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within me so that my divine relationship with all men will be restored. I ask for the will to forgive and move forward in love. I lay down my weapons. I open my heart. I forgive. I let it be! And so it is!
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Much to my surprise, as I set them free, I was able to forgive myself for the judgments I had made about them. I now hold them in a loving space in my heart and honor them as my ancestors who love me and guide me each day.
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When we know, believe, and understand that we are individual expressions of God, trusting ourselves and trusting God are the same. There is no separation.
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the form of gossip, betrayal, and unwarranted judgment. Women are also more prone than men to compare themselves to one another. We often measure our value and worth by comparing ourselves to another woman's weight, breast size, complexion, career, talents, financial status, intellect, personal style, marital status, and every other aspect of their lives.
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TRIED SO HARD TO KEEP THEM FROM FAILING THAT I FAILED TO GIVE THEM WHAT THEY NEEDED TO SUCCEED
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You have to accept that you can't change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours.
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It has set me free from the prison of my mind that caused me to judge others and myself.
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When you do not trust yourself, what you feel, and what you know, you will expect people to be who they are not. You will hope against hope that they will do things you already know they cannot do. You will expect them to be who you want them to be rather than trusting what you know about who they are and what they are capable of doing. This is not trust. This is magical thinking, and engaging in it will set you up for a big letdown. Trusti..
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There are those moments when you simply need to be "with" someone, to listen and give her the opportunity to spin all of the chaos out of her mind before you speak or offer advice. When"
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Comparison is an act of violence against the self. It also leads to judgments and jealousy of those we deem "better off" than we are. If we aren't the ones doing the comparing, then we're the ones against whom other women measure themselves. In either case, the comparison, judgments, and jealousy can lead to ugly behavior."
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When doubt is present in your consciousness it indicates a much more profound problem. The real problem is the personal lie. Everyone has one: It is a story that we tell ourselves about who we are and what we do and do not deserve in life. Your personal lie is a function of all of the broken pieces of your puzzle--all of the elements of your history, all of your experiences, all that you have been taught about yourself merging with all that..
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AS I LEARNED TO FORGIVE MY SISTER, I LEARNED TO FORGIVE MYSELF FOR ALL THE TIMES I DID TO OTHER WOMEN WHAT I THOUGHT SHE HAD DONE TO ME.
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Ponder said to write down what I wanted and to forgive myself for not having it.
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Whether the apple is deemed a good sign or bad sign depends on what that person believes
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Price writes that money is a function of My Own Natural Energy Yield. In essence, whatever we hold in our minds and hearts will either enhance or obstruct our ability to receive--not just money but all that we desire.
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When we have distorted and painful images of men and masculinity, more often than not we find ourselves in dysfunctional relationships with all forms of power and authority.
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I let forgiveness rest upon all things. Then forgiveness will be given to me.
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If our parents do not fare well and we are constantly frustrated because our needs are not met, we can end up with a conscious or unconscious sense of worthlessness, helplessness, and a mistrust of people and the world in general.
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The key is to be grateful for the scenarios we choose and those in which we find ourselves. The issue is to forgive ourselves for the judgments we have made about the work we do, the people we work with, and the value of what we bring to the work we do.
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When is he and all of his energy going to vacate the crevices of my mind?
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Today, I ask to be forgiven for it all as I forgive others. Today, I choose to see the world and all people with the eyes of love, acceptance, and peace.
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The underlying message of her efforts was that I could not trust my own instincts because to do so might lead to a fate far worse than the punishment I had received. It also communicated to me that my behavior could, and often did, cause problems for other people. Believing, or being taught to believe, that what you do is wrong is one thing. Learning, or being told, that who you are is wrong opens up a much deeper wound that has a direct im..
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Work is not just about getting paid what you're worth. It is about using your gifts, sharing the best of who you are, and using what brings you joy to make someone else's life better." Never in my life had I heard anything like that. At the time, it sounded crazy."
