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Teach about difference. Make difference ordinary.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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They agreed, without any prodding, without the shadows of obligation or compromise, on Barack Obama. At first, even though she wished America would elect a black man as president, she thought it impossible, and she could not imagine Obama as president of the United States; he seemed too slight, too skinny, a man who would be blown away by the wind. Hillary Clinton was sturdier. Ifemelu liked to watch Clinton on television, in her square tro..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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The simplest solution to the problem of race in America? Romantic love. Not friendship. Not the kind of safe, shallow love where the objective is that both people remain comfortable. But real deep romantic love, the kind that twists you and wrings you out and makes you breathe through the nostrils of your beloved.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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She was struck by how mostly slim white people got off at the stops in Manhattan and, as the train went further into Brooklyn, the people left were mostly black and fat. She had not thought of them as "fat," though. She had thought of them as "big," because one of the first things her friend Ginika told her was that "fat" in America was a bad word, heaving with moral judgement like "stupid" or "bastard," and not a mere description like "sho..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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A quickening inside her, a dawning. She realized, quite suddenly, that she wanted to breathe the same air as Obinze.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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She liked, most of all, that in this place of affluent ease, she could pretend to be someone else, someone specially admitted into a hallowed American club, someone adorned with certainty.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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With him, she was at ease; her skin felt as though it was her right size.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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The "male gaze," as a shaper of my life's choices, is largely incidental. Gender"
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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She had seen that look before, on the faces of white women, strangers on the street, who would see her hand clasped in Curt's and instantly cloud their faces with that look. The look of people confronting a great tribal loss. It was not merely because Curt was white, it was the kind of white he was, the untamed golden hair and handsome face, the athlete's body, the sunny charm and the smell, around him, of money.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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You can't write an honest novel about race in this country. If you write about how people are really affected by race, it'll be too obvious. Black writers who do literary fiction in this country, all three of them, not the ten thousand who write those bullshit ghetto books with the bright covers, have two choices: they can do precious or they can do pretentious. When you do neither, nobody knows what to do with you. So if you're going to wr..
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literature-about-literature
race
race-in-america
race-relations
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Now that she was asked to speak at roundtables and panels, on public radio and community radio, always identified simply as The Blogger, she felt subsumed by her blog and had become her blog. There were times, lying awake at night, when her growing discomforts crawled out from the crevices, and the many readers became, in her mind, a judgmental angry mob waiting for her, biding their time until they could attack her, unmask her.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Ifemelu thought about the expression "sweet girl." Sweet girl meant that, for a long time, Don had molded Ranyinudo into a malleable shape, or that she had allowed him to think he had."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Lagos has never been, will never be, and has never aspired to be like New York, or anywhere else for that matter. Lagos has always been undisputably itself, but you would never know this at the meeting of the Nigerpolitan Club, a group of returnees who gather every week to moan about the many ways Lagos is not like New York as though Lagos had never ever been close to being like New York.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Bartholomew wore khaki trousers pulled up high on his belly, and spoke with an American accent filled with holes, mangling words until they were impossible to understand. Ifemelu sensed, from his demeanor, a deprived rural upbringing that he tried to compensate for with his American affectation, his gonnas and wannas.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Circles, homework coupons, what foolishness would she next hear? And so she began to teach him mathematics--she called it "maths" and he called it "math"
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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A man with dry, graying skin and a mop of white hair came in with a plastic tray of herbal potions for sale. "No, no, no," Aisha said to him, palm raised as though to ward him off. The man retreated. Ifemelu felt sorry for him, hungry-looking in his worn dashiki, and wondered how much he could possibly make from his sales. She should have bought something. "You talk Igbo to Chijioke. He listen to you," Aisha said. "You talk Igbo?" "Of cours..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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It is not hard," Ifemelu said firmly. "You are using the wrong comb." And she pulled the comb from Aisha's hand and put it down on the table."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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layer after layer of discontent had settled in her, and formed a mass that now propelled her. She
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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I can't believe it. My president is black like me. She read the text a few times, her eyes filling with tears. On
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way boys are. If we have sons, we don't mind knowing about their girlfriends. But our daughters' boyfriends? God forbif. (But we of course expect them to bring home the perfect man for marriage when the time is right.)
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Nao tinha mais certeza, na verdade nunca tivera certeza, se gostava de sua vida porque realmente gostava ou se porque deveria gostar.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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My own dernition is a feminist is a man or a woman who says, yes, there's a problem with gender as it is today and we must rx it, we must do better. All of us, women and men, must do better.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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b57d909
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Com frequencia faziamos perguntas cujas respostas ja sabiamos. Talvez fizessemos isso para nao precisarmos formular as outras perguntas, aquelas cujas respostas nao queriamos saber.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Ela parecia tao feliz, tao em paz, e eu me perguntei como alguem perto de mim podia se sentir assim, quando havia fogo liquido me queimando por dentro, quando o medo misturado a esperanca se agarrava nos meus calcanhares.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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As vezes a vida comeca quando o casamento acaba.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Ha alguns meses, ele escreveu dizendo que nao queria que eu ficasse procurando os porques, pois ha certas coisas que acontecem e para as quais nao podemos formular um porque, para as quais os porques simplesmente nao existem e para as quais, talvez, eles nao sejam necessarios.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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to earn the prize of being taken seriously among Nigerians in America, among Africans in America, indeed among immigrants in America, she needed more years.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don't teach boys to care about being likable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons. All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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But by far the worst thing we do to males--by making them feel they have to be hard--is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim ..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Feminista feliz africana que no odia a los hombres y a quien le gusta llevar pintalabios y tacones altos para si misma y no para los hombres" Me encanto, disfrute y ame este libro, se me hicieron muy pocas paginas. hubiera deseado continuar leyendo por mucho mas tiempo el libro, en pocas paginas aporta demasiado, es un libro no para leer una vez sino varias veces una y otra vez, hasta cambiar como dice la autora la mentalidad con la que nos..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Algunas personas preguntan: '?Por que la palabra feminista? ?Por que no solo dices que crees en los derechos humanos, o algo asi? Porque eso seria deshonesto. El feminismo es, por supuesto, parte de los derechos humanos en general, pero elegir la vaga expresion derechos humanos seria negar que existe un problema de genero especifico. Seria una forma de pretender que no fueron las mujeres las que, durante siglos, han sido excluidas. Seria co..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Les ensenemos a las ninas a sentir verguenza. 'Cierra las piernas, cubrete'. Les hacemos sentir como si por haber nacido mujeres ya fueran culpables de algo. Y asi, las ninas crecen y se convierten en mujeres incapaces de decir que tienen deseo. Crecen para ser mujeres que se silencian a si mismas. Crecen para ser mujeres que no pueden decir lo que realmente piensan. Y crecen -y esto es lo peor que le hacemos a las chicas- para ser mujeres ..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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El problema con el genero es que prescribe como debemos ser, en vez de reconocer como somos. Imagina cuanto mas felices seriamos, cuanta mas libertad tendriamos para ser nosotros mismos, si no tuviesemos el peso de las expectativas de genero"."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Pasamos demasiado tiempo ensenando a las ninas a preocuparse por lo que piensen de ellas los chicos. Y, sin embargo, con ellos no lo hacemos. No ensenamos a los ninos a preocuparse por caer bien. Pasamos demasiado tiempo diciendo a las chicas que no pueden estar enojadas o ser agresivas o duras, lo cual ya es bastante malo, pero despues nos damos la vuelta y nos dedicamos a elogiar o justificar a los hombres por las mismas razones. El mundo..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Lo peor que le hacemos a los ninos -a base de hacerles sentir que tienen que ser duros- es dejarlos con unos egos muy fragiles. Cuanto mas fuerte se siente obligado a ser un hombre, mas debilitado queda su ego. Y luego les hacemos mucho mas mal a las ninas, porque las criamos para que esten al servicio de esos fragiles egos masculinos"."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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When you are black in America and you fall in love with a white person, race doesn't matter when you're alone together because it's just you and your love. But the minute you step outside, race matters.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Because human beings lived then in a world in which physical strength was the most important attribute for survival; the physically stronger person was more likely to lead. And men in general are physically stronger. (There are of course many exceptions.) Today, we live in a vastly diSerent world. The person more qualired to lead is not the physically stronger person. It is the more intelligent, the more knowledgeable, the more creative, mo..
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gender-roles
wage-gap
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Quante altre persone erano diventate nere in America?
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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It was like somebody sprinkling pepper on his wound: Thousands of Biafrans were dead, and this man wanted to know if there was anything new about one dead white man. Richard would write about this, the rule of Western journalism: One hundred dead black people equal one dead white person.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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As they walked out of the store, Ifemelu said, "I was waiting for her to ask 'Was it the one with two eyes or the one with two legs?' Why didn't she just ask 'Was it the black girl or the white girl?' " Ginika laughed. "Because this is America. You're supposed to pretend that you don't notice certain things."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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People were saying, Oh, why did he slap her when she's a widow, and that annoyed her even more. She said she should not have been slapped because she is a full human being, not because she doesn't have a husband to speak for her. So some of her female students went and printed Full Human Being on T-shirts. I guess it made her well-known.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Impossible," he said, and switched to Igbo. "Ama m atu inu. I even know proverbs." "Yes. The basic one everybody knows. A frog does not run in the afternoon for nothing." "No. I know serious proverbs. Akota ife ka ubi, e lee oba. If something bigger than the farm is dug up, the barn is sold." "Ah, you want to try me?" she asked, laughing. "Acho afu adi ako n'akpa dibia. The medicine man's bag has all kinds of things." "Not bad," he said. "E..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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I just want to be regular.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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he was out playing and heard Molly calling him. "Richard! Supper!" Instead of answering "Coming!" and running to her, he dodged under a hedge, scraping his knees. "Richard! Richard!" Molly sounded frantic this time, but he remained silent, crouched. "Richard! Where are you, Dicky?" A rabbit stopped and watched him, and he locked eyes with the rabbit and, for those short moments, only he and the rabbit knew where he was. Then the rabbit leap..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |