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The biggest problem in this country is not corruption. The problem is that there are many qualified people who are not where they are supposed to be because they won't lick anybody's ass, or they don't know which ass to lick or they don't even know how to lick an ass.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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e1af424
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There was a certain luxury to charity that she could not identify with and did not have. To take "charity" for granted, to revel in this charity towards people whom one did not know -- perhaps it came from having had yesterday and having today and expecting to have tomorrow. She envied them this."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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4b38705
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Oh, it's normal," he said, and she remembered how he had always been quick to reassure her, to make her feel better. "I was away for a much shorter time, obviously, but I was very surprised when I came back. I kept thinking that things should have waited for me but they hadn't."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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b66cfb4
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It puzzled him that she did not mourn all the things she could have been. Was it a quality inherent in women, or did they just learn to shield their personal regrets, to suspend their lives, subsume themselves in child care? She browsed online forums about tutoring and music and schools, and she told him what she had discovered as though she truly felt the rest of the world should be as interested as she was in how music improved the mathem..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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6706c06
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Because you are a girl is never a reason for anything. Ever.
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feminist
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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783b9a9
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A man is likely as a woman to be intelligent, innovative and creative. We have evolved. But our ideas of gender have not evolved very much.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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this man who ate her apple cores and turned even that into something of a moral act.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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8eedfcd
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Gender as it functions today is a grave injustice. I am angry. We should all be angry. Anger has a long history of bringing about positive change. In addition to anger, I am also hopeful, because I believe deeply in the ability of human beings to remake themselves for the better.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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19c02a4
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I was once talking about gender and a man said to me, "Why does it have to be you as a woman? Why not you as a human being?" This type of question is a way of silencing a person's specific experiences." --
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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313694c
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Some people ask: "Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?" Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general--but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Teach her that the idea of "gender roles" is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl. "Because you are a girl" is never a reason for anything. Ever."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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2cb3823
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A good education isn't the same thing as making the whole damn world something to be explained!
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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539321f
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Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general--but to choose to use the vague expression "human rights" is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women. That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human."
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gender-equality
human-rights
sexism
women
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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2c6e2b0
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Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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2de39af
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So, no, this conversation is about gender. Some people will say, "Oh, but women have the real power: bottom power." (This is a Nigerian expression for a woman who uses her sexuality to get things from men.) But bottom power is not power at all, because the woman with bottom power is actually not powerful; she just has a good route to tap another person's power. And then what happens if the man is in a bad mood or sick or temporarily impoten..
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gender
sexuality
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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bristling with half-baked knowledge from the books we had read.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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6d03021
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Teach her never to universalize her own standards or experiences. Teach her that her standards are for her alone, and not for other people. This is the only necessary form of humility: the realization that difference is normal.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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9dd5c21
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The person more qualified to lead is not the physically stronger person. It is the more intelligent, the more knowledgeable, the more creative, more innovative.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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08851b0
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I am just as human as the man.
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feminism
humanity
male
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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2830afe
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It was not a physical fatigue--he went to the gym regularly and felt better than he had in years--but a draining lassitude that numbed the margins of his mind. He got up and went out to the verandah; the sudden hot air, the roar of his neighbor's generator, the smell of diesel exhaust fumes brought a lightness to his head. Frantic winged insects flitted around the electric bulb. He felt, looking out at the muggy darkness farther away, as if..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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05df121
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We should not be asking whether a woman can "do it all" but how best to support parents in their dual duties at work and at home"
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Ojiugo wore orange lipstick and ripped jeans, spoke bluntly, and smoked in public, provoking vicious gossip and dislike from other girls, not because she did these things but because she dared to without having lived abroad, or having a foreign parent, those qualities that would have made them forgive her lack of conformity.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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e165bc8
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The knowledge of cooking does not come pre-installed in a vagina. Cooking is learned. Cooking--domestic work in general--is a life skill that both men and women should ideally have. It is also a skill that can elude both men and women.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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e70f4ed
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Hay gente que pregunta: "?Por que usar la palabra "feminista"? ?Por que no decir simplemente que crees en los derechos humanos o algo parecido?". Pues porque no seria honesto. Esta claro que el feminismo forma parte de los derechos humanos en general, pero elegir usar la expresion generica "derechos humanos" supone negar el problema especifico y particular del genero. Es una forma de fingir que no han sido las mujeres quienes se han visto e..