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Learning to trust yourself means focusing on the good you are, the good you have, and the good you desire so that the truth can heal all error thought and allow you to see the blessing hidden in all that you have been through, gone through, and grown through.
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Whether you consider yourself religious, spiritual, somewhere in between, or nowhere on the continuum, your relationship with your Source, Creator, or Divine Essence impacts and affects every relationship in your life, including the relationship you have with yourself.
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I was also afraid that I wouldn't be good enough to compete in that arena.
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The biggest choice for me was surrendering the need to understand.
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We've got to learn how to trust ourselves and dare to acknowledge what we really feel. We've got to learn how to trust that God is in the mix and that we are a part of God. We've got to learn how to trust each other to do the right thing because it's the right thing. We've got to learn how to trust in the process of life and surrender our inflated human egos. Because
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Once you commit to believing that you can trust yourself, your positive internal voice will eventually become louder than the negative external voices. Trusting what you hear--whether or not those around you agree with you--is a powerful and important step
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We must fill our minds with a truth loud enough to drown our the incessant defeatist voice of the negative ego.
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It is impossible to pretend that you are not heir to, and therefore, however inadequately or unwillingly, responsible to, and for, the time and place that give you life. --James Baldwin
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The bottom line intention of Trust is this: You must commit to building your trust muscles on a daily basis through spiritual practice. Because trust is an inner process, the development and deepening of trust can happen only within you. That is why a consistent spiritual practice is so critical. It is the means by which you can reach the point within yourself where you know and accept that no matter what happens, you will be okay. You
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Trust is an essential soul need. The psychological injuries and emotional wounds we experience as children affect our soul. When the soul does not develop within the experience of trust, there remains within us a child who is in a constant search for attention, understanding, love, respect, and possibly justice for her abuse or neglect. These needs, when left unmet and unaddressed, will fester and grow into disruptive and/or dysfunctional b..
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As you move through today's practice, give yourself permission to tell the low-down, dirty truth about what you are thinking, feeling, and believing. What part of yourself can you see in your partner/ex-partner? And are you willing to forgive it in you? Love brings up everything unlike itself. This means the deeper you love someone, the more unloving parts of yourself will be revealed.
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It is far better to be free to govern or misgovern yourself than to be governed by anybody else. -- Kwame Nkrumah
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If I am seeing something that is blocking my awareness of love, it is an image of a false idea that I created and only forgiveness will dissolve it.
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In order to reconnect with and heal this aspect of our identity and learn to trust ourselves again, we must acknowledge that we feel angry, sad, and injured, even if we do not understand why. Redeeming this inner child and reestablishing trust within ourselves also means learning how to love, care for, and nourish ourselves in the way we longed for as children. As we learn to heal the inner child and reconnect with the innocence and trustin..
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you pray for something and you do not see the answer, consider the following: (1) Is what you want good for you? (2) Will you or anyone else be hurt by your having it? (3) Are you ready for the responsibility of having it? If you can answer these questions affirmatively, and the answer to your prayer has not manifested, the issue is probably patience.
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I am now willing to forgive myself ... for not taking time to deal with certain unpleasant memories. You don't have to be angry because you were not recognized or acknowledged as a child. No matter how hard you tried or how well you did, no one noticed. It may have seemed as if those who were a little better, a little bigger, a little smarter got all the attention. That may be true, but you don't have to be mad about that today. You don't h..
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To forgive your mother opens and heals your heart.
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When we experienced anger, we had to stuff it, camouflage it or deny it. In essence, we held on to it. That anger grew with us into habits, attitudes, beliefs, perceptions and decisions. Anger makes us anxious and impatient. Angry people are, "See, I told you so!" people. They can also be, "I knew this would happen!" people. They are always looking for reasons to be angry and ways to express the anger they have been holding. If you feel lef..
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Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live . . . And
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We see in one another the things we cannot see or accept about
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Your head or intellect is addicted to the satisfaction of your physical senses--the place that holds all of the programming and conditioning of your childhood and adult experiences and is the throne of the negative ego.
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