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If we do something over and over again, it becomes normal. If we see the same thing over and over again, it becomes normal. If only boys are made class monitor, then at some point we will all think, even if unconsciously, that the class monitor has to be a boy. If we keep seeing only men as heads of corporations, it starts to seem 'natural' that only men should be heads of corporations.
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We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don't teach boys to care about being likeable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons.
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We are living in a time of great white evil. They are dehumanizing blacks in South Africa and Rhodesia, they fermented what happened in the Congo, they won't let American blacks vote, they won't let the Australian aborigines vote, but the worst of all is what they are doing here. This defense pact is worse than apartheid and segregation, but we don't realize it.
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They laughed and she sensed, between them, a vulgar and delicious female bond.
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Grandpapa used to say, about difficulties he had gone through, 'It did not kill me, it made me knowledgeable.'O gburo m egbu, o mee ka m malu ife.
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There are some things that are so unforgivable that they make other things easily forgivable," Kainene said. There was a pause. Inside Olanna, something calcified leaped to life."
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Sometimes I hate them," Kainene said. "The vandals." "No, them." Kainene pointed back at the room. "I hate them for dying."
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For a moment, her breath stalled, and then she laughed, a dizzying, exhilarating laugh, because her life had become a charmed film in which people found each other again.
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He missed her, a longing that tore deep into him. He resented her. He wondered endlessly what might have happened. He changed, curled more inwardly into himself. He was, by turns, inflamed by anger, twisted by confusion, withered by sadness.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He had to be an academic, but not in the humanities or he would be more self-conscious.
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I was waiting for her to ask 'Was it the one with two eyes or the one with two legs?' Why didn't she just ask 'Was it the black girl or the white girl?' " Ginika laughed. "Because this is America. You're supposed to pretend that you don't notice certain things."
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He was fired for refusing to call his new boss Mummy.
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I meant to say I am sorry Papa broke your figurines, but the words that came out were, 'I'm sorry your figurines broke, Mama.
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Do you want to go to Nsukka?' I asked when we got to the landing. 'Yes,' he said, and his eyes said that he knew I did, too. And I could not find the words in our eye language to tell him how my throat tightened at the thought of five days without Papa's voice, without his footsteps on the stairs.
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puzzled him that she did not mourn all the things she could have been. Was it a quality inherent in women, or did they just learn to shield their personal regrets, to suspend their lives, subsume themselves in child care? She
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But here is a sad truth: Our world is full of men and women who do not like powerful women. We have been so conditioned to think of power as male that a powerful woman is an aberration. And so she is policed. We ask of powerful women: Is she humble? Does she smile? Is she grateful enough? Does she have a domestic side? Questions we do not ask of powerful men, which shows that our discomfort is not with power itself, but with women.
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Then she wished, more rationally, that she could love him without needing him. Need gave him power without his trying; need was the choicelessness she often felt around him.
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All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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To love is not only to give but also to take
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o que desejo a Chizalum e o seguinte: que ela seja cheia de opinioes, e que suas opinioes provenham de uma base bem informada, humana e de uma mente aberta. Que ela tenha saude e felicidade. Que tenha a vida que quiser ter.
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But by far the worst thing we do to males -by making them feel they have to be hard -is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males.
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She had thought of them as "big," because one of the first things her friend Ginika told her was that "fat" in America was a bad word, heaving with moral judgment like "stupid" or "bastard," and not a mere description like "short" or "tall." So she had banished "fat" from her vocabulary."
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Ella no entendia el grunge , la idea de ofrecer un aspecto sucio porque podias permitirte no ir sucio, era una burla para los verdaderamente sucios.
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I was once talking about gender and a man said to me, 'Why does it have to be you as a woman? Why not you as a human being?' This type of question is a way of silencing a person's specific experiences. Of course I am a human being, but there are particular things that happen to me in the world because I am a woman.
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And that is part of the problem. That many men do not actively think about gender or notice gender.
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What struck me--with her and with many other female American friends I have--is how invested they are in being "liked." How they have been raised to believe that their being likable is very important and that this "likable" trait is a specific thing. And that specific thing does not include showing anger or being aggressive or disagreeing too loudly. We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the rever..
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his own will always be seen as different
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These people, they make you become aggressive just to hold your dignity.
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they would not understand the need to escape from the oppressive lethargy of choicelessness.
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I went to Temple?
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All of us look alike to white people," Aunty Uju said."
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I now know that nothing he does will make my life change. My life will change only if I want it to change.
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You must never behave as if your life belongs to a man.
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Don't see it as forgiving him. See it as allowing yourself to be happy.
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Are you still working on that? Since when did eating become work?
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These Americans cannot speak English
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Try listening, maybe. Hear what is being said. And remember that it's not about you.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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My own definition of a feminist is a man or a woman who says, 'Yes, there's a problem with gender as it is today and we must fix it, we must do better.' All of us, women and men, must do better.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Feminista: uma pessoa que acredita na igualdade social, politica e economica entre os sexos.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Women must be "covered up" to protect men. I find this deeply dehumanizing because it reduces women to mere props used to manage the appetites of men."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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E se os pais, desde o inicio, tivessem ensinado ambos os filhos a cozinhar macarrao instantaneo? Alias, aprender a cozinhar e bom para a vida pratica e util de um menino -- nunca vi sentido em deixar nas maos de terceiros uma coisa tao crucial como a capacidade de se nutrir.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We teach girls shame. Close your legs. Cover yourself. We make them feel as though by being born female, they are already guilty of something. And so girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. Who silence themselves. Who cannot say what they truly think.
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Todo el mundo tendra una opinion de lo que deberias hacer, pero lo importante es lo que tu quieras y no lo que los demas quieran que quieras.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Porque eres una nina>> nunca es una razon para nada. Nunca.
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