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derechos-humanos
feminismo
human-rights
women-s-rights
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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4fd32f5
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Each time they ignore me, I feel invisible. I want to tell them that I am just as human as the man, just as worthy of acknowledgement. These are the little things, but sometimes it is the little things that sting the most.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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17181c6
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There were people who were born with an inability to be tangled up in dark emotions, in complications, and Iloba was one of them. For such people, Obinze felt both admiration and boredom.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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d891161
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Sometimes she worried that she was too happy. She would sink into moodiness, and snap at Obinze, or be distant. And her joy would become a restless thing, flapping its wings inside her, as though looking for an opening to fly away.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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6150190
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It puzzled him that she did not mourn all the things she could have been. Was it a quality inherent in women, or did they just learn to shield their personal regrets, to suspend their lives, subsume themselves in child care?
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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2159c55
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Because you are a girl' is never a reason for anything. Ever.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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3416c4f
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There are people, she once wrote, who think that we cannot rule ourselves because the few times we tried, we failed, as if all the others who rule themselves today got it right the first time.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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14afbfe
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When we say fathers are "helping," we are suggesting that child care is a mother's territory, into which fathers valiantly venture. It is not."
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gender
parenting
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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ec794a7
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She will listen to BBC radio and hear the accounts of the deaths and the riots - "religious with undertones of ethnic tension" the voice will say. And she will fling the radio to the wall and a fierce red rage will run through her at how it has all been packaged and sanitized and made to fit into so few words, all those bodies."
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bbc
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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39e7270
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Encourage her to speak her mind, to say what she really thinks, to speak truthfully. And then praise her when she does. Praise her especially when she takes a stand that is difficult or unpopular because it happens to be her honest position. Tell her that kindness matters. Praise her when she is kind to other people. But teach her that her kindness must never be taken for granted. Tell her that she too deserves the kindness of others. Teach..
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feminism
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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d0d5f86
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I don't think love has a reason. I think love comes first and then the reasons follow.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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34927ac
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I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femininity. And I want to be respected in all my femaleness. Because I deserve to be. I like politics and history and am happiest when having a good argument about ideas. I am girly. I am happily girly. I like high heels and trying on lipsticks.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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b1ef8cb
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There were emotions she wanted to hold in the palm of her hand that were simply no longer there.
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end-of-relationship
love
on-monday-of-last-week
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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e5576ed
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Why should we be feminists? Why not egalitarians? - "Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general- but to choose to use the vague expression human rights (or egalitarians) is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender.
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nonfiction
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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0e3cd77
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that absurd idea of "men will be men," which means having a much lower standard for men."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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17235f1
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I know that they don't intend harm, but it is one thing to know something intellectually and quite another to feel it.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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323331b
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Beware the danger of what I call Feminism Lite. It is the idea of conditional female equality. Please reject this entirely. It is a hollow, appeasing, and bankrupt idea. Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You either are or you are not. You either believe in the full equality of men and women or you do not.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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7eb92b8
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Allow" is a troubling word. "Allow" is about power. You will often hear members of the Nigerian chapter of the Society of Feminism Lite say, "Leave the woman alone to do what she wants as long as her husband allows." A husband is not a headmaster. A wife is not a schoolgirl. Permission and being allowed, when used one-sidedly--and it is nearly only used that way--should never be the language of an equal marriage."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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ebc0c22
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There was a stripped-down quality to her life, a kindling starkness, without parents and friends and home, the familiar landmarks that made her who she was.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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d33f29d
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We do a great disservice to boys in how we raise them. We stifle the humanity of boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way. Masculinity is a hard, small cage, and we put boys inside this cage. We
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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d31ac3b
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They went to a fraternity house on Chestnut Street, where everyone stood around drinking vodka-rich punch from plastic cups, until Ifemelu accepted that there would be no dancing; to party here was to stand around and drink.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |