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Both men and women are resistant to talk about gender, or are quick to dismiss the problems of gender. Because thinking of changing the status quo is always uncomfortable.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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With Curt, she became, in her mind, a woman free of knots and cares...She was lighter and leaner; she was Curt's Girlfriend, a role she slipped into as into a favorite, flattering dress.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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One day, I will look up and all the people I know will be dead or abroad." She had spoken wearily."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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as though the writers lived in a world in which the present was unconnected to the past, and they had never considered this to be the normal course of history: the influx into Britain of black and brown people from countries created by Britain. Yet he understood. It had to be comforting, this denial of history.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don't teach boys to care about being likeable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons. All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or plea..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don't teach boys to care about being likeable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons. All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how t..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He looked people in the eye not because he was interested in them but because he knew it made them feel that he was interested in them.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He taught ideas of nuance and complexity in his classes and yet he was asking her for a single reason, the cause. But she had not had a bold epiphany and there was no cause; it was simply that layer after layer of discontent had settled in her, and formed a mass that now propelled her.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Olanna gently placed a pillow beneath her head and sat thinking about how a single act could reverberate over time and space and leave stains that could never be washed off.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Nigeria became where she was supposed to be, the only place she could sink her roots in without the constant urge to tug them out and shake off the soil.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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She called him often, with cheap phone cards she bought from the crowded store of a gas station on Lancaster Avenue, and just scratching off the metallic dust, to reveal the numbers printed beneath, flooded her with anticipation: to hear Obinze's voice again. He calmed her. With him, she could feel whatever she felt, and she did not have to force some cheer into her voice, as she did with her parents, telling them she was very fine, very ho..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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The more they talked, the more she told herself that this was no coincidence; there was a significance to her meeting this man on the day that she returned her voice to herself.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Charming, was what one of the girls said later: Your boyfriend is so charming. And the thought occurred to Ifemelu that she did not like charm. Not Curt's kind, with its need to dazzle, to perform. She wished Curt were quieter and more inward. When he started conversations with people in elevators, or lavishly complimented strangers, she held her breath, certain that they could see what an attention-loving person he was.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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There were, on a window ledge, photos of Emenike squinting in front of the Sistine Chapel, making a peace sign at the Acropolis, standing at the Colosseum, his shirt the same nutmeg color as the wall of the ruin. Obinze imagined him, dutiful and determined, visiting the places he was supposed to visit, thinking, as he did so, not of the things he was seeing but of the photos he would take of them and of the people who would see those photos..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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She felt a step removed from the things he believed, and the things he knew, and she was eager to play catch-up, fascinated by his sense of rightness.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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This is a modified version of a talk I delivered in December 2012 at TEDxEuston,
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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This is a modified version of a talk I delivered in December 2012 at TEDxEuston, a yearly conference focused on Africa. Speakers
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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To take "charity" for granted, to revel in this charity towards people whom one did not know - perhaps it came from having had yesterday and having today and expecting to have tomorrow. She envied them this."
