope of the achievements of even the greatest and mos..
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In the field of education, it seems 'normal' to run stories about class sizes, teachers' pay, the country's performance in international league tables and the right balance between the roles of the private and state sectors. But we would risk seeming distinctly odd, even demented, if we asked whether the curriculum actually made sense; whether it really equipped students with the emotional and psychological resources that are central to the..
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If there are so many references in the Mass to poverty, sadness, failure and loss, it is because the Church views the ill, the frail of mind, the desperate and the elderly as representing aspects of humanity and (even more meaningfully) of ourselves which we are tempted to deny, but which bring us, when we can acknowledge them, closer to our need for one another. In our more arrogant moments, the sin of pride - or superbia, in Augustine's L..
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Seyahatler, dolayli da olsa, is ortaminin ve ayakta kalma mucadelesinin agir kosullarindan siyrildigimizda nasil bir yasamimiz olacagini, istedigimiz gibi yasamaktan ne anladigimizi ortaya koyar.
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Mutluluk, bizim beklentilerimizdeki gibi kesintisiz ve uzun suren bir memnuniyet duygusu degildir. Aksine, aklin ve bilincin de isin icinde oldugu, kisacik ve tesadufi bir olgudur; kisa bir sure icin dunyayi cok net algilariz; gecmisin ve gelecegin olumlu dusunceleri bir araya gelir ve endiseler ortadan kaybolur. Fakat bu durumun on dakikadan daha uzun surdugu pek nadirdir.
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For most of their relationship, Eric avoided paying his due because he knew Alice would pay when he didn't. If he paid only 10 units, she would come up with the other 30. If he didn't feel like driving over to her house then she would come to his. if he didn't wish to break a deadlock after an argument, he could count on her to play the mediator. But he miscalculated just how far he could push Alice. her share of the 40x began to slowly dec..
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De door alcohol opgewekte gevechten die op zaterdagavonden in provincieplaatsen uitbreken zijn voorspelbare symptomen van onze verbolgenheid over deze vrijheidsberoving. Ze herinneren ons aan de prijs die we betalen voor onze dagelijkse onderwerping aan orde en beleid - en aan de woede die stilletjes aanzwelt achter een gezagsgetrouwe en inschikkelijke facade.
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We gaan in op reusachtige, ongrijpbare collectieve projecten, zodat we ons afvragen wat we vorig jaar deden, sterker nog, waar wij zijn gebleven en wat er van ons geworden is. We zien onze verspilde krachten onder ogen tijdens het pathos van een pensioneringsfeestje.
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Hoe machtig onze technologie en hoe complex onze ondernemingen ook mogen zijn, het opmerkelijkste kenmerk van onze moderne arbeid is uiteindelijk misschien wel iets wat in onszelf zit, een aspect van onze mentaliteit: de wijdverbreide overtuiging dat ons werk ons gelukkig moet maken.
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Onszelf beschouwen als het middelpunt van het heelal, de huidige tijd als het hoogtepunt van de geschiedenis en onze geplande vergaderingen als gebeurtenissen van het grootst mogelijke gewicht, voorbijgaan aan de lessen die begraafplaatsen ons leren, slechts nu en dan een boek lezen, de druk van deadlines voelen, tegen collega's snauwen, ons door conferentieroosters heen werken met vermeldingen als:'11.00 uur tot 11.15 uur: koffiepauze', on..
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One wants never to give up this crystalline perspective. One wants to keep counterpositioning home with what one knows of alternative realities, as they exist in Tunis or Hyderabad. One wants never to forget that nothing here is normal, that the streets are different in Wisebaden, and Louyang, that this is just one of many possible worlds.
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Why? Because no one is able to produce a great work of art without experience, nor achieve a worldly position immediately, nor be a great lover at the first attempt; and in the interval between initial failure and subsequent success, in the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation. We suffer because we cannot spontaneously master the ingredients of fulfilment. Nietzsche
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Ergenlik suclamalari,boyutlari ne olursa olsun,insanligin cektigi acilarin karmasikligini bir anda ortadan kaldiri veriyordu.Eger ergenlik suclamasini edebiyat yapitlarina uyarlayacak olsaydik,dunya uzerindeki butun edebiyat elestirmenleri islerinden olurdu.Hamlet'in,Raskolnikov'un ve Genc Werther'in sirri neydi?Erganlik bunalimlari tabi.Peki ya Don Quixote veya Humbert Humbert?Onda ne var canim,yanit:Orta yas bunalimlari.Oyleyse zavalli An..
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Wittgenstein'i bu duruma uyarlayacak olursak,dunyamizin sinirlarinin,baskalarinin bizi anlama sinirlari tarafindan belirlendigini soyleyebiliriz.Elimizde olmadan baskalarinin algilarinin parametreleri icinde var oluruz- baskalarinin bizim komikligimizi anlama sinirlari icinde komiklik yapariz;onlarin zekasi bizim zekamizi,comertligi comertligimizi,ironisi ironimizi belirler.Karakter,hem okura hem de yazara ihtiyac duyan bir dil gibi isler.S..
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Romantik donem boyuncaruhun hisle bagdastirildigindan bahsetmistik; ancak sunu soylemekte yarar var ki cok kisa bir sure sonra his;zevkleri ya da mutluluklari degil de acilari hissetmekle ozdeslerstirilir oldu.Bir seyleri derinden yasamak; mutlu olmak;dusta islik calmak ya da bahcede sarki soylemek anlamina gelmiyordu: Ruhu olan insan acilara duyarli insan demekti artik.
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There is usually a Marxist moment in every relationship, the moment when it becomes clear that love is reciprocated.
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Long before we've had a chance to become truly familiar with our loved one, we may be filled with the curious sense that we know them already. It can seem as though we've met them somewhere before, in a previous life, perhaps, or in our dreams.
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We should give chaos pride of place once a year or so, designating occasions on which we can be briefly exempted from the two greatest pressures of secular adult life: having to be rational and having to be faithful.
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An atheist may, of course, also feel clean after taking a bath and dirty without one, but the mikveh ritual, associating outer hygiene with the recovery of a particular kind of inner purity, like so many other symbolic practices promoted by religions, manages to use a physical activity to support a spiritual lesson.
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Mary in Christianity, Isis in ancient Egypt, Demeter in Greece, Venus in Rome and Guan Yin in China have all functioned as conduits to recollections of early tenderness. Their statues often stand in darkened, womb-like spaces, their faces are compassionate and supportive, they enable us to sit, talk and cry with them. The similarities between them are too great to be coincidental. We are dealing here with figures that have evolved not out o..
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Every skillful writer foregrounds notable aspects of experience, details that might otherwise be lost in the mass of data that continuously bathes our senses - and in so doing prompts us to find and savour those in the world around us.
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There is, in the early period of love, a measure of sheer relief at being able, at last, to reveal so much of what needed to be kept hidden for the sake of propriety. We can admit to not being as respectable or as sober, as even-keeled, or as "normal" as society believes. We can be childish, imaginative, wild, hopeful, cynical, fragile, and multiple; all of this our lover can understand and accept us for. At"
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the imagination could provide a more-than-adequate substitute for the vulgar reality of actual experience'.
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Life is near-death experience.
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It wasn't only fanatics and drunkards who began conversations with strangers in public.
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There may be no good reason for things to be the way they are.
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It is by finding out what something is not that one comes closest to understanding what it is.
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True respectability stems not from the will of the majority but from proper reasoning.
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Not everyone is worth listening to.
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Why, then, if expensive things cannot bring us remarkable joy, are we so powerfully drawn to them?
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Happiness may be difficult to obtain. The obstacles are not primarily financial.
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Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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We will cease to be angry once we cease to be so hopeful.
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Our bodies hold our minds hostage to their whims and rhythms.
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The greatest works of art speak to us without knowing us.
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