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In a novel, all his life's anxieties, his mixture of strength and weakness, his potential for hysteria - all would have been swirled away in a vortex of love leading to the blissful calm of marriage. But one of life's many disappointments was that it was never a novel, not by Maupassant or anyone else. Well, perhaps a short satirical tale by Gogol.
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Sad sex is when you feel you're losing all touch with her, and she with you, but this is the way of telling one another that the connection is still there, somehow; that neither of you is giving up on the other, even if part of you fears that you should. Then you discover that insisting on the connection is the same as prolonging the pain.
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sex-life
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sexual orthodoxy and the exercise of power. If a President can't keep his pants on, does he lose the right to rule us? If a public servant cheats on his wife does this make him more likely to cheat on the electorate? For myself, I'd rather be ruled by an adulterer, by some sexual rogue, than by a prim celibate or zipped-up spouse. As criminals tend to specialize in certain crimes, so corrupt politicians normally specialize in their corrupti..
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No sooner do we come into this world,' said Flaubert, 'than bits of us start to fall off.
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When people say, 'She's a good-looking woman,' they usually mean, 'She used to be a good-looking woman.' But when I say that about Margaret, I mean it. She thinks - she knows - that she's changed, and she has; though less to me than to anybody else. Naturally, I can't speak for the restaurant manager. But I'd put it like this: she sees only what's gone, I see only what's stayed the same. Her hair is no longer halfway down her back or pulled..
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Alice was surprised. In her worldview, everything was hopeless, but you just had to get on with it. And there wasn't much point changing what you believed at this late stage of the game.
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Better to take life seriously, and reach for light solutions. Satire, for instance; or suicide. Why did people hold so fast to life, that thing they were given without being consulted? All lives were failures, in Alice's reading of the world, and Jane's platitude about turning failure into art was fluffy fantasy. Anyone who understood art knew that it never achieved what its maker dreamt for it. Art always fell short, and the artist, far fr..
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Bespoleznoe eto zaniatie - pridavat' veshcham smysl i znachenie, kotorykh v nikh net.
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anchh drnhyt bh yd myawry hmyshh `yn hmn chyzy nyst khh khwd shhdsh bwdhy.
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Lich su khong phai la nhung doi tra cua ke chien thang, nhu toi tung lien thoang bao dam voi thay Joe Hunt Gia ; gio thi toi da biet dieu do roi. Dung hon thi no la ky uc cua nhung ke song sot, ma phan lon chang chien thang cung khong chien bai.
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Julian Barnes |
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As veces penso que o sentido da vida e desgastarnos para reconciliarnos coa sua perda final, demostrandonos que, a marxe do tempo que lle leve, a vida non esta en absoluto a altura da sua propia fama.
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Julian Barnes |
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Back then, things were plainer: less money, no electronic devices, little fashion tyranny, no girlfriends. There was nothing to distract us from our human and filial duty, which was to study, pass exams, use those qualifications to find a job, and then put together a way of life unthreateningly fuller than that of our parents, who would approve, while privately comparing it to their own earlier lives, which had been simpler, and therefore s..
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khi ta tre va nhay cam, cung la luc ta hay di gieo dau don nhat
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young-adult
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trykh drwGhy Trf pyrwz nyst, byshtr khTrhhy bzmndgn st khh khthrshn nh pyrwz bwdhnd w nh shkhstkhwrdh.
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Julian Barnes |
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The conservative, the slow-witted and the envious existed in every profession.
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What had Old Joe Hunt answered when I knowingly claimed that history was the lies of the victors? "As long as you remember that it is also the self-delusions of the defeated." Do we remember that enough when it comes to our private lives?"
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life
memories
memory
time
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We may choose to freeze a moment and say that it all 'began' then, but as an historian I have to tell you that such labelling is intellectually indefensible. What we are looking at is almost always a replica, if that is the locally fashionable term, of something earlier. There is no prime moment.
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Julian Barnes |
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Vivimos como si la memoria fuese una consigna de equipajes bien construida y atendida por un personal eficiente.
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Julian Barnes |
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Op het erf van de boerderij zag je soms de meest onwaarschijnlijke vormen van verbondenheid - de gans verliefd op de ezel, het katje veilig spelend tussen de poten van de vervaarlijke kettinghond. En op het erf van de mensheid bestonden vormen van verbondenheid die al even onwaarschijnlijk, en toch, voor de betrokkenen, nooit absurd waren.
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jyy khwndh bwdm gr mykhwhyd mrdm bh anchh mygwyyd twjh khnnd, Sdytn r blnd nkhnyd, blkhh arm Hrf bznyd.
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specific fund, you see. It's a sort of general fund. Because at some point everyone wants to run away from their life. It's about the only thing human beings have in common.
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time's many paradoxes. For instance: that when we are young and sensitive, we are also at our most hurtful; whereas when the blood begins to slow, when we feel less sharply, when we are more armoured and have learnt how to bear hurt, we tread more carefully.
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But then lovers always assume that people are on their side.
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And in your opinion, the notion that everything works out in the end, and the counter-notion that nothing ever does, are both equally banal.
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Julian Barnes |
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finding another woman can bring an exceptional clarity of mind to a man all of a sudden.
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Julian Barnes |
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What he didn't - or couldn't - tell Joan was his terrifying discovery that love, by some ruthless, almost chemical process, could resolve itself into pity and anger.
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Julian Barnes |
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Sad sex is the saddest sex of all.
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the littleness of life that art exaggerates"?"
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Daha once bir araya getirilmemis iki kisiyi bir araya getirebilirsiniz. Bu bazen atesle calisan bir balona, hidrojenle calisan bir balonu baglamanin su ilk denemesinde oldugu gibi bir seydir; yere cakilip yanmayi mi yeglersiniz yoksa yanip yere cakilmayi mi? Ama bazen de deneme basarilir ve yeni bir sey yaratilir dunya degisir.
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those photographs taken from lunar orbit, in which our planet looks more or less like any other planet (except to an astronomer): silent, revolving, beautiful, dead, irrelevant.
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Julian Barnes |
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What happened to the truth is not recorded.
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Most of us have only one story to tell. I don't mean that only one thing happens to us in our lives: there are countless events, which we turn into countless stories. But there's only one that matters, only one finally worth telling. This is mine. Perhaps this is an illusion all lovers have about themselves: that they escape both category and description.
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Privately, the three of us examined his case and came up with a theory: that the key to a happy family life was for there not to be a family--or at least, not one living together. Having made this analysis, we envied Adrian the more.
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The panic takes some to God, others to despair, some to charitable works, others to drink, some to emotional oblivion, others to a life where they hope that nothing serious will ever trouble them again.
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Julian Barnes |
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He didn't go to church. He read The Times and the Telegraph. He had been friendly and polite with me, but also sarcastic and rude; mainly, I would say, indifferent. He seemed to be cross with life.
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I nodded to him with the authority of a young academic approving a peasant.
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Julian Barnes |
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It seems to me that when you are young, you think about sex most of the time, but you don't reflect on it much
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young-sexuality
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Most of us have only one story to tell. I don't mean that only one thing happens to us in our lives: there are countless events, which we turn into countless stories. But there's only one that matters, only one finally worth telling. This is mine.
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For most of us, the first experience of love, even if it doesn't work out--perhaps especially when it doesn't work out--promises that here is the thing that validates, that vindicates life. And though subsequent years might alter this view, until some of us give up on it altogether, when love first strikes, there's nothing like it, is there? Agreed?
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love
promises
vindication
vindication-across-time
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Love, he had ventured, was like the vast and sudden uncreasing of a lifelong frown.
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And one other thing: don't ask me about the weather. I don't much remember what the weather has been like during my life. True, I can remember how hot sun gave greater impetus to sex; how sudden snow delighted, and how cold, damp days set off those early symptoms that eventually led to a double hip replacement. But nothing significant in my life ever happened during, let alone because of, weather. So if you don't mind, meteorology will play..
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weather
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My parents' marriage, to my unforgiving nineteen-year-old eye, was a car crash of cliche. Though I would have to admit, as the one making the judgement, that a 'car crash of of cliche' is itself a cliche.
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humor
julian-barnes
language
the-only-story
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And perhaps I I didn't even understand the young when I was young. That could be true too.
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julian-barnes
out-of-the-loop
outsider
the-only-story
young
youth
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Nowadays, at the other end of life, I have a rule of thumb about whether or not two people are having an affair: if you think they might be, then they definitely are.
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