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slice-of-life
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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sat thinking about how a single act could reverberate over time and space and leave stains that could never be washed off.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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The pioneering American journalist Marlene Sanders, who was the first woman to report from Vietnam during the war (and who was the mother of a son), once gave this piece of advice to a younger journalist: "Never apologize for working. You love what you do, and loving what you do is a great gift to give your child."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Posiveli lasje na strani so bili pocesani naprej, komicna ureditev, ki naj bi prikrila pleso. Moral je biti akademik, vendar ne v humanistiki, sicer bi bil bolj samozavesten. Znanost, kot je kemija, morda.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Depression was what happened to Americans, with their self-absolving need to turn everything into an illness.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Do you want this one, sweetheart? The yellow or the blue or the red? Which do you want?" Just give her one, Ifemelu thought. To overwhelm a child of four with choices, to lay on her the burden of making a decision, was to deprive her of the bliss of childhood. Adulthood, after all, already loomed, where she would have to make grimmer and grimmer decisions."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Es lo que Estados Unidos logra de ti, piensa. Te impone el igualitarismo. Como no tienes a nadie con quien hablar, aparte de tus hijos pequenos, recurres a la criada. Y antes de que te des cuenta es tu amiga. Tu igual.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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El siempre se esforzaba por ser diferente, incluso cuando no importaba. Era como si actuara en lugar de vivir.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Se repetimos uma coisa varias vezes, ela se torna normal. Se vemos uma coisa com frequencia, ela se torna normal. Se so os meninos sao escolhidos como monitores da classe, entao em algum momento nos todos vamos achar, mesmo que inconscientemente, que so um menino pode ser o monitor da classe. Se so os homens ocupam cargos de chefia nas empresas, comecamos a achar "normal" que esses cargos de chefia so sejam ocupados por homens."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Entao, de uma forma literal, os homens governam o mundo. Isso fazia sentido ha mil anos. Os seres humanos viviam num mundo onde a forca fisica era o atributo mais importante para a sobrevivencia; quanto mais forte a pessoa, mais chances ela tinha de liderar. E os homens, de uma maneira geral, sao fisicamente mais fortes. Hoje, vivemos num mundo completamente diferente. A pessoa mais qualificada para liderar nao e a pessoa fisicamente mais f..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Mas o pior e que, quando os pressionamos a agir como duroes, nos os deixamos com o ego muito fragil. Quanto mais duro um homem acha que deve ser, mais fraco sera seu ego. E criamos as meninas de uma maneira bastante perniciosa, porque as ensinamos a cuidar do ego fragil do sexo masculino. Ensinamos as meninas a se encolher, a se diminuir, dizendo-lhes: "Voce pode ter ambicao, mas nao muita. Deve almejar o sucesso, mas nao muito. Senao voce ..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?" Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general--but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human. For centuries, the world divided human beings into two groups and then proceeded to exclude and oppress one group. It is only fair that the solution to the problem acknowledge that.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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When I started in real estate, I considered renovating old houses instead of tearing them down, but it didn't make sense. Nigerians don't buy houses because they're old. A renovated two-hundred-year-old mill granary, you know, the kind of thing Europeans like. It doesn't work here at all. But of course it makes sense because we are Third Worlders and Third Worlders are forward-looking, we like things to be new, because our best is still ahe..
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There are slightly more women than men in the world--52 percent of the world's population is female--but most of the positions of power and prestige are occupied by men. The late Kenyan Nobel peace laureate Wangari Maathai put it simply and well when she said, the higher you go, the fewer women there are.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Hombres y mujeres somos distintos. Hormonas distintas, organos sexuales distintos y capacidades biologicas distintas: las mujeres pueden tener bebes y los hombres no. Los hombres tienen mas testosterona y por lo general mas fuerza fisica que las mujeres. La poblacion femenina del mundo es ligeramente mayor --un 52 por ciento de la poblacion mundial son mujeres--, y sin embargo la mayoria de los cargos de poder y prestigio estan ocupados por..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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To make sure she doesn't inherit shame from you, you have to free yourself of your own inherited shame. And I know how terribly difficult that is. In every culture in the world, female sexuality is about shame. Even cultures that expect women to be sexy--like many in the West--still do not expect them to be sexual.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He was no longer sure, he had in fact never been sure, whether he liked his life because he really did or whether he liked it because he was supposed to.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Esa es la naturaleza de Dios. Si comprendes la idea basica de la naturaleza de Dios es diferente de la humana, entonces todo cobra sentido -dijo Chinedu, y abrio la portezuela para bajarse del coche.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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No entiendes como funciona este pais. Si quieres llegar a alguna parte debes integrarte todo lo posible en la corriente principal. Si no, te que das en la cuneta.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Here's a nifty solution: Each couple that marries should take on an entirely new surname, chosen however they want as long as both agree to it, so that a day after the wedding, both husband and wife can hold hands and joyfully journey off to the municipal offices to change their passports, driver's licenses, signatures, initials, bank accounts, etc.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Habia algo humillantemente publico y carente de dignidad en ese lugar, en ese espacio abierto con tantas mesas y tanta comida.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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I think you travel to search and you come back home to find yourself there.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |