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So. I see where you're going--bus number 27 to a crossroads near Delphi. Look, I did not want, at any point, on any level, to kill my own father and sleep with my own mother. It's true that I wanted to sleep with Susan--and did so many times--and for a number of years thought of killing Gordon Macleod, but that is another part of the story. Not to put too fine a point on it, I think the Oedipus myth is precisely what it started off as: melo..
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clever
humor
julian-barnes
oedipal
oedipus
psychology
the-only-story
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bb711f6
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They grow up so quickly, don't they?" when all you really mean is: time goes faster for me nowadays. Margaret's"
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38ef61a
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Later--well, what came later, came later.
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julian-barnes
later
the-only-story
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Julian Barnes |
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f5973a8
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They grow up so quickly, don't they?" when all you really mean is: time goes faster for me nowadays."
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Julian Barnes |
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930002a
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Sit yourself down," Joan instructed as we reached the the fag-fogged, gin-scented den that was nominally her sitting room." --
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humor
julian-barnes
the-only-story
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ba31f07
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And first love always happens in the overwhelming first person. How can it not? Also, in the overwhelming present tense. It takes us time to realise that there are other persons, and other tenses.
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first-person
julian-barnes
language
present-tense
the-only-story
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Julian Barnes |
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d3486c7
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So (and this would have happened earlier, but I am only remembering it now): I am visiting her one afternoon.
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memory
nonlinear
storytelling
the-only-story
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128906b
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Whereas it seemed to me, back then, in the absolutism of my condition, that love had nothing to do with practicality; indeed, was its polar opposite. And the fact that it showed contempt for such banal considerations was part of its glory. Love was by its very nature disruptive, cataclysmic; and if it was not, then it was not love.
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julian-barnes
love
practicality
the-only-story
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ce59c1f
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It is only a metaphor--or the worst of dreams; yet there are metaphors which sit more powerfully in the brain than remembered events.
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julian-barnes
memory
metaphor
reality
the-only-story
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901d20b
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But that was the nature of relationships: there always seemed to be an imbalance of one sort or another.
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julian-barnes
power-dynamics
relationship-dynamics
relationships
the-only-story
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86b4123
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She has only a ghostplay on some frayed screen of memory, which she takes to be the present.
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memory
memory-loss
the-only-story
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Julian Barnes |
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3b950b4
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We end up all belonging to the same category, that of the non-young.
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Julian Barnes |
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cb18497
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And even when he guessed that the love stories of the misled and the forsaken had become a little less authentic with each retelling . . . even if this was the case, he was still moved. Indeed, he was more moved by the lives of the bereft and the unchosen than he was by stories of success in love.
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forsaken
julian-barnes
love
love-stories
the-only-story
unlucky-in-love
unrequited-love
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Julian Barnes |
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2691fb4
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The sadness of life. That was another conundrum he would occasionally ponder.
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life
sadness
the-only-story
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Julian Barnes |
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1dc8c7d
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He knew what they said of him locally: Oh, he likes to keep himself to himself. The phrase was descriptive, not judgemental. It was a principle of life the English still respected. And it wasn't just about privacy, about an Englishman's home--even a pebbledash semi--being his castle. It was about something more: about the self, and where you kept it, and who, if anyone, was allowed to fully see it.
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englishman
inner-life
julian-barnes
privacy
the-only-story
the-self
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00711e9
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The long answer was too time-consuming to give. The short answer was too painful. It went like this. It was a question of what heartbreak is, and how exactly the heart breaks, and what is left of it afterwards.
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heart
heartbreak
julian-barnes
painful
the-only-story
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Julian Barnes |
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1a98bef
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Love means never having to say you're sorry (on the contrary, it frequently means doing just precisely that). Then there were all those love lines from all those love songs, with the swooning delusions of lyricist, singer, band.
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love
love-songs
platitudes
the-only-story
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Julian Barnes |
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9f71671
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He never recorded the writer or the source: he didn't want to be bullied by reputation; truth should stand by itself, clear and unsupported.
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quotations
the-only-story
truth
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Julian Barnes |
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b7c0ad0
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His experience of life had left him with the belief that getting through the first sixteen years or so was fundamentally a question of damage limitation.
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Julian Barnes |
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c591e18
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Happiness depends necessarily on the unreality of one plane of your life: in one area ( emotional, financial, professional ), you should be living beyond your resources.
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Julian Barnes |
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ed3c04c
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If we had the choice, then there would be a question. But we don't, so there isn't. Who can control how much they love? If you can control it, then it isn't love. I don't know what you call it instead, but it isn't love.
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Julian Barnes |
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f99d5f4
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el problema de vivir mas alla de tu mejor tiempo vital, mas alla del punto en que la vida ya no reporta alegria, sino tan solo desilusion y sucesos horribles.
