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Una vez yo estaba hablando de cuestiones de genero y un hombre me dijo "?Por que tienes que hablar como mujer? ?Por que no hablas como ser humano?". Este tipo de preguntas es una forma de silenciar las experiencias concretas de una persona. Por supuesto que soy un ser humano, pero hay cosas concretas que me pasan a mi en el mundo por el hecho de ser mujer. Y aquel mismo hombre, por cierto, hablaba a menudo de su experiencia como hombre negr..
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feminism
feminismo
women-s-rights
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She had not merely been attracted to him, she had been arrested by him and in her mind he had become the perfect partner she would never have
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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If we do something over and over again, it becomes normal. If we see the same thing over and over again, it becomes normal. If only boys are made class monitor, then at some point we will all think, even if unconsciously, that the class monitor has to be a boy. If we keep seeing only men as heads of corporations, it starts to seem 'natural' that only men should be heads of corporations.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don't teach boys to care about being likeable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We are living in a time of great white evil. They are dehumanizing blacks in South Africa and Rhodesia, they fermented what happened in the Congo, they won't let American blacks vote, they won't let the Australian aborigines vote, but the worst of all is what they are doing here. This defense pact is worse than apartheid and segregation, but we don't realize it.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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They laughed and she sensed, between them, a vulgar and delicious female bond.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Grandpapa used to say, about difficulties he had gone through, 'It did not kill me, it made me knowledgeable.'O gburo m egbu, o mee ka m malu ife.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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There are some things that are so unforgivable that they make other things easily forgivable," Kainene said. There was a pause. Inside Olanna, something calcified leaped to life."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Sometimes I hate them," Kainene said. "The vandals." "No, them." Kainene pointed back at the room. "I hate them for dying."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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For a moment, her breath stalled, and then she laughed, a dizzying, exhilarating laugh, because her life had become a charmed film in which people found each other again.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He missed her, a longing that tore deep into him. He resented her. He wondered endlessly what might have happened. He changed, curled more inwardly into himself. He was, by turns, inflamed by anger, twisted by confusion, withered by sadness.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He had to be an academic, but not in the humanities or he would be more self-conscious.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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I was waiting for her to ask 'Was it the one with two eyes or the one with two legs?' Why didn't she just ask 'Was it the black girl or the white girl?' " Ginika laughed. "Because this is America. You're supposed to pretend that you don't notice certain things."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He was fired for refusing to call his new boss Mummy.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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I meant to say I am sorry Papa broke your figurines, but the words that came out were, 'I'm sorry your figurines broke, Mama.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Do you want to go to Nsukka?' I asked when we got to the landing. 'Yes,' he said, and his eyes said that he knew I did, too. And I could not find the words in our eye language to tell him how my throat tightened at the thought of five days without Papa's voice, without his footsteps on the stairs.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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puzzled him that she did not mourn all the things she could have been. Was it a quality inherent in women, or did they just learn to shield their personal regrets, to suspend their lives, subsume themselves in child care? She
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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But here is a sad truth: Our world is full of men and women who do not like powerful women. We have been so conditioned to think of power as male that a powerful woman is an aberration. And so she is policed. We ask of powerful women: Is she humble? Does she smile? Is she grateful enough? Does she have a domestic side? Questions we do not ask of powerful men, which shows that our discomfort is not with power itself, but with women.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Then she wished, more rationally, that she could love him without needing him. Need gave him power without his trying; need was the choicelessness she often felt around him.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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To love is not only to give but also to take
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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She had read many of them, because he recommended them, but they were like cotton candy that so easily evaporated from her tongue's memory.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We police girls. We praise girls for virginity but we don't praise boys for virginity.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way boys are.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Be deliberate also about showing her the enduring beauty and resilience of Africans and of black people. Why? Because of the power dynamics in the world, she will grow up seeing images of white beauty, white ability, and white achievement, no matter where she is in the world. It will be in the TV shows she watches, in the popular culture she consumes, in the books she reads.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Teach her that to love is not only to give but also to take. This is important because we give girls subtle cues about their lives - we teach girls that a large component of their ability to love is their ability to sacrifice their selves. We do not teach this to boys. Teach her that to love she must give of herself emotionally but she must also expect to be given to.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He was already looking at their relationship through the lens of the past tense.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Chispeante Paola era como las estrellas plateadas que las maestras de Curt pegaban en las hojas de su cuaderno en primaria, fuentes de placer superficial y efimero.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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that gently forbearing tone that he used when they talked about novels, as though he were sure that she, with a little more time and a little more wisdom, would come to accept that the novels he liked were superior, novels written by young and youngish men and packed with things, a fascinating, confounding accumulation of brands and music and comic books and icons, with emotions skimmed over, and each sentence stylishly aware of its own sty..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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To restore the dignity of man. Obiora was reading the plaque, too. He let out a short cackle and asked, "But when did man lose his dignity?"
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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University was bigger and baggier, there was room to hide, so much room; she did not feel as though she did not belong because there were so many options for belonging.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Iloba would often...appear at Obinze's door on Sunday afternoons when Obinze was tired from the langour of Sunday afternoons.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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He thinks we should complicate it, so it's not race alone...'Nuance' means keep people comfortable so everyone is free to think of themselves as individuals and everyone got where they are because of achievement.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Ifemelu told her about the vertigo she had felt the first time she went to the supermarket; in the cereal aisle, she had wanted to get corn flakes, which she was used to eating back home, but suddenly confronted by a hundred different cereal boxes, in a swirl of colors and images, she had fought dizziness. She told this story because she thought it was funny; it appealed harmlessly to the American ego.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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This is really corny but I am so full of you, it's like I'm breathing you, you know?" he had said, and she thought that the romance novelists were wrong and it was men, not women, who were the true romantics."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Some people ask, 'Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?' Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general - but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender, it would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Please note that I am not suggesting that you raise her to be "non-judgemental," which is is a commonly used expression these days, and which slightly worries me. The general sentiment behind the idea is a fine one, but "non-judgmental" can easily devolve into meaning "don't have an opinion about anything" or "I keep my opinions to myself." And so, instead of that, what I hope for Chizalum is this: that she will be full of opinions, and tha..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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it is one thing to know something intellectually and quite another to feel it emotionally.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Pero se sentia incomoda con lo que los profesores llamaban <>, y no entendia por que eso debia incluirse en la nota final; solo servia para inducir a los alumnos a hablar y hablar, perdiendo tiempo de clase con obviedades, vacuidades, a veces sinsentidos
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Ifemelu imaginaba a los autores, nigerianos en casas lugubres de Estados Unidos, sus vidas amortecidas por el trabajo, guardando el dinero ahorrado con cuidado a lo largo del ano para poder visitar su pais en diciembre durante una semana, y entonces llegarian con maletas llenas de zapatos y ropa y relojes baratos, y verian, en los ojos de sus parientes, imagenes de si mismos intensamente brunidas. Despues regresarian a Estados Unidos para s..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Estas en un pais que no es el tuyo. Para salir adelante, haces lo que tengas que hacer.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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and they had never considered this to be the normal course of history: the influx into Britain of black and brown people frount countries created by Britain.
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race-issues
race-relations
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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And what's a Magic Negro, you ask? The black man who is eternally wise and kind. He never reacts under great suffering, never gets angry, is never threatening. He always forgives all kinds of racist shit. He teaches the white person how to break down the sad but understandable prejudice in his heart. You see this man in many films. And Obama is straight from central casting.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Waugh is the best of them. Brideshead is the
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |