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When you think that someone else thinks you are wrong or guilty because of the color of your skin, your responses to or interactions with them are not grounded in reality. They are the result of programming and conditioning.
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Even in the information age, trust is not a mass commodity that can be acquired; it must be handcrafted in your soul.
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Trusting life is easy, but it requires that you understand and embrace the laws of life. Cause and effect, correspondence, vibration, attraction, love, and forgiveness are all concrete laws that govern the movement and unfolding of life. It is unfortunate that we are not taught these laws in school. It is even more unfortunate that we do not pay attention to how we do what we do, because that is how the laws are made practical and personal ..
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In the process of surviving in an environment that is void of trust, children also learn to deny themselves and their wounds in order to protect the image and needs of the big people in the environment.
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Even before my grandmother could beat or punish me for one thing or another, before my father could sit me down to lecture me about my defiant disobedience, I was already hemorrhaging internally from dragging myself through my own mental and emotional bloodbath. Years of beatings and lectures and punishments had taught me not only that was I untrustworthy but also that I should not and could not trust my own instincts. I carried those thoug..
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FORGIVENESS SHIFTED MY PERSPECTIVE, MY LIFE, AND THE VITAL SIGNS OF MY FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS.
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lived with as men was I able to find, hold, and see them with compassion.
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Doing something wrong meant that I had not pleased the person or people in charge. It also meant that what I thought, what I felt, and what I needed or desired was of little or no consequence. As I grew older, more creative, and increasingly independent, there were many situations when I acted out in unmistakable defiance of the authority figures in my life. In each and every instance when I attempted to assert my thoughts or my voice, I wa..
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Doing the wrong thing can be corrected. Being wrong, on the other hand, is a fatal flaw. When being who we are--our essence--is deemed wrong, everything we touch becomes contaminated. Our innate wrongness becomes the filter through which we see the world and measure our worth, value, and deservedness.
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is very hard to learn to trust yourself when you are taught that you are bad, wrong, and cursed--and that you did all of it to yourself. H
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Any spiritual healer on the planet would probably tell you that at the root of all cancer is a seed of anger. When anger festers, it promotes cancer
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I recognized that a broken life is a test of faith of the highest order.
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It is always so much easier to blame someone else rather than accepting responsibility for your experiences.
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suffered, to forgive the one who inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness. --MARIANNE WILLIAMSON
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Today's practice is about clearing and releasing the hurts, wounds, and judgments you may hold about or against women. Our experience and expectations of women begins with our mothers. Chances are if we have any judgments about our mothers, they will extend to other women.
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NO CHOICE IS A BAD CHOICE; EVERY CHOICE IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR LEARNING TO UNFOLD.
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A MOTHER IS HER CHILDREN'S FIRST TEACHER. HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER CHILDREN BEGINS WHEN THEY ARE IN THE WOMB.
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Open yourself to consider the glorious possibilities that lie just beyond how you have seen, held, and related to the masculine energy of the Creator that is embodied in all men.
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THE MEN YOU HAVE LOVED OR THOSE WHO REFUSED TO LOVE YOU
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Today's Forgiveness Practice is about forgiving the judgments, hurts, and wounds that may be buried in your consciousness and are engraved into your mother's name. You will be forgiving all thoughts, beliefs, memories, and experiences you may have judged as wrong, unfair, unkind, or unloving.
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for the supervisor's failure to promote us, for Boo-Boo's cheating, and for the fact that we just can't seem to get our lives
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I WONDER IF PEOPLE REALIZED THE PAIN THEY CAUSE WITH THEIR MEAN SPEAKING AND JUDGMENTS
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the form of gossip, betrayal, and unwarranted judgment. Women are also more prone than men to compare themselves to one another.
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Although frustrated and angry, I was determined not to give up on forgiveness or myself.
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What if forgiving my mother also means forgiving myself?
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Surrender is a state of mind and being that opens the mind and heart to divine revelation.
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forgive myself; and ask them for forgiveness. More important, I had to see the best in them, no matter what they chose for themselves.
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thinking that I had done something
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possibilities You have in store for me.Today,
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The story was no longer important to tell.
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dislike in ourselves.
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there comes a point where a person's psycho-social history is of little or no consequence.
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DREAMS THE CHILDREN HAVE FOR
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I had watched my father, my uncles, my brother, and even my son--only on occasion--treat the women in their lives less than honorably.
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INCREASES OUR CHANCES TO RECEIVE WITHOUT DOING ANYTHING.
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and over, the job you go to day in and day out, the status of your bank account. Now consider what you believe is missing in your life . . . Everything you are experiencing is a function of your files, or what you are thinking. Another way to increase your awareness of your dominant negative thought patterns is to closely examine what you think about other people. Here is a series of truths that is often difficult for people to recognize or..
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ACCEPT ABOUT OURSELVES.
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we really want to see change in the world and find a common, sacred meeting place, we can practice forgiveness rather than against-ness.
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The greatest service I can offer is ... willingness to do things in a new way. Some of us are given the awesome task of breaking our family's pattern of poverty, pain, suffering, ignorance and fear. Some of us come into life for the sheer purpose of guiding our family into a new way of thinking, living and being. For this reason, your family may think you are weird or different. They may accuse you of doing things that are not right. They m..
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Anything and everything we experience is a function of what and how we think. How we think determines our feelings and behavior. How we behave determines the nature and quality of our lives. This also means that any emotional investment (i.e., feelings) that are attached to a particular thought pattern will resurface each time the pattern is engaged or entertained. To neutralize and eventually eliminate an unconscious, unproductive pattern ..
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Prayer is the way we communicate with God. Affirmation is the way we reprogram the mind.
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opinions, and convictions when they do not mirror what I believe.
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JEALOUSY, AND RIDICULE.
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