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Julian Barnes |
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6962eb1
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Everyone in the Village, every grown-up--or rather, every middle-aged person--seemed to do crosswords: my parents, their friends, Joan, Gordon Macleod. Everyone apart from Susan. They did either The Times or The Telegraph; though Joan had those books of hers to fall back on while waiting for the next newspaper. I regarded this traditional British activity with some snootiness. I was keen in those days to find hidden motives--preferably invo..
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e7a8938
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But if you think these are the only categories of sex that exist, you find you are mistaken. Because there is a category which you had not known to exist, something which isn't, as you might have guessed had you heard about it before, merely a subcategory of bad sex; and that is sad sex. Sad sex is the saddest sex of all.
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Julian Barnes |
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6841f61
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Juntas a dos personas que nunca habian estado juntas. A veces es como aquel primer intento de acoplar un globo de hidrogeno a otro de aire caliente: ?prefieres estrellarte y arder o arder y estrellarte? Pero a veces funciona y se crea algo nuevo y el mundo cambia. Despues, tarde o temprano, en algun momento, por una razon u otra, una de las dos desaparece. Y lo que desaparece es mayor que la suma de lo que habia. Esto es quiza matematicamen..
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66b7874
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frangibility
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015d7c6
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There is only good vodka and very good vodka--there is no such thing as bad vodka.
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Julian Barnes |
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bb8452e
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Perhaps grief, which destroys all patterns, destroys even more,: the belief that any pattern exists
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Julian Barnes |
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27d3ac6
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Cast out the beam from your own eye before you seek to extract the mote from the eye of another.
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jeolous
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927621b
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From love's absolutism to love's absolution? No: I don't believe in the cosy narratives of life some find necessary, just as I choke on comforting words like redemption and closure. Death is the only closure I believe in; and the wound will stay open until that final shutting of the doors. As for redemption, it's far too neat, a movie-maker's bromide; and beyond that, it feels like something grand, which human beings are too imperfect to de..
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closure
death
julian-barnes
love
platitudes
realism
redemption
sad
the-only-story
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08b43fe
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wqty jwnym ayndhhy mtfwty bry khwdmn myafrynym, w wqty pyr myshwym, gdhshthhy mtfwty bry dygrn.
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Julian Barnes |
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57734b4
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deliquescent.
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fossicking
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Julian Barnes |
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418a878
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Apropo, cum preferati, autodistrugerea prin lipsa cunoasterii sau prin acumularea cunoasterii de sine?
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Julian Barnes |
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0bc579f
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A common response in surveys of religious attitudes is to say something like, 'I don't go to church, but I have my own personal idea of God.' This kind of statement makes me in turn react like a philosopher. Soppy, I cry. You have your own personal idea of God, but does God have His own personal idea of you? Because that's what matters. Whether He's an old man with a white beard sitting in the sky, or a life force, or a disinterested prime ..
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god
religion
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Julian Barnes |
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4459e04
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Tek sto dodemo na svet", rekao je Flober, ,,a vec s nas pocnu da otpadaju komadici."
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428286b
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It may seem bad, Geoffrey, but you'll come out of it. I'm not taking your grief lightly; it's just that I've seen enough of life to know that you'll come out of it.' The words you've said yourself while scribbling a prescription (No, Mrs Blank, you could take them all and they wouldn't kill you). And you do come out of it, that's true. After a year, after five. But you don't come out of it like a train coming out of a tunnel, bursting throu..
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dcbf464
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Which are truer, the happy memories, or the unhappy ones? He decided, eventually, that the question was unanswerable.
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Julian Barnes |
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060d5fe
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That's to say, understanding Adrian's reasons, respecting them, and admiring him. He had a better mind and a more rigorous temperament than me; he thought logically, and then acted on the conclusion of logical thought. Whereas most of us, I suspect, do the opposite: we make an instinctive decision, then build up an infrastructure of reasoning to justify it. And call the result common sense. Did I think Adrian's action an implied criticism o..
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f9bf874
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animsanan hazlar kadar, animsanan acilar konusunda da nostaljik olmak mumkun
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4ab660a
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When we killed - or exiled - God we also killed ourselves. Did we notice sufficiently at the time? No God, no afterlife, no us. We were right to kill Him, of course, this long-standing imaginary friend of ours. And we weren't going to get an afterlife anyway. But we sawed off the branch we were sitting on. And the view from there, from that height - even if it was only the illusion of a view - wasn't so bad.
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Julian Barnes |
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2917c46
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When we are young, we invent different futures for ourselves; when we are old, we invent different pasts for others.
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Julian Barnes |
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d791f21
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Still, I'm not curious enough to find out. At this stage I prefer not to know.
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julian-barnes
the-sense-of-an-ending
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Julian Barnes |
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9101a56
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He had discovered love; but he had also begun to discover that love, far from making him 'what he was', far from spreading deep content all over him like carnation oil, would make him self-conscious and indecisive. He loved Tanya most clearly when he was away from her. When they were together, there were expectations on both sides which he was either unable to identify or couldn't respond to.
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